My first Valentine.

It’s Valentine’s Day tomorrow – the Day of Love. Do I believe in it?

No.

Not since some years now. Having grown, matured and experienced Life a bit, I have reached to the conclusion that Love is just  a chemical locha (reaction ) happening in our brains that makes us do all things stupid.

I don’t intend to come across as bitter, or sceptical, but this is what I have learnt about this little word that, apparently, makes the world go round. For me, love in its purest form is what I receive from my mother, and my pet dog, Chikoo. Endless, unconditional, evergreen.

Although, back in my teens, the picture was quite different. Teenage does that to you, doesn’t it? The Youth in all its glory – fresh and vibrant – waiting to conquer the world; spurred on by progesterone and testosterone,  hungry for being in the spotlight shone by our beloved.

Ufff!

All you think about, is a tall, dark, handsome (thanks to the Mills & Boons trash) knight, zooming down the street on his motorbike (no horses in the new age!) and sweeping you off your feet! With your head forever in the clouds, you are blithely unaware of the reality that’s far removed from your fantasy world.

So, when the said knight fails to make an appearance even as V Day approaches, where does that lead you? Down the dark alley named Heartbreak even before the heart takes a fancy to someone. Ah, expectations!

That was my story, by the way, when I was a 17 year old, on the threshold of youth with butterflies dancing in my stomach, making me swoon over every Tom, Dick and Harry, who did not even give me a second glance. Ouch!

The kind of trauma that can give a fainthearted 17 year old doesn’t need to be spoken about in depth.  However, we girls often forget about the Fairy Godmother we have all been blessed with. One who waves her magical wand and drives away our sorrow, wipes away our tears.

So, it was on a Valentine’s Day years ago, that, as I returned home from college and opened the post box hung on our front gate to check for any mail, felt an envelope inside. My heart skipped a beat as I brought out the said envelope, excitedly. It was pink in colour – the colour of Love!

On its front was my address, and behind it was drawn a large question mark. My heart was somersaulting like crazy, wondering who could have sent ME a Valentine’s Day card! I was not at all the most popular girl back then, thanks to my reticence.

So, with my heart thudding in my chest, I opened the envelope with quivering hands, and what do I see? A mushy message full of love printed in the centre, and above and below it, in the prettiest handwriting I know, were written the words…

“Dearest Shilpa….with lots of love, Aai

Truth be told, I was on seventh heaven! Receiving a card on a day that celebrates love – a totally foreign concept – from my mother, was not only unbelievable, but it was awe-inspiring, as well. There was so much I had to learn  from her!

My Fairy Godmother…My angel…Aai.

Sadly, along with time, I lost that card. Yeah, makes me heartbroken! But, the memories of that day, when mother returned from school and looked at me with that knowing smile at our little secret, remains etched on my heart, to this day.

I don’t remember any other cards I may have received from boys after that day,  but this incident stays fresh as ever. In fact, it is my favourite Valentine’s Day memory, one that I will be reminding mother about tonight, when I call her up before we call it a day.

Which is your favourite Valentine’s Day memory? Whom did you receive your first V Day card from? Do share with me…

I hope this post takes you on a pleasant stroll down memory lane!

Love,

SHILPA…

 

45 Replies to “My first Valentine.”

  1. Aww this is adorable! Hugs, Shilpa and even bigger hugs to your mom 🙂 Truly our first Valentines 🙂

    Love is a beautiful concept. I truly believe that love in its purest form, makes the world go round. Love without expectation, without condition and without any trace of envy. That is the best love. We get this typically from our parents and our kids. Every other love usually has something attached to it.

    Of course, 17 years later, and with lots of maturity, I can say that my love for my husband and vice versa, is pretty close to unconditional. We live our lives together yet independently, if that makes sense 🙂 I think that’s the beauty of love 🙂

    Happy Valentine’s Day, my dear 🙂 For me, you’re one of the purest friendships out there and in my universe.

