Live in the moment.


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December is usually a month of reflections. Looking back to the year that was; pondering what went wrong and what we learned from it all. December is also a month for planning for the new year that will soon make an entry; making resolutions; charting the route to be taken to achieve goals and fulfil every wish to make the next year a happy one.

For me, personally, it’s a month of reflections; remembering in detail all that went wrong; all that changed me completely as a person; and all that I will not be doing in the new year. Yes, not doing, as in planning for the new year, making personal and career goals, resolving to do or undo certain things.

All that happened this year taught me one thing, which has now become my motto:

LIVE IN THE MOMENT.

I had plans galore last year, which all crumbled to dust this year and left me broken hearted. Broken hearted and wise. It taught me to live life in the moment–the present. And, that all that we plan need not come to fruition.

I will share with you something that strengthened my belief in living in the moment. Nothing serious, but something really minuscule, and yet, significant.

Yesterday, we–hubby and I–completed 21 years of married life. Family and friends showered us with anniversary wishes; some asked what plans I had for the day; how had we decided on celebrating? And, my only reply was that I had not made a single plan. At the risk of sounding unromantic, it’s just another day, and now it’s 21 long years! But, on a serious note, I don’t make plans because anything could happen and ruin those plans and leave me with a heartache and a bad mood.

And, you know what happened in the evening? Hubby’s car broke down, so it had to be towed to the service centre where it will stay for a few days; hubby wasn’t hungry as he had had a late lunch, and also, he had some work to tend to. So, that left me all alone on my wedding anniversary.

Did I feel bad? Nope. Did I wallow in self-pity? No way! Instead, I went and treated myself to my favourite pani puri at a nearby chaat centre, fed biscuits to my 12 canine friends, who were delighted to meet me, came back home happy and satiated, completed a pending article and then enjoyed a dinner with my feathered babies. And, to be frank, it felt awesome!

Being alone on my wedding anniversary did not dampen my spirits a bit, and that’s because I have conditioned myself to enjoy my own company–in short, be emotionally independent. Does that sound a tad snobbish? I hope not.

So, to sum it up, I was glad I hadn’t made any plans and enjoyed the moment, as it came.

And, that is going to be my goal for the future. To live in the moment; to live life as it comes and to learn from all that it brings for me.

Do you remember Katrina Kaif’s dialogue in the very famous movie, ‘ZIndagi na milegi dobara’? When asked what plans she had for her future, she said she hadn’t decided upon anything, instead wished for Life to surprise her at every turn; looked forward to new adventures and meeting new people and making new friends.

Isn’t that the perfect way to live? The ideal way to live?

Let Life bring for you what She has decided for you. You are sure to learn from the tough times and enjoy the beautiful ones. Like I have been doing since some time now.

I learned from all that went wrong.

Met new people–blogger friends whom I had met in the virtual world only–and loved every moment I spent with them.

Basked in the surprise Life brought my way by getting my entry shortlisted from amongst 1600 plus nominations for the Orange Flower Awards.

And, gained a new insight into how She functions! She, as in Life.

So, it is with this newfound knowledge that I wish to step into the new year..in fact, why just the new year, but every moment that comes my way! That’s sure to take a truckload off of the stress that one usually tends to carry on one’s shoulders–anxious about the future–isn’t it?

The future will be what it is destined to be. Why worry, plan, look forward to the moment that hasn’t come yet? Why not live this moment to its fullest, doing our bestest and letting go the fear of the morrow?

What do you think?

Taking your leave with this quote from a really beautiful book my friend, Sanch, gifted me – ‘The art of racing in the rain’. And, it is something that the dog in the story wonders:

“People are always worried about what’s happening next. They often find it difficult to stand still, to occupy the now without worrying about the future. People are not generally satisfied with what they have; they are very concerned with what they are going to have.”

Points to ponder, eh?

Smile, shine and take care…

Love,

SHILPA…

P.S.

What do you think about my logo?

And, the new look of my blog? ๐Ÿ™‚

SHILPA…

 

Live every moment to its fullest. it might very well be your last!

 

 

16 thoughts on “Live in the moment.”

  1. Congratulations for the wedding anniversary Shilpa and yes, planning has never worked with me, too. Such a feel good and positive post, taking on new learning that makes the year an interesting one!

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  2. Congratulations on completing 21 years. Spending your anniversary evening alone is not a great thing but happy to see your spirit in going out and having pani puri. Reminded me of the movie ‘Queen’ where she went alone for the honeymoon and had such a life-changing experience. Living in the moment is easier said than done but I am confident you will do it. Have a great fantabulous 2019.

