If we were having coffee..

 Hello, there!

Here we are, at the end of the week, again! Time flies by so quickly…we met just seven days ago!

If we were having coffee..

 I  would enquire about your health. How have you been? Have you been taking good care of yourself? Do you exercise? Or, meditate, to keep stress at bay?
  I began walking religiously  a couple of weeks ago – a 30 minutes brisk walk after dinner. Now, I know how some studies suggest walking as an early morning exercise, as against after dinner. But, after dinner walking helps digest the food well; it helps you burn those nasty calories and helps in weight loss. Your body gets a good workout, which in turn may tire you and help you have a good night’s sleep.
  I walk because that’s the time I get to step out of the house and enjoy the cool fresh air after a long day cocooned within the four walls. My baby, Chikoo, is old and can’t be left home alone. So, it’s only after hubby returns home from work that I can step out. The fresh air and the peace of the outdoors at night comforts me. It gives me time to reflect upon the day that was and plan for the day that will soon arise in a matter of some hours.

Walking also allows me to pay attention to my breathing.  Breathing, as we all know, is the most powerful and important tool in helping us deal with the omnipresent stress. But, seldom do we give it the importance or attention it deserves. In fact, we almost forget to breathe during stressful and busy moments.
 Now, after two weeks, I have become addicted to my nightly walks and become much more conscious of my breathing. A day that ends with my walk is my idea of a perfect day!
I would suggest you try it out, if you haven’t already. And, do let me know how it feels. You ought to squeeze in some time for yourself, too!

If we were having coffee….

I would tell you about the day I came out of the closet.
I mean, my stash of accumulated cash came out of the closet.
Our respected Prime Minister, who has begun a nationwide ‘clean-up drive’, had a big role to play in it. All the money that I had amassed over the past few months in my own little piggy-bank had to be handed over to Mr. Bossy Pants (hubby) to be exchanged into smaller denominations. Now, it’s all gone into his pockets and I am left with none! Of course, it’s for me to use, too, but, it felt better when it was in my pockets!

It may sound ridiculous, this practise of stashing cash, as if Mr. Bossy Pants doesn’t give me a free hand at using the money he makes. He is large-hearted, that way. But, I, being a home maker and not earning a penny, need something I can call my own. The money was what I received as gift from my brothers on Rakshabandhan and Bhai-dooj. Money that I had planned on spending on things I desired without the need to give an account of it to Mr. BP!
  Countless women will nod their head in agreement; they, too, have had to face the very same ordeal of disclosing their stash to their respective Mr.Bossy Pants! . Tch tch..
Now,when I rue about it all, BP hands me his wallet and coaxes me to take what I want. That is sweet of him, no doubt. But, alas, he will never understand how a woman feels when she hasn’t been earning for so many years. Putting the family first had been my decision when I quit my job as a teacher. But, it has left me with a low self-esteem, because despite doing so much for the family, well, at the end of the day “it’s all about money, honey!” Isn’t it?

Ah, well, this too shall pass. My strongest support to our PM, who has the bestest interests of our nation at heart…and all that – I won’t dwell into that area too much. All I am thinking  about is when I will begin earning again! I am glad Mr. BP doesn’t visit my blog often, for this post would have him wondering why his wife thinks so much! And, of course, he wouldn’t  understand the reason behind my  low morale. Men seldom do.

  Hey, I have finished my coffee; have you finished yours? Lounge around for a while, if you wish. We could soak in  the cool breeze and enjoy some avian-orchestra, and some canine-orchestra, too!  Psst…Chikoo does not appreciate it when I talk to  a third person in his presence. He wants me to shower all my attention on him!

So,  I guess, it’s goodbye for now. Chikoo needs me.
Take care, cos I care. It’s funny how we have bonded over just two cups of coffee, is’t it? We vibe well, I see.

How was your week? How did Mr. Modi’s decision affect you? Do share with me. But, please keep it simple. I really don’t follow the intricacies of politics and economics! 

With Love


Published by shilpagupte

Do you know the secret to living a happy life? Eat. Pray. Love. Or, watch what you eat, wish well for all and fill your heart with love! That's precisely what I try to do through my blogs: 'Metanoia', the wellness blogazine, and 'Fictionista', my blog for fiction and non-fiction. Welcome to my virtual homes!

28 thoughts on “If we were having coffee..

  1. That's an interesting conversation. Media decision didn't quite affect me much… haven't really stacked up those notes.. so life goes pretty normal. Chikoo sure does want all ur attention. But that's how pets are.. like ur little child.