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    1. Awww…ditto, Shy!
      I think, after having spent 21 years with hubby, Love has changed its meaning. It’s more about caring, understanding, and yes, tolerating each other’s craziness! 😛

      Happy Valentine’s Day to you, too, sweetheart!

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  2. Awwww!!! This is such a cute valentine’s story…and hey Shilpa..we are more similar than we think..I used to also have crushes on every Tom Dick and Harry..and always thought mujhse kaun pyaar karega?? All those M&B and Hindi movies filled my head with stupid stuff..but they were fun days..Good post..it made me smile..your mom is such a darling😘😘😘

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    1. Hehehe….I remember Balaka how crazy I was about Mills and Boons, and now when I think about it, I wonder how I could digest all that trash! Back then, though, it was all so exciting! And, those crushes…ufff! 😛
      Yeah, my mom is my darling..my best friend…the reason I cried when I read your post today.
      Hugs, Balaka! Your mom must sure be around you, somewhere…your guardian angel!

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      1. I remember I watched the movie “Maine Pyaar Kiya” and almost though that the “perfect love” and now I can’t even watch that movie for 10 seconds..it is rubbish..I guess our hormones were responsible to make us do those crazy things..
        I am sorry to hear that my post made you cry..love you..hugs and ya I feel my mom’s presence all the time

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      2. Hheheheheh…totally agree!!!
        Maine Pyaar Kiya was like THE movie…I saw it so many times! And, me too..now can’t even imagine watching it for a few minutes! Hormones…only thing responsible for our madness!
        And, hey, why the apology? My heart went out to you while reading about you, my dear! No need for a “sorry”, babe! ❤

        Okay, just to cheer you up…
        "Madam, friendship mein no sorry, no thank you, okay?"
        😛
        Heheheheh…Maine Pyaar Kiya!

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  3. That was so very sweet! Loved that picture of the two of you. What thrill to receive a letter with a question mark. I don’t remember a Valentine at all. The one time I tried to get a gift for my Husband he said, When did you turn such an angrez!! Seriously, not a romantic bone in his body! Now with the kids around we end up celebrating every little occasion, including Valentine’s Day. This year though I haven’t planned anything at all. I’ll have to go with something spontaneous.

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    1. Hahaha..Tulika..My hubby thinks the same! He says it is not a Bharatiya concept, and why should there be just one day to celebrate love? Do you mean that the rest of the days you fight with each other? 😛
      I just wish my close friends on this day…even if i try wishing hubby, he sniggers and walks away!

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  4. Thanks for this post. Valentines Day was never celebrated in my home, and not much in my school. When I met Rob, we both agreed it was a commercial lot of rubbish (trash) and decided to ignore it. Needless to say, I often regretted that decision! Today, we usually buy each other a box of chocolates – which we share together! Thankful Thursday Week 6

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  5. That’s so so beautiful, Shilpa! ❤❤❤
    Hugs to both of you. Moms are so special, they know just the right thing to do and make us feel loved beyond words can ever express.
    This post made me remember my Mom all over again and the little lovely things she did for me.
    God bless both of you! Hugs, dear.

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  6. This is such a sweet story. Your mother was so thoughtful even all those years ago. You were one lucky girl.
    I never had a valentine on Valentine’s day so no hearts, no red colour heart shaped balloons and no letters for me, ever. I believe in love (both chemical locha and the purest form) but Valentine’s day is a far fetched idea for me. Ab to bas baal safed hone ka intezaar hai 😀

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    1. Hehehe…Anamika! Your comments crack me up! 😛
      Yes, I am grateful to God for giving me such a loving mother, who is my best friend. I thank my lucky stars each time I talk to her.
      As far as love is concerned, esp the one coming wrapped up in red hearts/cushions/balloons…that is absolute trash. It’s just a means of making money. Love, I believe, changes its meaning with time. The definition often depends upon your experience in the ‘field’! 😛

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  7. This is truly LOVE in the purest form. From your Aai the card that day, must have given you glimpse of what unconditional love is. Mother’s know how to create magic and make out best of everything.

