Every phase in Life teaches us valuable lessons; lessons that help us evolve into better individuals, a lot saner and wiser than when we started.
When I began blogging, the online world felt exhilarating and unfathomable, all at once.
Exhilarating, because I came across people who were established artists in their chosen field and I looked forward to learning something from them.
And, unfathomable, because how do we gauge someone who sits behind the screen, communicating with us, evoking emotions of empathy and harmony in us, all when we haven’t met in person, or know anything about their Life’s story!?
But, it’s during these past few years that I learnt a few things — about people, about trusting them and trusting my instincts about them, about handling criticism for my work, and yes, a few facts about myself, too.
There are two kinds of people:
Those whom you may not have met in person, but who seem to be made specially for you. it’s like meeting a kindred spirit, who cares for you despite never having met you.
And, those, who know nothing about you, or your character, but who won’t ponder before assuming things about you, spread rumours and besmirch your image. Sadly, you have no power over them or their words, so you learn to live with it.
At times, you even wish you never had to deal with people, at all. But, that’s not how the world functions, and so, you just accept every type you come across and learn to trust your instincts about them all.
You also learn to value your relationship with yourself!
Blogging is all about expressing — our feelings, our thoughts and voicing our opinions. We do it with all our heart, hoping that people who read will relate to our thoughts, understand our feelings and respond kindly to our words.
But, the one thing we forget to remind ourselves is, how wrong it is on our part to presume that people will agree with what we have to say, wholeheartedly.
To quote Elizabeth Gilbert from ‘Big Magic’,
“If you dare to create something and put it out there, it may accidentally stir up a response. That’s the natural order of Life: the eternal inhale and exhale of action and reaction. But, you are definitely not in charge of the reaction — even when the reaction is flat out bizarre.”
Our writing need not necessarily find loyal fans in every soul who reads it for the simple reason that their perspectives differ from ours. Their Life’s story is different from ours, as are their battles and how they shaped as a result of it all.
Accepting criticism is the toughest thing to deal with. it takes a strong heart to take every barb, every vitriolic attack one is subject to, bravely.
Are you built for that? For a comment that’s nasty, hurtful, overly critical, or even full of ridicule for a post you toiled over?
Handling praise, on the other hand, is easy. The lovely words heaped on us leave us feeling ecstatic. Let’s just remember, though, to not allow it to play with our egos; or, sway our opinion of ourselves.
I am wary of people who praise me to the skies. I mean, I know what I am, or how I write! Right?
Handling criticism can get a tad difficult, at times, but I am working on it.
How about you? What have you learnt from your Life as a blogger? How do you deal with people and their bitter words and hurtful actions?
My theme for the A to Z Blogging Challenge is all about my blog, Metanoia, and my blogging journey from the time I started, 5 years ago. The lessons I learnt, the tips and tricks I picked up from fellow bloggers and the guidelines I could have used back when I began.
You will find all of my A to Z posts here.