C – Comments. #AtoZ

A to Z blogging challenge

A dear blogger friend, Anamika Agnihotri, once said,

“Bonding between bloggers happens in the comments section!”

How true!

It’s in the comments section that you lay bare your soul, share your feelings and your views. Maybe you  share your own experiences vis-a-vis the post, especially, if it’s a personal post. Most of my personal essays have bloggers confessing how they, too, experienced something similar and the kind of effect it had on them.

I have bonded with bloggers over the comments they have left on my posts.  Well, we are all humans, after all, sailing in the same boat!

The comment’s section is a  place where you receive suggestions, guidance, as well as quirky ideas to tackle issues that are, often,  universal in their nature.

I have also received “Nice post!” kind of comments, too – just these two words, nothing else. With time, you learn to take it all with a pinch of salt, and learn a thing or two about commenting yourself!

Now, let me confess something. I find it difficult to comment on poetry, for poetry is not my cup of tea. Initially, I would struggle to come up with respectful comments.  But with time, I learnt that analysing the piece of art  helps.

So, I read the poetry twice, even thrice, if need be, to reach the heart of the poet. Trying to read the poet’s thoughts hidden amidst those words and then constructing a worthwhile comment helps. Maybe you could write how a particular line struck a chord. Or, how interesting it was reading about a personal experience, or a theme, in verse.

Leaving behind genuine comments also ensures a visit to your blog from the blogger you visit. Believe me, if you leave behind a comment just for the heck of it, you might put off the blogger, and lose in on some precious traffic! Being sincere in commenting helps in connecting with a stranger and you stand a chance of making new friends.

From my few years of blogging experience, here’s what I learnt about the art of commenting.

Make sure you have a proper Gravatar image. It lets the blogger know who visited.

Be friendly; add a personal touch to your words. Try to make a connect.

Read the post thoroughly before you comment. If you feel you could not comprehend the post, read it again. It takes just a few minutes of your time, but your words could mean a lot to the blogger.

Share your story (in short), or an anecdote, if the topic is something you relate to.  it’s heartening  to meet kindred souls!

Pay sincere compliments. DO NOT go overboard with the praise.

DO NOT leave behind links to your posts with a “Great post! Do visit me!” That’s bad manners, especially if you are visiting the blogger for the first time.

And, finally, always remember,

“Words can inspire, and words can destroy. Choose yours well!”

If you have any other pointers on the art of commenting, do share with me!

Love,

SHILPA…

 

 

April 2018 A to Z blogging Challenge

 

My theme for the A to Z Blogging Challenge is all about my blog, Metanoia, and my blogging journey from the time  I started, 5 years ago. The lessons I learnt, the tips and tricks I picked up from fellow bloggers and the guidelines I could have used back when I began. 

You will find all of my A to Z posts here.

44 Replies to “C – Comments. #AtoZ”

  1. Hello ,

    I saw your tweet about animals and thought I will check your website. I like it!

    I love pets. I have two beautiful thai cats called Tammy(female) and Yommo(male). Yommo is 1 year older than Tommy. He acts like a bigger brother for her. 🙂
    I have even created an Instagram account for them ( https://www.instagram.com/tayo_home/ ) and probably soon they will have more followers than me (kinda funny).

    I have subscribed to your newsletter. 🙂

    Keep up the good work on your blog.

    Regards
    Wiki

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    1. Thank you so much, Wiki!
      I am a dog lover, but like kittens too. You are lucky to have two who make your world go round!
      Thank you for the visit! Will drop by to see your furry friends!

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  2. Couldn’t agree more with you and Anamika. I have bonded with bloggers in the comment section. I have met so many like minded people in the comments. I have shared happiness and sorrow through comments. All of us write for our readers and it feels great to receive genuine comments. I often feel that instead of writing nice post and trying to make me happy, I would appreciate if they pointed out a typo or a grammatical error in my post. I remember once I wrote a short story and a blogger friend came and wrote this story is not as per expectation..it is quite boring. Trust me today that blogger is one of my best friends in the blogging world. She didn’t write false good things.
    Since morning I was waiting for your post😊

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    1. Awww, sweetie! Thank you..you made my day!
      Actually, my post was ready, but the picture wasn’t. So, I drew the C just now and then shared my post.

      I agree. Those who read my post are more than welcome to point out a typo, or a syntax error, or a grammatical error, too. We often skip those tiny errors that, if someone spotted and brought them to our notice, we would be grateful to them! And, giving concrete criticism is actually what helps us improve our craft! SO, I can understand how thankful you must be to that blogger for being so frank about your post. I would be too!
      Thank you Balaka…it’s only in this comment’s section, that I met you, the real you, and bonded with you. Found a lot in common and made a friend for life!

