I was elated! I knew then that this would make for a wonderful theme.
Each one of us is a work in progress. We do our best in fighting life’s battles, living and loving the lives we have been blessed with. But, at times, we need such gentle reminders to help us change our perspectives on certain matters and live happier lives, free of the unnecessary burdens we carry around with us.
The first rule I write about today is:
Make peace with your past, so it won’t disturb your present.
Our life is made up of moments that affect us in a hundred different ways. Some bring with them immeasurable joy and others, insurmountable sorrow. The happy moments fill our lives with hope and positivity. They help us surge ahead with renewed enthusiasm and faith that all will be well. But, the moments that bring tears, leave us feeling hopeless, and bitter. We fight our way out of the turbulent times, praying for better days. But, rarely do we acknowledge these turbulent times for moulding us into a better version of ourselves. All we do, is curse the moment we took certain decisions, or met certain people, who brought with them heartache and despair into our lives.
We move on to the next chapter in our life, yet, we fail to let go of those bitter memories. We hold grudges against the people who may have hurt us by their words or used us for their selfish motives. All through our lives, those painful memories remain buried within our hearts, spreading poison throughout our systems. We fail to realise that the past that was, is travelling with us in our present, ruining our peace of mind and happiness. Neither do we see how those grudges ruin our relationships with the people who matter in our present.
I wonder why we do it, this holding on to the past? Why do we find it so difficult to simply let go of what was, and concentrate on what is? People hurt us, break our hearts and leave us feeling miserable. The grief is indeed unbearable. Why then, don’t we toughen our hearts up and forget all about it? Why not just deal with it like something that was destined to happen to make us aware of what is really important to our lives?
We regularly de-clutter our wardrobes, our homes, doing away with stuff we no longer use or need. Why, then, don’t we de-clutter our minds? Discard those memories that haunt us, hurt us, bring us grief. And, cherish those which are pleasant and happy and fill our hearts with laughter. Isn’t it so simple? Yes, it will bother us for a while; the empty space will leave us feeling uneasy, but we could soon fill it with good memories and happy moments that put a spring in our step, a smile on our faces!
This challenge couldn’t have come at a more opportune time! I have been reflecting upon life, trying to find ways to better myself and therefore needed some pointers to help me find the areas I need to work upon. This one here – making peace with my past – features on the top of the to-work on list! Here’s hoping this challenge not only helps the writer in me polish her craft, but also the woman in me bring out the best in herself!