What do you do when you find your days dull and gloomy? What do you do when you find your effervescence forsaking you and your mood turning towards the nasty blues? What is it that you do to lift your spirits when feeling all crappy and sick?
I put on my dangling earrings. The danglier the better. That’s something I have discovered that helps put me in the right mood all over again. Let’s admit it. A homemaker’s life can be utterly boring, at times. The mornings are sure busy and rushed, but once you have bidden goodbye and “have a lovely day!” to one and all, you turn around to face an empty house, pin-drop silence and a load of dirty dishes and unwashed laundry and whatnot.
Your first instinct is to just drop into the nearby couch and doze off. Forget all the damned chores and just put your feet up; play some soothing music, or curl up with that dogeared book that has been lying on the bookshelf since months. Or, maybe pour yourself a glass of wine (In the morning? Sure, why not! Who’s watching!? 😜), tip your head on the cushion and just soak in the peace. But, alas, you know you can’t afford to do that. You will be wasting precious minutes, and before you know it, it will be evening, with your little ones returning from school. Your morning unfinished chores will still be glaring at you in the eye, but all you would want to do is chat with your precious ones about how they spent their day at school.
At times, your body feels sore, you have the PMS blues, or the loathsome perimenopausal mood swings, or just a lackadaisical day. Well, we can’t be cheerful and in high spirits each day, everyday, now, can we? But, with whom do we share our misery? A phone call to our bestie does pep us up a bit, but then, what if she isn’t available? Or, what if the pep talk doesn’t work, either? What if your bestie is having a bad day, too?
I have experienced it all, as have you, and have come to the conclusion, that it’s not something you can crib about to anyone, not even to your better half ( they have better things to do, and moreover, we are now grownups, we can’t expect any molly-coddling from them, can we?). It all rests in our hands, this cheering ourselves up to carry on with life and her sundry chores.
And, for me, the one thing that never fails to do the trick, is my dangling earrings! Wait, should it be are my dangling earrings? But, if it’s are instead of is, then, ah, I digress. Leave the grammar be! We were discussing things that perk us up in a jiffy. Mine are my dangling earrings. Trivial though it may seem, this little piece of jewellery can work wonders on my exhausted mind and body.
This cheap trinket has a slight tinkle that reaches my ears each time it sways as I walk around. It brushes against my neck, kisses me behind my ears and puts a spring in my step! All the lethargy that had invaded my entire being some time ago, vanishes in no time and I feel a rush of adrenalin as I move about energetically, completing the chores.
In no time I am a free bird, with an impressive amount of time at my disposal, to do as I please! The mood swings do loiter around in the background, but I just give them a royal snub. The boredom does threaten to return as it skulks at the periphery, because household chores are a never-ending entity, and come evening there will be another mountain load of stuff to do. But, I push it further away from its position at the periphery and settle down with my happy spirits, thanks to my dangling trinkets, planning a wonderful day ahead.
At times, I put on my brown lipstick, too! I know, one might feel why play dress-up at home, when you can just play a ragbag and pass your boring day! After all, who is there to give you an admiring look? But, that’s where the secret lies! WE give ourselves that much needed admiring look! WE play our own cheer-leaders! We dress up a bit, paint our lips, and our nails. add some bling to the dull and dreary pyjamas and just feel good…for ourselves! It’s something that will never fail to do it’s magic. Trust me. Try it out for yourselves, if you haven’t yet.
So what if lipstick and jewellery won’t go with the worn pyjamas and the faded t-shirt! It will go with your attitude, and that’s what matters, isn’t it? So, girls, go ahead and dress up, even if you have nowhere to go. Dress up for yourselves and watch your smile light up your mood. It’s instant gratification, playing dress-up. Who doesn’t like looking their best? Hmm?
And, if we don’t hold ourselves together, who will?
What is it that peps you up when you are down in the dumps? What is it that cheers you in no time and puts the smile back where it belongs – on your lips? Do share with me….I would love to hear all about your tips and tricks!