The little boy loved cashews, so one day he got hold of the cashew jar, dipped his hand in it, and took a fistful of cashews, but, alas, his hand got stuck! Panic-stricken, the poor fellow tried moving his hand this way and that, but to no avail. The mouth of the jar wasn’t big enough for him to free his hand that now held the cashews. His grandmother, who was watching the entire scene unfold, suggested he let go of the cashews – that would help him out. Trusting his granny, the boy let go of the nuts and lo, he could easily free his hand! His face brightened up instantly!
The writer was prompted to draw an analogy between that tale and our life. She realised how, like the little boy, we hold on to our sorrow, anger, jealousy, envy all our life and get stuck in those bitter moments from our past. But, if we were to let go of all the bitterness, all the anger, life would be so happy!
Really, isn’t it that simple a thing? To let it go! But for us, it’s the toughest thing to do! It’s a task we would rather not undertake! We hold on to the wounds inflicted on us by our dear ones, we hold on to the anger and the bitterness and nurture it all as if our life depended on it. We allow it to haunt us night and day, gnaw at our insides, till one day it perishes everything – our joy, our peace of mind, our relationships.
I often wonder why we do it? This fostering of negative emotions of anger and envy and hatred – not for a moment do we stop to reflect upon the futility of it all! It’s not just the others who torture us with words and deeds, we do it, too, don’t we? Do we consider how their feelings take a beating when we hurl spiteful words at them? We often get forgiven, you know? But, do we forgive others? Hmm, now that’s a question quite tough to answer. Our fragile egos need to be cared for first!
You know, it’s a misconception that if we were to forgive, we would be the weaker ones. On the contrary, if we were to forgive, we would be stronger. Strong enough to understand that everyone makes mistakes, and it’s best to forgive and forget. Relationships are at stake, you know? Shouldn’t we be treasuring relationships more than our stupid egos? What good are those egos, anyway? But, relationships – ah, now those are the ones that give us our identities, bring us joy and help us through this difficult journey called life!
And, life is short. And, uncertain. Will those grudges we hold, make any sense after our people are dead and gone? It would be futile repenting for the precious time wasted on senseless arguments
that we had, for reasons that don’t even hold any weight, anymore? Words spoken in the heat of the moment are to be forgotten once the moment passes by. Move on, let go. The world hasn’t come to an end!
It isn’t easy, I know. But, whoever said life’s a bed of roses? So, just pick up the phone, call up your dear ones, clear up any misunderstanding and resolve old matters! More often than not, it is lack of communication that’s the root cause of it all. Let go of the resentment and the hatred and embrace everyone with a loving heart. Remember, we will be receiving that much love in return! Oft-heard words, eh? Well, oft-seen conflicts, too!
But, really, it’s all worth it. Just try it out. You will be overwhelmed by the love and the happiness you get at the end of it all!