Life happens when we are busy planning life.
Death comes knocking, too, when we are busy planning life.
We go about our life, rushing from one plan to the next, proudly patting our back on how efficient a planner we are, and how foresighted, too!
And, just when we think we have mastered the art of living, bang! A bomb drops on our happy paradise, out of the blue. An illness, or an accident, and we find ourselves with an ultimatum handed to us by Life.
“A few months, maybe” , says She. She, as in Life, Herself. She has decided that we have had enough – enough of running around, enough of bragging about our expertise on handling life, enough of existing. And now, it’s time to pack up and leave.
Leave for the beyond.
The said bomb causes destruction all over. First, there’s utter disbelief (What? How can I die so soon? I have hardly even ‘lived’!), and bitterness (God, this is just not done, okay?) then, denial (This can’t be happening to me! There must be some mistake!!) *haha*, and finally, extreme panic (What will I do? How will my family cope? What about my plans? How am I supposed to wrap up things in 6 months?).
Why am I saying all these things, you ask? Well, there’s a reason.
Last week I saw the film, The Bucket List. A heartwarming as well as a heart-rending tale of two men who become friends in the hospital they have been admitted to.
Diagnosed with Cancer – a metaphor for death – they are given 6 months to an year, at the most, to live. They do have the choice of experimental drugs that might help.
Accepting it and living their last days with the knowledge, is the only choice they really have. Do they go along with the plans Life has made for them? Do they accept it all gracefully and bravely, and decide to live their last moments looking for the happiness that eluded them all their life?
If you have seen the movie, you will know and agree, that the decisions they made were the best. They did not lie crying and cursing their fate those 6 months. They decided to live.
A friend shared these words on Facebook today…
“Don’t just exist. LIVE!”
But, do we? Really live?
Many of us do. And, I am in awe of these people. But, most of us, sadly, simply exist. We only begin living when we reach situations like the above, when we find ourselves on the threshold. Suffice it to say, we, belonging to the latter category, need to join those in the former, and learn to live.
And, like those two men in the movie, prepare a Bucket List and start ticking things off one by one. Who knows, death might be just round the corner! I am not being a pessimist, mind you. I am just being practical. We did not arrive with a ‘Live by’ date, did we?
So, I drew up a Bucket List for myself – a very short one, really. What if Madame Death sends me a ‘notice’ some day, urging me to ‘wrap things up’ and get ready to leave? Of course, She doesn’t always send a notice. At times, She just arrives and whisks us away, without a second to say our goodbyes! And, She is never late!
Doesn’t that make you nervous?
Anyway, so, about the Bucket List. It is quite a simple one. Nothing like, skydiving/scuba diving here. I am petrified of heights and I cannot swim. And, I am not even interested in doing either of those. Just simple stuff that will make me truly happy.
So, here goes…
Meet your friends, as in your virtual friends, who have now become an important part of your life. They are the ones who guided you, supported you and encouraged you through these past few years. It’s because of them that you found your ‘calling card’ – your passion, blogging.
Go on a solo trip. Any place will do. Just go. Gather your courage and have faith in the world. I know, it will be the most daring act by you, so far. But, it’s something you need to do. For yourself.
Work on your art, especially, the Mandala and illustrations.
Find a dog shelter/animal shelter you can visit and spend some time with those darlings, as a tribute to Chikoo, perhaps. They really don’t have many humans doing that.
Stop being a recluse and an introvert. Get talking. You can’t keep mum all your life! Try giving a speech, for starters. Speak your mind without fear, just like you write without fear!
And, lastly, learn to live. Live every moment – be it a good one, or a not-so-good one. Experience every nuance of every moment you live, so that, when your time comes, you can go a contented and peaceful soul.
So, that’s it.
That’s my little bucket list. Easy, doable. Sorta!
I know, Life must be chuckling while reading this list of mine. She must have made plans of Her own, for sure. But, until those plans are put into action, I will try and (hopefully) put my own plans into action, so, help me God!
So, have you made a bucket list? What is it that figures topmost on it? Do share with me, I would love to know!