This is one of the most essential things to do, especially if you are a loner, like yours truly!
Being an introvert, I preferred keeping things to myself–my anxieties, fears, my thoughts–all of it. Until last year, when I realised how important it is to reach out to those who know me, who care about me and who have only my best interests at heart.
it did bother me that I would be burdening others with my worries, but a cousin gave me quite an earful about how it was necessary that they know what I am going through, for they were MY PEOPLE!
People who would keep aside their worries when you need a shoulder to lean on belong to ‘OUR TRIBE’.
And, it is this tribe that we need to connect with, reach out to, share stuff with because they understand.
Ladies, to be frank, it’s only your girlfriends who will truly LISTEN to you, UNDERSTAND you and make your troubles theirs. Am I right, or am I right??
If you are suffering from the dreaded PMS related stress/anxiety/fear, or feeling low and lonely, and you speak about it to your partner (read, husband/boyfriend), you can only imagine the response you will get.
But, if you share the same things with your girlfriends/sisters/mother/aunt, they will just gather you in a tight hug, and let you cry your heart out/complain/rant, and help cheer you up, sometimes by saying nothing at all! Isn’t it?
This the reason you need to CONNECT WITH YOUR TRIBE!
I made it a goal for 2019, where I decided upon days of the week when I would call up my girlfriends/cousins and talk…just talk. Having deep, meaningful conversations with these women lifts my spirits, cheers me up, lessen my anxieties and drives away my scary thoughts.
These women live in different cities and countries and there’s no way I can meet them in person on a regular basis. So, I put my phone to good use instead of mindlessly scrolling through social media.
I came across this quote which I am sure you will relate to:
“I have come to realise that the only people I need in my life are the ones who need me in theirs even when I have nothing else to offer them but myself.”
Don’t you agree?
So, reach out….
Connect with your tribe, with those closest to you, with whom you are comfortable, and who, you know, can save you from any situation you might find yourself in.
Just go ahead and call them/write to them/meet them. But, do it regularly. And, be there when they need you. That’s what will cement your relationship!
I am participating in the April A to Z Blogging Challenge and my theme this year is ‘SELF-CARE’.
You will find all the posts here.