If you are a fan of Ellen Degeneres, you must know her favourite quote:
“Be kind to one another.”
It’s, indeed, so necessary in today’s world, what with the kind of negativity we see around us. However, the one thing we often forget to do is,
BE KIND TO OURSELVES.
Now, pampering yourself at a beauty salon does not amount to being kind to yourself! But, trying to put yourself first, saying, “NO”,when you have to stretch yourself to accommodate others, giving yourself a much-needed break once a week (at least)–that’s what I mean by being kind to yourself.
Of course, it is not in our genes to say no to people, even when we know others are taking us for granted. We can never say no to someone who gets all emotional about how much they need our help and how much it would mean to them. We might be short of time and energy, but when someone pleads with us to do something for them, we forget about ourselves, our needs and agree to all that’s being asked of us.
How does that affect us?
We are forever exhausted from being over-worked, irritated for not getting the respite we need, and annoyed for getting used by others.
We spend our lives doing this and never understand the way we hurt ourselves in the bargain. Being kind to others is important, but being kind to ourselves, well, that’s a necessity–our responsibility towards ourselves, isn’t it?
Being kind to yourself also means not comparing yourself with others; not comparing their journey to yours or putting yourself down because of your failures/shortcomings.
Being kind to yourself means not stretching yourself over your limits–both, physical and emotional–to feel a part of the crowd.
Being kind to yourself means accepting yourself the way you are–flaws and all– instead of striving to ape someone you admire.
BEING KIND TO YOURSELF MEANS BEING YOURSELF.
THE ‘BE KIND’ WORKOUT:
- Tell yourself you are wonderful, and that you lack in nothing.
- Be careful what you talk about yourself–in front of others and in private.
- Do not get into a race with the world–you will only lose, miserably.
- Make your own goals, draw your own plans/course of action and work on it.
- Be your own cheer-leader.
- And, learn to draw the line–in short, say “NO” when you know you cannot agree to something.
You don’t need to stretch yourself like a rubber-band to keep the world happy, for, the world will never be happy, whatever you do. Keep yourself happy, instead. It will do a world of good to you, your physical, mental and emotional health.
Think over it. If you don’t do it for yourself, who will?
I am participating in the April A to Z Blogging Challenge, and my theme this year is, ‘SELF-CARE’.
You will find my posts here.