    P.S. I also kept waited whole adolescent phase for prince charming. Mills & Boons should be banned 😂😂

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  8. Such a beautiful memory and a lovely photo to go with it! 🙂 Love between a mother and child must be the purest form of all. I certainly believe in love, but not in Valentine’s Day. In fact, during the course of our 40+ years marriage, Hubby and I have never celebrated it, because we feel it is just a fake holiday, manufactured by the retail industry. We prefer to pick our own Valentine’s Days throughout the year when it suits us, not when the calendar dictates.

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    1. That’s exactly what hubby and I do, Debbie. Hubby doesn’t believe in it and calls it a a farce, and feels that every day should be a day of love! 😛
      Exchanging cards or wishing friends on the day is something I do just for fun..:)

      Thank you so much for sharing your love story! 🙂

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  9. That was the sweetest thing you’d mum did and so cool too. Valentine’s Day brings back the memories of all those Rose Days back in college. I think all girls were popular and we all got plenty of roses which was a big boost to our teenage egos. 😊 My favorite VD memory was that of the first one after marriage with wine, roses and cake and snuggling together watching a movie. The ones after the kids are also interesting because they are so enthusiastic about doing something special. Love changes dimensions over the years. Now it is in the comfort of each other’s company. And everyday is VD with Coco. In my opinion, there is no unconditional love except for what we share with our pets. Parents, spouses, kids we all love with expectations.

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  10. Oh yes, Rachna…how can I forget those Rose Days back at college! The one or two roses I received embarrassed me, really! I would just tear the cards and throw them in the gutter! Hehehehe..

    Yes, with pets, everyday is V Day. The love that overflows from your pet’s eyes, the attention they give, makes you feel you are the centre of their Universe! Makes one feel so so special! Rest of the relationships are all need based! 😛

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  11. What a sweet one and you look just like your Aai 🙂 So much resemblance.
    I think love has many kinds. The unconditional one is what parents have for children and then pets. With everyone else, there are kinds of it. I don’t have any VD memory and I never got a card. I may have wanted one but I learnt to live with the fact that I won’t get. 😀
    Jokes apart – I think the idea of one day for love is odd for me. 😛 A very lovely post!

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    1. Awww…thank you so much, Parul! You made my day! Each time I look into the mirror, I study every angle to check if I resemble my mum. 🙂

      True, just one day for love and the rest for unrest makes no sense, does it? Maybe this one day has been marked for us to express our love for our people!

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  12. Life should be counted in the moments of joys…and this one must be a shinning gem in the timeline of your life! That was a fantastic mother daughter Valentine pair!!! Loved it. God bless you both…

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  13. That’s so sweet, Shilpa. I have received Valentine’s Day card only after becoming a mother. Kanna is the only one who has given me love cards. 😀 Even when we were dating, my then boy friend now husband, didn’t treat me extra special on this day. In fact, I felt bad about it when some work friends pointed out. But now, after all these years, I know love doesn’t spike on Valentine’s Day, we just try to express it better on this particular day, and my husband and I are just bad at following what the world follows. 😀

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    1. Hehehe….don’t worry, Vini…you aren’t alone here! My hubby doesn’t believe in the VDay thing, at all! So, no V DAy cards, or gifts, either! Oh, I do remember, once, many years ago, he gifted me banana chips on V Day! 😛 And, I loved that gift because I love banana chips! 😀

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      1. The thing is because we don’t give importance to this day, I forget the times we celebrated. Like last year, he surprised me with a pendant. He said because I was having a hard time with the new baby and everything he just felt like it. And a few years ago, Kanna and I surprised him by lighting candles all over the house when he came home. There is no rule, no expectation. We just do what we feel like. That’s all. This year we didn’t even acknowledged that there was Vday. 😁

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