  2. Ramya Rao-
    And I would love to have coffee with you and walk afterwards to burn down those extra calories gulped along with the coffee. I walk in the evenings usually. And in the mornings too if I am not leaving early for work. As for cash,the unfortunate day I had withdrawn 2k which were 1000 rules notes. So had to give it away to dad with the hope I would get money back. But did not get a penny.


  3. Shilpa Gupte-
    Aww, that's so sad, Ramya! I can so understand how you must feel. But, that's life – as of now! Hope tomorrow brings along with it some hope for souls like us!
    I would enjoy having coffee with you some day and swap stories about life and its idiosyncrasies. 🙂 <3


  4. Shailaja Vishwanath-
    When are we going to meet in person? I would need an entire week just to catch up 🙂 I like the idea of post-dinner walks. Been slacking off on mine for a bit thanks to life in general.


  5. Shilpa Gupte-
    Ah, well, that's exactly what I keep wondering, too! When are we meeting in person? Some day soon, I hope, and I also hope we do have that entire week to just “catch up”!
    Take care, babe! In spite of everything, do take care of yourself! <3


  6. Vinitha Dileep-
    I am back to yoga and pilates post delivery. Only 15 minutes so far as I don't want to stress out my body and because that is all the time I am able to squeeze in for me. I do go for walk with the baby in his stroller as it helps to calm him down. 🙂
    Demonetization hasn't affected me so far as I'm not in India now, but for my mom and in-laws, they do share the troubles but it wasn't anything critical so far! I have a note of 500 with me which I think will remain as a remembrance piece. 🙂 I can very well understand your feelings on non-earning part, Shilpa. But I never feel bad to ask money from my husband as I believe that there shouldn't be any. I earnestly want to go back to work one day. Considering the baby is only 8 weeks old I will have to wait a bit longer for that to happen. One day sure!
    It was nice to chat with you, Shilpa. Thanks for the coffee. Have a good day! 🙂


  7. Shilpa Gupte-
    I am so glad to hear you are finding some time for yourself, Vinitha. It is so necessary for your peace of mind.
    Well,Vinitha, as far as asking for financial assistance from the spouse is concerned, I do ask for money from him, and he is quite magnanimous, but it's my self-respect that nags me no end these days. And, I guess it will calm down only when I get on my own feet!
    I am glad you enjoyed having coffee with me. You take care, my dear, take care of your health and do take those tiny breaks as often as possible!


  8. Rachna-
    Let's have that coffee, sister. I make some excellent brewed coffee at home. Will be fun to catch up with Chikoo and Coco. About the cash bit, I understand your pain. I've never hoarded any cash. Not when I had stopped working. Neither when I have been earning. But I understand what you say. My mum used to have her stash too. And a lot of my friends were saying the same. I already wrote on demonetization and its effects on me. 🙂

    About exercise, glad to hear about your evening walks. November slackened for me due to illnesses. Hope to go back to regular routine this December. If I don't workout, I really feel as if I am missing something.


  9. Parul-
    I take Yoga classes close to 15 days a month. I try to walk on the other days that i do not go to yoga. Another thing that I do is I cycle to yoga and I like the fresh morning air and my 15 mins of braving the traffic with a yoga mat on my back. It's fun.

    On demonetization, would you believe I had cash from my wedding? I thought those envelopes will help me on a rainy day and I work. So I could have easily saved them in my account. But I thought different. Such a funny day it was – when I got money and VT was shocked 😛 I can feel your little pain.
    Loved your post. Fun to read.


  10. Wow! Home brewed coffee! I would love to have it Rachna! And, I am sure Chikoo and Coc will love each other's company, too!
    You are good with money matters, I see! I think I will have to smarten up, too!
    I hope you get back your good health and begin exercising again and hope it all makes you feel fantastic! ❤


  11. Oh my, Parul, you do indulge in quite a lot of exercise! It's so good that you cycle and walk and practice Yoga, too!Good going!
    And, now… you stashed money you received in your marriage?!! That's unbelievable, girl! Hubby must have had a hearty laugh! ! 🙂 But, now, I am no longer going to do that! No more stashing! 🙂


  12. Nice chat that! I love yoga SHilpa and to be regular is something I always try to be. Demonetization did not have any effect on me I never use cash and hence the relief. However I had seen a number of homemakers find it difficult to exchange their cash, primarily it was money from moms place and secondly many did not have accounts of their own.
    Menaka Bharathi has recently published http://simpleindianmom.in/paleo-diet-myths-truths-know/


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