The Bucket List.

 

Life happens when we are busy planning life.

Death comes knocking, too, when we are busy planning life.

We go about our life, rushing from one plan to  the next, proudly patting our back on how efficient a planner we are, and how foresighted, too!

And, just when we think we have mastered the art of living, bang! A bomb drops on our happy paradise, out of the blue. An illness, or an accident, and we find ourselves with an ultimatum handed to us by Life.

“A few months, maybe” ,  says She.   She, as in Life, Herself. She has decided that we have had enough – enough of running around, enough of bragging about our expertise on handling life, enough of existing. And now, it’s time to pack up and leave.

Leave for the beyond. 

The said bomb  causes destruction all over. First, there’s utter disbelief (What? How can I die so soon? I have hardly even ‘lived’!), and bitterness (God, this is just not done, okay?) then, denial (This can’t be happening to me! There must be some mistake!!) *haha*,   and finally,  extreme panic (What will I do? How will my family cope? What about my plans? How am I supposed to wrap up things in 6 months?).

Why am I saying all these things, you ask? Well, there’s a reason.

Last week I saw the film, The Bucket List. A heartwarming as well as a heart-rending  tale of two men who become friends in the hospital they have been admitted to.

Diagnosed with Cancer  – the metaphor for death – they are given 6 months to an year, at the most, to live. They do have the choice of experimental drugs that might help.

Accepting it and living their last days with the knowledge, is the only choice they really have. Do they go along with the plans Life has made for them? Do they accept it all gracefully and bravely, and decide to live their last moments looking for the happiness that eluded them all their life?

If you have seen the movie, you will know and agree, that the decisions they made were the best. They did not lie crying and cursing their fate those 6 months. They decided to live. 

A friend shared these words on Facebook today…

Don’t just exist. LIVE!” 

But, do we? Really live?

Many of us do. And, I am in awe of these people. But, most of us, sadly, simply exist. We only begin living when we reach situations like the above, when we find ourselves on the threshold. Suffice it to say, we, belonging to the latter category, need to join those in the former, and learn to  live. 

And, like those two men in the movie, prepare a Bucket List and start ticking things off one by one. Who knows, death might be just round the corner! I am not being a  pessimist, mind you. I am  just being practical.  We did not arrive with a ‘Live by’ date, did we?

So, I drew up a Bucket List for myself –  a very short one, really. What if Madame Death sends me a ‘notice’ some day, urging me  to ‘wrap things up’ and get ready to leave? Of course, She doesn’t always send a notice. At times, She just arrives and whisks us away, without a second to say our goodbyes! And, She is never late!

*Gulp*

Doesn’t that make you nervous?

Anyway, so, about the Bucket List. It is quite a simple one. Nothing like, skydiving/scuba diving here. I am petrified of heights and I cannot swim. And, I am not even interested in doing either of those. Just simple stuff that will make me truly happy.

So, here goes…

Meet your friends, as in your virtual friends, who have now become an important part of your life. They are the ones who  guided you, supported you and encouraged you through these past few years. It’s because of them that you found your ‘calling card’ – your passion, blogging.

Go on a solo trip. Any place will do. Just  go. Gather your courage and have faith in the world. I know, it will be the most daring act by you, so far. But, it’s something you need to do. For yourself.

Learn to bake like a pro.

Find a dog shelter/animal shelter you can visit and spend some time with those  darlings, as a tribute to Chikoo, perhaps. They really don’t have many humans doing that.

Stop being a recluse and an introvert. Get talking. You can’t keep mum all your life! Try giving a speech, for starters. Speak your mind without fear, just like you write without fear!

And, lastly, learn to live. Live every moment – be it a good one, or a not-so-good one. Experience every nuance of every moment you live, so that, when your time comes, you can go a contented and peaceful soul.

So, that’s it.

That’s my little bucket list. Easy, doable. Sorta!

I know, Life must be chuckling while reading this list of mine. She must have made plans of Her own, for sure. But, until those plans are put into action, I will try and (hopefully) put my own plans into action, so, help me God!

So, have you made a bucket list? What is it that figures topmost on it? Do share with me, I would love to know!

 

Love,

SHILPA…

 

Image source: PIXABAY

 

 

 

 

22 Replies to “The Bucket List.”

  1. I have already made a bucket list. It has all the things I want to learn. And I also want to watch lot of movies. That’s in the bucket list too. So the next movie I am going to watch is ‘The Bucket List’ I didn’t know about it. Thanks for sharing.

    Liked by 1 person

  2. I don’t like bucket lists. Because, the moment I write it down, I am sure that it will not happen. I plan to go with the flow. But, of course, my one wish is to make a difference in someone’s life without expecting anything in return. Bucket lists just restrict us from exploring life. My thoughts.

    Liked by 1 person

  3. One of my favourite movies! Think I wrote about it too. Ages ago on a now-dead blog.

    It makes you think, slow down and evaluate what matters. That’s the beauty of death. Carpe diem or seize the day. It’s all you have. I admire your list.

    I did make a bucket list, long ago. Need to fish it out and check what, if any, of those I have managed. I’m finally at peace now, Shilpa. No more stress. I am at a point where if I had to due tomorrow, I will go happily. Maybe the 40s do that to you.

    This was a good post. You’re really coming into your own in the writing space 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Shailaja, that’s just how I too feel these days. That, if Death does come knocking, I am ready. No fear, whatsoever. I mean, there’s really nothing to fear about, we all have to go someday!

      Thank you for your words, Shy! They mean so much to me, especially when they come from a writer of your stature!

      Like

  4. This was one of my favourite movies and even though I haven’t made a list , I do have a sort of list that I tick off . Luckily I’ve had the opportunity to do most things that I want/wanted to do so if I die just now , I will die content . Not that I want to die, but I doubt I’ll have any wishes unfulfilled. That’s because I believe that life happens no matter what and whatever happens is meant to be so.
    I do hope you manage to fulfill all your wishes …. they do come true you know.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Yes, hdpreeti. it’s the simple things that generally get forgotten and that’s why I added those to my list. So, I don’t forget those that give me true happiness! 🙂

      Thank you for visiting! 🙂

      Like

  5. Loved the movie. It prompted me to make a bucket list. I have started ticking off tasks done, one by one. First on it was my solo trip to Ladakh 🙂 Next is a cruise. You have a beautiful bucket list. May you live to be a 100 and continue writing and spreading love all around

    Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s