I had heard about people choosing a particular word to welcome the new year with. A word to inspire them, show them the way and boost their morale throughout the year. I hadn’t given it much thought, until last night when I decided I, too, needed something to guide me. Something to inspire me to keep doing my best and never lose sight of my goals, despite all the uncertainties.
My mother, who has been my idol, always insists on being hopeful, even when caught in a storm that threatens to throw our lives into disarray. A tiny word with a lot of strength.
And, thus I chose HOPE. Mothers can never go wrong, can they?
We humans are a fragile lot. A tiny push from Life is, at times, enough to leave us distraught. I know I am! Some times, when a situation comes along that tests my spirit, I do face it, no doubt, but I feel it weaken me from within. Like we do when we lose all hope. Like when we just give up the fight out of sheer frustration and accept defeat.
Holding on to hope is what we fail to remember at such times. We forget that the difficult times aren’t here to stay; that these, too, shall pass; that there is Someone out there holding our hand and guiding us through it all. And, that some day, the sun will shine bright, again.
“Umeed par duniya kaayam hai!”
Umeed, as in hope, on which the world survives. Now, that’s something we all ought to remember, always, come what may.
To never lose hope.
And, I don’t mean our faith in God/The Supreme Energy/The Almighty.
By faith, I mean the trust we have in ourselves. For, we put all our faith in the Almighty, but seldom do we trust ourselves, our resilience, our strength.
How often, when we see others succeeding in every aspect of life, do we wonder if we even have it in us to survive in this world? Our colleagues get the promotion we were pining for; our neighbour’s kids do exceedingly well at school while ours just manage to make it through to the next class; our friends manage to hit the gym despite a busy schedule and look fit and trim, while we just keep on piling the pounds even after dieting like a maniac.
Do you identify with any of the above? Go on, admit it, if you do. I know, I do.
We are humans, for heaven’s sake – imperfect, insecure, desperate to live a flawless life. Of course, we feel incapable when we compare ourselves with others. We so lose faith in ourselves, we consider ourselves a misfit. We believe we aren’t cut out for a particular role and berate ourselves for being such losers.
Simply put, we fail to recognise our abilities, our strength – all of which the Almighty has blessed us with!
A belief in ourselves, having faith in our talents, and honing those talents is what guarantees success. Comparing ourselves with others, their talents, their looks, their bodies only leads to trauma, and heart burn. Believe me…I have been there, done that. And, come out wiser.
And, therefore, FAITH.
Forgive me if I sound boastful, but, a lot of self-loathing, self-deprecation and shedding copious tears made me change the way I look at myself. No, I am not completely cured of this malady – of comparing myself with others – but, the frequency is far lesser!
Thank God for that!
So, this year, I plan on carrying HOPE and FAITH in my heart, in my mind and work towards being a better person. One I will be proud of, from within.
We are all a work in progress. We are designed such, that if we stop working on ourselves, we run the risk of decaying. Making resolutions I would never be able to keep made no sense to me, and thus I chose these two words, to show me the way.
Have you chosen a word to guide you through this year, through Life?