In one of my earlier posts, I mentioned how we women need to gather our army of women we can trust our life with. Women, whose shoulder we can lean on when life seems too heavy a burden; who will read our mind like no one ever will, and who will use just the right words to soothe our frayed nerves. Surprisingly, I have been meeting, and bonding, with such women like never before! I do believe that the universe listens to us, to our fervent prayers, but this was not something I had expected!
We discovered that we both were dog-mommies, in fact, we discovered a whole lot of similarities about each other – our thinking, our principles. We complement each other in a fabulous way – I am the submissive one, and she, the obstinate one – never bows down before any one – a trait I have always wished I was born with. We have been talking about everything under the sun and it feels liberating, indeed! In her, I have found my soul sister. I am hoping some of her obstinacy rubs off on me and I smarten up a bit!
I have also been bonding with a few more cousins, of late. We were close as kids, but then, life took over and we got busy. Now that we have connected (in our 40s) it makes me feel blessed to realise I am not alone. I wasn’t alone earlier, either, but, there weren’t very many people in my life I felt comfortable with. Having had some unpleasant experiences with some people I befriended, I had decided to desist from making any more new friends – a case of ‘once bitten, twice shy’, perhaps. But,with cousins, it’s a different story, altogether.
It’s easier to bond all over again with cousins, despite the huge time gap. You have spent your childhood together; they are family, and they know how crazy you are, and vice versa! There are no inhibitions as well as no ego issues when they give advice or criticise you for something. You know they mean well. You know they want you to clean up your act and to see a smile on your face. 💖
It’s a similar case with friends from childhood. For, I also happened to meet a long lost friend on Facebook! We were students at the same dance class. We weren’t best of friends, as such – she being younger, and a bit shy. But, I was in awe of that girl for her immense talent, and, also her self-effacing nature. Her bashfulness (despite being an all-rounder) that warmed my heart back then, is very much intact. We haven’t bonded big time, as yet; some day we will, for sure. But, since being friends on Fb and learning quite a bit about each other, we had a short chat today, during which she said she felt we were “soul sisters”! Isn’t that such an endearing term to use for someone you haven’t met in ages? We have hardly known each other, and, yet, surprisingly, we feel a connection!
Thank you, DP! You gave me such an awesome prompt! I had been wondering what I would write about for my Monday post! We ought to catch up, girl, and soonest! 💖
The bond I share with a few of my closest friends, including my childhood friend, my ex colleague-cum-friend, my yoga teacher-turned-friend and another dog-mommy-friend is precious to me. We don’t connect on a daily basis (the vast physical distance being an obstacle), but we know we are just a phone call away. A phone call that works wonders on our sullen moods, leaving us feeling charged up and cheery!
I have a band of sisters, who I know will pick me up were I to trip and fall; who will be with me through thick and thin; who will be ever ready to swap some gossip, as well as knock some sense in me were I to act like a complete imbecile!
The bond that I share with a few of my blogger friends whom I met over the past couple of years is also something I treasure. For, a writer leads a lonely life – well, it’s only in the quiet of our solitude that inspiration strikes. But, at times, the ghost of ‘Writer’s Block’ haunts us days on end, and that’s when we can count on our blogger friends to help pull us out of that frightening abyss. I have a chosen few gal pals who I have come to depend on, and who, though physically far, in the virtual world, are but a click away. I know I can count on them for some exciting writing ideas, as well as some much-required technical support.
I feel a spring in my step, a joy in my heart, which (believe me) was sorely missing for a long time, now! For the last so many years, life was… oh well, let’s talk about that some other day.
For now, I have a very loving, dependable army of soul sisters in my life. Women who are fighters and achievers in their own right; women who have weathered many a storm and emerged braver; women I know I can learn a lot from. And, well, that makes me ecstatic! And, lucky!
Do you have your army of women you can call on in your time of need, or just to chill with? I am sure you do, but, if you don’t, then start gathering them now, for you are definitely going to need them. Believe me!