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  3. I really felt very happy with the C shilpa. You have put into words those that we sometimes have a discomfort to say. In fact in this 1 month journey of blogging, I met many bloggers through the comments session. True, the comment is the most important aspect for a blogger to keep blogging. Somehow when u see a comment that agrees or disagrees to your content, that gives you the reach of the post. Beautifully written. C is for Change. Do have your say on my post too. Have a nice day 🙂

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    1. It’s what I learnt in the past couple of years, Deepa. Commenting because you wish to connect with the blogger makes blogging a delightful activity!
      Thank you for your encouraging words, Deepa!

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  4. Without commenting, blogging would have been nothing. Could you imagine how lonely it would be to blog without no one giving you feedback? No one would have lasted in blogging for long. I was touched by your efforts to read and appreciate poetry, so you could comment appropriately on poem blogs. One thing I do admit to is not responding to commenters enough when I receive comments, especially during blog challenges, and I’m sure my blog suffers for it. It is so hard to be swept up in these challenges and not take the time to read or learn.

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    1. Replying to comments during blogging challenges such as the present A to Z can be quite taxing, Alana. The rush to complete your posts on time and visit as many blogs as you can, along with giving equal attention to your personal lives leaves hardly any time to reply to comments. But, when you do reply, it gives a satisfaction like nothing else!
      Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

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  5. How true Shilpa! In fact it was your comments during the A to Z last year that I first got to meet you . And it was your meaningful comments that made me sit up and notice you . Comments make for an engagement and relationship between bloggers

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    1. I really enjoyed reading your posts, Sunita, as I had learnt a bit about it back in college. And, you made your posts so much livelier than just informative, I had to keep coming back! And, it’s only because of that A to Z you participated in that I met an awesome blogger like you! ❤

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  6. Yep you are absolutely right dear and this is the reason you will see my comments on soaringly few post. I either don’t comment and if I do I read the post thoroughly to contribute my views to the writer’s thought process. Glad you brought this up.

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    1. Commenting is an important aspect of blogging, Roma. It’s an art I have had to learn and develop over time. And, that’s why this topic had to be in my A to Z. I know how I used to wish I knew all about it, back when I started. 🙂

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  7. That’s thought provoking post. Commenting is the backbone of our interactions in the blogging world. I personally feel it’s also a good idea to leave some constructive criticism where need be, but I don’t see that happen. Maybe people only want to hear good things. I am very open to constructive criticism as I feel that would help me grow better.

    Enjoying your posts dear Shilpa. 🙂

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  8. Comments are the soul of a blogger’s world 🙂 I know how my eyes light up when I see a notification that someone has left a comment, even today, more than 10 years after I began blogging. It never really goes away, that joy.

    I love the pointers and lessons you’ve shared and it’s something all bloggers can learn from, old and new.

    I will try and pop by whenever time permits, Shilpa, through April. Love the fact that you have taken up A to Z this year 🙂

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  9. This was an insightful post to read! It is so true that comments can make a bloggers day. I have developed some true friendships with my fellow bloggers and it all happened in the comments section. Hope you’re enjoying the A to Z journey – Im enjoying your posts ♥

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    1. I enjoy reading some comments which some of my close blogging friends leave on my posts. it also teaches me a lot about wording my comments perfectly.
      Yes, I am enjoying my A to Z journey. At times, it does feel difficult, but I want to complete this challenge for myself, so I will continue, till the very end!

      Thank you for visiting! ❤

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  10. Great post, Shilpa!
    Ha ha!
    True, comments are heart-warming! Without them, we may as well be writing in our own diaries. Endearing topic for C! When I started blogging, nobody ever commented. In fact, I think the concept caught up only over the past few years. Of course, it is a time-intensive activity and I admire all those who comment and reciprocate.

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    1. True,Vidya. So many of my earlier posts are without a single comment. It’s only recently that people have begun developing blogging etiquettes, which includes leaving meaningful comments that help them connect with other bloggers.

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  11. I agree with the Gravatar bit first as I love mine which is such an amazing thing you ahev done for me. And yes we both have bonded over comments I guess and built a mutual rapport! O know I look forward to seeing what you think of my post. I also take time out to reply to my comments within the week as its important to let the readers know that you value their feedback!

    Color Master by Aimee Bender #atozchallenge

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    1. Yes, Shalz! it’s because of our pouring our heart in the comments section that we meet some bloggers with whom we vibe instantly! Just like you and I did. it was a pleasure doing the sketch for you and it made me very happy seeing it as your gravatar image!
      Reading your comments on every post of mine is one of the most encouraging part of blogging for me!

