However, regretfully so, we realise that as time passes, our resolve slackens. The resolutions we made have begun moving down our priority list even before the first month of the new year is a few days old. Ever so stealthily, our vows have been nudged aside as life, real life, takes precedence over superficial things, like resolutions. Who, in the history of mankind, has ever stuck to the vows he made on an impulse on a new year’s eve, when fireworks burst into a myriad colours and blinded us to the realities of life? The wild frenzy that engulfed us on New Year’s Eve had us making promises galore; how we were swept away by the energy surrounding us, we were oblivious to the words we spouted!
Still, a promise is a promise, so think some of us as we mask our guilt with nervous laughter. Our conscience seldom lets us rest in peace! So, we reach for those vows that now lie somewhere in the waste basket; dusting away the thin film of carelessness that has settled on them, we place them up on the mantelpiece, where we can view them clearly, night and day. We reassure ourselves that we have it in us to do it; shutting up the nagging voice of discouragement that threatens to break our resolve, we move ahead in the direction of our goals.
A very noble deed, indeed, since it was for us that we had promised to change. For the person with whom we shall be spending the rest of our lives – ourselves. But, do we realise the amount of hard work and courage that is really needed to fulfil certain vows we make to ourselves? The weight that needs to be brought under control, the career change that needs to be worked on, the ex who needs to be gotten over for good, the finances that need to be reworked so they stand us in good stead – it all requires courage and commitment and efforts. Loads of efforts.
Our psyches get attuned to our thinking and our behaviour over a period of time. ergo, when one fine day we work up the guts to change ourselves, we find it difficult to follow the new commands. We were so well ensconced in our earlier habits that developing new habits seems like mission impossible. That earlier life felt as cozy as the worn blanket that keeps us warm during cold, wintry nights; why do we need to let go of that blanket? Why not snuggle up in that blanket of warm memories a little longer? Old habits die hard, don’t they?
But, die, they must, else how will we work towards that better future we foresee? It is a necessity, setting out on this new adventure, for that’s how we will see the world, learn about ourselves, our strength and our weaknesses that need to be worked upon.
So, pull up your socks, roll up your sleeves and get ready to get dirty – for that’s how you strike gold; that’s how you achieve success in fulfilling your dreams. Nothing ever comes easy, therefore, toil we must. Nothing lasts forever, therefore let go, we must. It will be difficult, that I promise. But, it will all be worth it. The new YOU who will emerge at the end of it, will be the YOU you will be proud of! And, this, too, I promise!
I began working on some changes I wish to see in myself way before the new year began. I didn’t consider waiting for a certain day to turn over a new leaf. But, it hasn’t been easy. I have to keep reminding myself that I am not to look back wistfully at the beautiful days gone by, instead I need to look ahead at the really magnificent days that await me. So, I have to keep going, keep fighting.
Have you resolved to bring about changes in your life? How are you finding the journey? What do you do to keep going ahead? Do share with me…I would love to hear about it.