R – Relationship with blog readers. #AtoZ

A to Z Blogging Challenge

 

Today — the 20th of April — is a day I will never forget in my life. Last year, on this day, I lost my pet dog, Chikoo. He was my son, the apple of my eyes, and lived with us for almost 13 years.

This morning, I dreamt of him and woke up with a start. And, since then, my mind was restless and sad. Writing this post was the last thing on my mind, although I had been pushing myself to work on it since morning.

So, I sent out a message into the Universe, and to my friends on my FB Page, that  I needed help in choosing the topic for today’s letter. And an outpouring of suggestions awaited me when I logged into FB after some time.

I was deeply moved by this love shown by my readers and chose this topic suggested by my dear friend,  Shilpa Garg. Shilpa and I were, I believe, twins in another life. No wonder then that she came up with the perfect topic!

Maintaining a  healthy relationship with the readers of your blog is a very essential part of blogging. It’s after all the reciprocity that takes place between you and your readers that helps your blog survive!

To repeat what I said in one of my older posts, I had no idea about commenting or building a rapport with my readers in the first few months of my blogging journey.

It was only after I began observing other bloggers that I realised the necessity to bond with my readers. Caring, as in responding to their comments, visiting their blogs if they, too, are bloggers,  or communicating with them if they weren’t,  was what I needed to work on.

And, believe me, it works like magic!

Won’t you appreciate such a gesture from someone you admire or read?

You need to reach out to your readers. Appreciate how they share their feelings with you, and be genuine in your conduct with them.

A friend recently stated why he felt it unnecessary to visit others’ blogs in order to receive traffic to one’s own. Of course, he said it in jest. But, having such a mindset will not help either you or your blog!

Readers often leave behind comments sharing their views, or similar experiences from their life. At times, their words may be full of praise for your work, but, at others, their comments may also reflect an attitude that opposes yours.

Accept it all bravely.  We are all unique, so isn’t it natural that our reactions towards others’ thoughts will be unique, too? Opinions may differ; words used might also be laced with bitterness. But, as a blogger, I believe, it’s our responsibility to accept their stance sensitively.

In short, not everyone will approve of your way of thinking.  Accepting others’ views with an open mind is the key to avoiding clashes of any sort or any bitterness. For who needs any negativity in a place as sacred as your blog?

Don’t you agree?

April 2018 A to Z blogging Challenge

My theme for the A to Z Blogging Challenge is all about my blog, Metanoia, and my blogging journey from the time  I started, 5 years ago. The lessons I learnt, the tips and tricks I picked up from fellow bloggers and the guidelines I could have used back when I began.

You will find all of my A to Z posts here.

 

 

 

23 Replies to “R – Relationship with blog readers. #AtoZ”

  1. I’m so sorry, Shilpa. I missed your queries. But I’m glad you wrote on this topic. It is imperative to maintain a good rapport with your readers and other bloggers. There was a time when I decided to quit blogging because someone found my writes offensive. Well… 😦
    Anyway, I know how much you miss Chickoo. All I can tell you is, he showered so much love in your life and you know that. Cherish it and remember him fondly. Tight hugs from me and sloppy kisses from Muffy ❤
    Kohl Eyed Me
    Something’s Cooking

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    1. Just ignore those who find your posts offensive, Shalini. Write for those who love your words. People will always have an opinion, even when we don’t ask for one! 😛
      I enjoy reading your posts…all of them. And, frankly, I don’t find them offensive in any way! ❤

      Thank you so much, my dear! ❤

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  2. Hugs, Shilpa. It’s never easy to deal with the feelings of losing someone you loved so dearly no matter how many years have passed. Earlier this month it was the 7th anniversary of my dad’s passing. I am teaching myself to focus on the good times however hard it is. They do love us from above, don’t they?
    Like you even I didn’t know about the blogging communities and the interactions that happened. And once I learned about it, it was awesome. All those comments and thoughts our readers leave on the blog is valuable and we should take it with grace and respect. I have come across a negative comment only once or twice, which were in an attacking way, and both times I made my stance clear and didn’t engage in further interactions. Otherwise, I am highly fortunate to get sensible readers who always convey their thoughts politely even if there is a disagreement.

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    1. Not engaging in further interactions is the best thing to do,Vini. Because people can stretch an issue and can ruin our peace of mind. And valuing those who really read our posts and comment or react to them positively is what will help us keep writing, and creating.

      Hugs to you, too, my dear. Yes, we do need to remember the lovely times we had with our loved ones. ❤

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  3. Sorry for your loss.
    It definitely is very important to connect with ur readers and especially other bloggers. Or else how do we evolve? There would be people who will not respond, even be rude at times but then majority reciprocates. U need to be a reader before you are a writer I guess.
    Great post.

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  4. Hugs for the loss Shilpz – I have never gotten around to keeping another pet and I dont think I ever will. So a big big hug to you for Chikoo – he is in doggie heaven and loving every moment there.:-)
    When I read your query, I was going to write Responding to readers and then I saw Shilpa’s suggestions – brilliant as usual she is and ever so helpful! I am glad you two think you are lost twins for you two are some of the nicest bloggers around me!
    Posting a comment is an art, I feel and sometimes I err in leaving one behind that makes sense. I try to reciprocate reading whoever stops on my blog and sometimes their post doesnt make sense to me. I try not to be banal or off hand in my comment; still am sure they must wonder at my quips 😉
    I too think its very important to reply back to your readers; I have been lax for quite a few posts now as been having some family health issues which have been eating my time like anything!
    I hope to be back on track post sunday! Hugs and love my friend!!! 🙂

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  5. I hope your dad feels well soon, Shalz.

    True, responding to our readers and understanding their views on our posts gives us a fair idea about how well we fair as writers, as well as how others think and perceive our thoughts. They are, after all, sharing their feelings. The words they use will be different than the ones we do, but, the mere fact that they take pains to read, assimilate and respond through comments says how much we need to value their input!

    Hugs to you, too, dear girl! ❤

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  6. Absolutely, reciprocity is key in building relationships. Yes I too read she bloggers say that they will not visit back or comment just for views. But I found it rather immature way of thinking. If someone visits my blog 5 times I need to go back and visit atleast once. I may or may not always relate to their content but I have to find a way of keeping that relationship going. I have stopped visiting some blogs as though I loved the content I have never found the person visiting back ever.

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    1. Hey, what a coincidence Akshata! I too have experienced such bloggers, who never visit despite several visits from me. But I do respect those who do read my posts on FB and share their feelings / experience. And I make it a point to communicate with them. That’s how we keep things going!
      Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Akshata! ❤

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  7. So well said Shilpa. These comments and love that you get from readers, and the entire process of reciprocating and building a bond, is the best aspect of blogging. It removes the mundane feeling from day to day living too

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  8. Writing meaningful comments and responding to them are a great way to build rapport with readers. It through these comments on our blogs that we get to know so much about our blog buddies that we take the virtual relationship with them in the real world too.
    Happy to help and thanks for the mention, glad that this post idea worked for you ♥

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