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  12. Nice post! LOL 😀
    True, it is the comments that cement the relationship with fellow bloggers. You can make out so much from the comments – not only the thought process but also whether the post has been read or just skimmed 😉
    Ah! We are on the same page regarding commenting on poetry. Poetry and I are like cheese and chalk and never the twain shall meet. So, I have to re-read many times to understand and then comment sensibly. Believe me that’s so very stressful. 😀
    Couchsurfing : Pros and Cons #AtoZChallenge

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    1. Oh, Shilpa, I am so glad I have someone who understands me and my difficulty at commenting on poetry! Yes, it is indeed stressful but I feel just reading, liking and moving off is kinda bad manners, right? So I comment buy only after a thorough read.
      😊

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  13. Excellent post, Shilpa. I find blogging and writing stories a pleasure. That’s why, I don’t even have my own website. I have no intentions of monetizing what I write, so I’m not bothered about the ‘feku’ comments that I get. I’d rather get five comments discussing/ criticizing what I write than fifty saying ‘Awesome post’, ‘Great job’ and ‘Nicely done’. Trust me, I get angry seeing these six words 😀

    If you like a post, let the author know why you did. What made you connect and the same goes the otherway also. Honesty will be appreciated much more.

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  14. Meh! Tell me about the ‘nice post’ comments! Sigh! I have also had this self-confessed ‘popular’ blogger copy pasting the entire google search result of the post I had posted. Why take so much effort if you can type out a genuine comment, I wonder! Great post, Shilpa 🙂

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    1. When I started blogging, I really had no idea about blogging etiquettes, etc. I didn’t even know any other bloggers. It was only after I registered with Blogadda that I learnt all about commenting. Initially, there used to be these “nice post” comments from my side too. But, over a period, I learnt the art of commenting!
      It’s really an art worth developing if you are a blogger. 🙂

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  15. Reading your post was the first thing on my list for this morning since I missed it last night. I can’t tell how happy I felt on discovering my name and my quote in the very first line. I have a similar problem on understanding poetry and thinking of ways to comment on such posts but if it is from a blogger I know or admire (or is in the above 2 posts in the FB group thread and reading is mandatory) I spend a some more energy in grasping it by reading twice or thrice so as to point out value to the blogger. It is time-consuming but worth the effort for me. If I write ‘Nice poem’, I feel like I killed myself with my own hands. Jarring, I know 🙂 The other posts where I don’t know what to comment are sponsored posts. Brands, products, baby products, products for mommies etc are a pain for me since I do not identify with the consumerism.
    Personally, since I like writing long comments pouring out myself, I am always look out for the bloggers who do the same on my blog and the ones I love. Yes, I read all the comments on other bloggers’ blogs too (the blogs I love). Hence, it made me happy when Balaka and Soumya mentioned me here in their comments 😀 It is a happy and cheerful morning for me.

    *PS for those who comment Nice post, Good post, Well-written post – You are being watched by others for the comments you leave and for the value addition you missed out on, therefore making it difficult for other bloggers to sit-up and notice you though you may be having a dashing gravatar image.

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    1. Completely agree with your last lines, Anamika! In fact, writing this post has encouraged me to better my commenting skills. Now on, I will be extra careful what I write in the comments box! 🙂
      And, thanks to your lengthy comments, we connected and bonded! ❤

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  16. First of all, I really like your alphabet doodles. And about today’s post, I too learnt a thing or two about commenting the hard way. Earlier I did not pay too much attention to this very important aspect of blogging. But slowly and steadily this commenting thing has grown over me. Sometimes it is difficult to keep up with the reading due to too many tasks on the to do list, but I wish I could spare more time to reading and commenting. That would do me real good. And yes, I can feel some of the fellow bloggers grow on me, because they seem genuinely interested in my blog. These are the wonders of commenting

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    1. True, MT. Some bloggers who leave genuine comments, leave behind their soul. Connecting with them helps us in the long run, too. It sure can get difficult as there are so many tasks to be completed, so it’s helpful if one leaves aside a day in the week only to comment and visit other blogs. It’s something I learnt from my favourite blogger, Shailaja.
      🙂

      Thank you so much for the lovely comment!

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  17. I get what you say Shilpa. Comments enourage and blogging is a community activity. Agree there may be certain posts which you may not realate too. but I feel one must make an effort to figure out the essence of the post, and do sppreicate the efforts of the blogger. Love gets you love :)))) ISnt it?

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  18. So very true, Shilpa. It’s only human because we write to share and interact. I love to read comments where people leave detailed views. It is so nice to share and bond like you mentioned. I just wished that bloggers would put in more effort into their comments. All the best for A2Z. Will do by when I can. 😊

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    1. Oh yes, Rachna.

      Sparing some time solely for commenting and replying to comments is something that will help bloggers not just bond with other bloggers but also learn a lot about writing, blogging and sharing.

      Thank you for the encouragement, dear!

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