The Pakistani Bride – Book Review.

I had been on quite a long reading hiatus, which, fortunately, ended last week. I bought not one, but three books of varied genres to begin afresh. I wrote about Love stories, an anthology edited by Ruskin Bond, and,  I let you go‘, by Clare Mackintosh. In today’s post, I review the third book, ‘The Pakistani Bride’, by the internationally acclaimed  author, Bapsi Sidhwa.

Her books have been translated and published in several languages and she has received many an honour for her literary works. As humbled as I feel reviewing her book, I hope I am able to do justice to her work. So, help me God.

The Pakistani Bride  is the story of Zaitoon, a little girl orphaned during the exodus that was the Partition of India and Pakistan. The bloodbath that led to a complete annihilation of the fabric of our country left countless families shattered and destructed.

The following two lines  paint an accurate picture of  the aftermath of the Partition, of people’s struggle to leave all their belongings behind to cross over to the other side – the side that now belonged to them:

   The train glides through the moon-hazed night, with a solid mass of humanity clinging to it like flies to dung.  From time to time a figure loses its hold, or is forced off and drifts like discarded rubbish.  A cry, then silence. 

So, it was during their flight from this side of the border that five year old Zaitoon loses her parents at the hands of the butchers that men had turned into. She is adopted by Qasim, a tribal belonging to the hills of Kohistan, who is also fleeing to the other side of the border.  Qasim  finds his way to Lahore where he, with the assistance of his new-found friend, pehelwaan Nikka, sets up a house for himself and his ‘daughter’.

The story traverses through the formative years of Zaitoon, who is looked after like a daughter by Nikka’s childless wife, Miriam.  It also follows Nikka’s escapades with the law, and his and Qasim’s rise from their humble beginnings.

The story takes a break when Zaitoon reaches the “marriageable age” of sixteen; when Qasim, whose heart still beats for his Kohistan, for the hills that were his home, decides to give his daughter’s hand in marriage to a tribesman. A decision that inspires in him the hope of seeing his adopted daughter become a part of his history, his land. A decision that finds disapproval from his friend Nikka and his wife, Miriam.

Here, the author introduces new characters in the form of the suave Pakistani army man, Farukh, his American wife, Carol and Major Mushtaq. I did get puzzled as to how these characters would contribute to the story of Zaitoon, but the author has introduced every character with such care; etched every character in such a way, each one plays an important part in the main story.

Zaitoon, with dreams galore about the hills and her impending marriage, travels with her father all the way to his land. Brought up in a society that secludes the women, Zaitoon finds the prospect of marriage, and living with a man stirring feelings within her. Feelings she had only  fantasised about in the privacy of her mind, her heart.

Alas, little does she or Qasim foresee their dreams coming crashing  down with the beginning of Zaitoon’s  new  life with Sakhi, her tribal husband.  The story takes you through the nightmare that becomes Zaitoon’s life; a nightmare you wish reached an end soon.

The story is riveting  till the very end. It stays with you long after you have turned over the last page of the book. In that, it leaves one perturbed at the position women have been allocated in our society.  I finished reading it in two days; the suspense left me disconcerted. What lay in store for Zaitoon? was the question that gnawed at me each time I put the book away.

The life of women in certain countries is pathetic, is what we like to believe.  But, the bitter fact is that, the life of women in every country is really the same. Be it India, Pakistan, the Middle East, The US of A, or the European nations. Crimes against women occur because “we ask for it”, is the popular belief worldwide.  The exploitation, the  enslavement, the harassment, the injustice, is all because it’s a man’s world. However much the feminists might scream for justice and equality from the roof tops, life for women will be the same as it has been for a countless years now – abject and pitiable.

The book, ‘I let you go’, had its female protagonist – an American woman and an artist – suffering at the hands of her abusive and jealous husband, the kind of man who is found in Bapsi Sidhwa’s story, too. Zaitoon’s husband, a man of the hills, rather, a savage, makes life hell for his young bride. What follows is…what you ought to read. No spoilers in my reviews!

Bapsi Sidhwa is an outstanding writer, who has brought alive every character in her story. Her characters have layers to their personalities; layers that get peeled off one by one during the course of the story. The incidents during the Partition, the turmoil and the ensuing tragedy that befell the citizens of both the countries has been depicted so beautifully, you feel like you belong to that era, that you are witnessing every incident as it takes place! The pain of the women, be it Zaitoon, Miriam, Carol or the countless women suffering the atrocities at the hands of their men is palpable and your heart goes out to them, making you wish you could change their destinies.