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    1. This was a life changing experience for me, too, Balaka….so to say! ๐Ÿ˜›
      It does feel liberating, going out by oneself on one’s anniversary! And, for this learning to enjoy my own company , some of the credit goes to you, too! I am your fan, babe! The day I am able to travel on my own, I will be jubilant! Then, it will be just like the Queen story. ๐Ÿ™‚

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  3. Living in the moment is the best idea one can work with. Live in the past and you keep prodding the wrongs, live in the future and you find yourself worrying about how things will turn out. In the end, both only contribute to paranoia thus spoiling the present. I have a question – Does a wedding anniversary matter that much after such a long time? (I can sense being judged at this thought) If you ask me you did the best by doing things which gave you happiness irrespective of the fact you did it all alone. Getting to see you out and about regularly, meeting people, clicking pictures made me happy too ๐Ÿ™‚ Congratulations for the shortlisting for the Orange Flower Awards and for the new logo design. Last year, I drew inspiration from you for designing my Facebook Cover for the blog page after you shared the logo design you used as the profile pic. Keep up with your inspiring work.

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    1. Frankly, Anu, an anniversary doesn’t matter at all after so many years. You know what? This year we both didn’t even wish each other! Every year, right since the beginning, I have always been the first (and sometimes the only one) to wish hubby. He never wishes me first. And, I got used to this. This year, though, I just let it be. I felt what’s the big deal? It’s 21 years now, the romance flew out of the window ages ago, and we have grown older, wiser etc etc. So, this was the first year that not only did we not wish each other, but also did not spend an evening with each other–like going for dinner, etc. And, it did not feel strange at all. It all felt so natural! I like my space, and so does he! ๐Ÿ˜› And, I prefer taking myself on dates nowadays…hehehe

      Thanks so much for the compliments and all, Anu! I just needed some change, something new for my blog. A fresh new look, that looked clean, spacious and yes, simple yet classy, and all white with just a hint of colour. and I hope I have achieved it all! ๐Ÿ™‚

      โค

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  4. Happy anniversary! I think there’s a balance in terms of planning – in that, I mean it’s not about having a five-year life plan or anything of that sort but I do think it’s nice to have things to look forward to. It’s what helps combat depression to an extent. At the same time, if all we do is wait for the next thing and not savour the moment, we are also doing ourselves a disservice. Sometimes, when things go wrong and plans don’t work out, it still teaches us resilience and that you can be okay even when things don’t go to plan. For instance, I will make plans to travel or attend gigs but they help me have things to look forward to. But I’m not living each day waiting just for that vacation or gig. I’m not sure if I’ve made sense with this!

    The blog is looking good and I like the new logo!

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    1. Of course, you make sense, Sanch!
      I agree. When I say, I don’t plan for the future, I don’t mean I have nothing planned, at all! I do have a specific plan, for example for my blog, and I write it all down in my diary, so it is very much there in the back of my mind and I try and fulfil it on an everyday basis. But, on someday, if things don’t work out, I don’t dwell on it unnecessarily and just move on. It feels so much better that way!

      Thanks so much, dearie! โค

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  5. Congratulations on the wedding anniversary! In terms of planning, I think we need a balance. Iโ€™m not a big planner, either. But I do have a broad idea of what I would like to do or achieve. I donโ€™t peg it to a certain date or time frame, but once I know, I invariably achieve it. When I have no plans, I find Iโ€™m very capable of drifting along and achieving nothing, and that doesnโ€™t sit well with me. I guess it comes down to individual nature as well!

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    1. Same here, Shinjini!
      I, too, have quite a clear idea of what I wish to do and how I need to go about it. But, I just take it a day at a time, following my timetable/plans, and at the same time, am not rigid about fulfilling those plans. SOmetimes, something comes up unexpectedly, and then whatever I planned for the day, doesn’t work out. And, because I am not rigid, I don’t get too flustered about it. Saves me a lot of stress now. ๐Ÿ™‚

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  6. LIve the moment… maybe thats what I want to focus on in the coming year. For the future holds no guarantee for anybody.

    And wishing you a very happy anniversary Shilpa. So what if he wasnt around, as long as you carried a feeling of positivity in your heart, then all is good ๐Ÿ™‚

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    1. Right, Ramya..I am doing my best to carry all the positivity I can…in whatever situation..and that’s the habit I need to develop. That, and living in the moment, making the most of it!
      Thank you so much, my dear! โค

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