I would urge you all to read this book. Read it so you feel the plight of women across continents; women, who fall prey to the tyranny of their men, regardless of the society/community they belong to.  Men are the same all over the world! This statement may reek of misandry, but, isn’t it a fact?  Barring a few, the majority are aware of, and wield, the power they have over their women. This book is bound to leave a lasting impression on your mind, and an ache in your heart that refuses to subside with time.

Have you read a book detailing the lives of oppressed women like Zaitoon? Do you think we women have better destinies in store for us; do you think the situation will ever change? Do share with me.



Published by shilpagupte

Do you know the secret to living a happy life? Eat. Pray. Love. Or, watch what you eat, wish well for all and fill your heart with love! That's precisely what I try to do through my blogs: 'Metanoia', the wellness blogazine, and 'Fictionista', my blog for fiction and non-fiction. Welcome to my virtual homes!

28 thoughts on “The Pakistani Bride – Book Review.

  1. This was the book you had mentioned on my blog, isn't it? Nice of you to write a review. It sure sounds like an interesting read. I shall add it to my TRB list 🙂


  2. Wonderful review Shilpa! I have time and again told many of my so called feminist friends that what we are fighting against is nothing compared to what women in some parts of the world are actually going through! And here I can exactly see the situation. I would want to read this book for sure!


  3. I like books where characters are well developed. Though the story seems too bleak and dismal for my taste. I'll probably sink into a depression on reading this book. I tend to get personally involved with the characters.
    You have reviewed it very well, Shilpa. Wish you a Happy New Year! See you around.


  4. That was such a heartfelt review – just what a good book deserves. I read it some time ago and loved it. Khaled Hosseini's Thousand Splendid Suns has a similar theme. Despite these stories I am hopeful that women will improve their lot because they have started shaping their own destines even though it is in small measure. It may take a long long time but we'll get there.


  5. Lovely review, Shilpa. Your prose is so good that it's good enough to become a book in itself.

    It must have been crushing beyond words for people during the partition. You've brought out their pain superbly. Will recommend it to women as a TBR.


  6. Oh Shilpa, a really heartfelt and moving review. And I think for sure a book I would really need to read. could relate to some, and a theme I think is very important. lots of love my friend


  7. Lovely review, Shilpa. I have read many books like these. Some of them make me very sad as I wonder when normal, common things will become accessible to women like simple decisions about their lives.


  8. Chicky, I too get personally involved with the characters I read about, so I can understand when you say you might get depressed, but it's a story that could be the story of a countless women; one which we ought to read and consider ourselves luckier.


  9. Coming from a book reviewer of your stature, I am honoured to hear that I reviewed the book well, Tulika! Thank you so much!
    Yes, I too believe that the scene will improve, but as you said, it's going to take a long time for that to happen.


  10. True, Vishal, I just cannot imagine the kind of turmoil people experienced during the Partition days. We ought to count our blessings for being born in a free and much more peaceful era.
    Thank you so much for your lovely words, Vishal! I am just trying to better myself! 🙂


  11. Thank you so much, Eli! You always have the sweetest words for my posts! Makes me feel wonderful! <3
    Do read this book, if you can find it. I know you will be able to relate to it.


  12. a great review, Shilpa. The story is so intriguing that I can’t stop wondering what might have happened in Zaitoon’s life. Also, this will be my first book on anything related to Pakistan or the religion as a whole. Muslim religion, Urdu language, and their culture has always captivated me and made me want to know more. This looks like a great start. Thanks much for the review. Book added to my tbr and your blog to my reading list. 🙂

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    1. Thank you so much, Rashi!
      The book does give us a clear picture of how lucky we are living here, in India. I don’t mean to hurt sentiments, but the life Zaitoon leads breaks your heart, as a woman.
      If you can, do read stories of women from the middle East, as well as Afghanistan.
      1. Not without my daughter.
      2. Princesses of Arabia.
      and some more will leave you dumbstruck.

      Thank you for your kind words, Rashi! I am honoured!


  13. Such a well written review that it makes the story come alive.
    Do read her other novel which is as interesting called “Ice Candyman” that looks at the Partition from a Parsi child’s perspective.

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