Why I am on a blogging break.

SOMETIMES, A BREAK FROM YOUR ROUTINE IS THE VERY THING YOU NEED!

It’s been some weeks since I have been rather infrequent on my blog. For two years, I published two posts a week, come rain or sunshine. Except for last year, when hubby took ill in the month of May, I was at Metanoia, each day, every day.

Having worked on renovating my old blog, deciding on a niche and developing Metanoia as my “workplace”, I had to take it seriously! I needed the traffic, the visitors, and the followers to see the numbers increasing. In short, I was desperate to be UP THERE, as far as my blog was concerned.

I planned the topics months in advance with images, points, hashtags, etc. But, last month, something happened. I somehow couldn’t plan a single topic after September. The three pages for October, November and December lay bare in my planner, much to my consternation.

With no ideas for any new topics to write about, and with my mind as blank as an unruled paper, I found myself struggling. It was not as much a case of Writer’s Block as it was a burnout from having worked non-stop under immense pressure to perform and stay in the race.

All that I had learned about how a blogger needs to work, plan for the future, stay abreast of all the latest technical developments of pro-blogging got to me and I crumbled under the pressure.

My mental health took a beating, and even as I type these words, I feel ashamed about how I wasn’t practicing what I preached – about making mental health a priority over everything else!

It was the herd mentality that was making me desperate to go where everyone else was going in a mad rush to make things work. Monetizing the blog, working on SEO, getting the tech-side updated and whatnot. And while doing so, I suddenly realized that the reason I had started blogging was left far behind!

I failed to understand that my life was so different from the others, and yet here I was, hell-bent on trying to create a map for my personal journey based on others’ experiences!

And, so, last month, I decided to take a break.

I was too exhausted to come up with any blog post ideas or share my posts. In fact, I was not even looking forward to it all!

I decided to take a backseat and take a good look at what I was doing and whether I was benefitting from it all.

And, you know, I discovered I was NOT benefitting in any way, least of all emotionally. And, if I wasn’t feeling happy doing it, then why the hell was I even doing it?

Thankfully, for me, with October began the ink drawing festival of Inktober and I decided to focus on my art. And, with writing assignments and Inktober, thinking about blogging was too much to take!

I gave a break to my posting strategy on Instagram, Twitter as well as Pinterest and thought to myself, “To hell with it!”.

My readers would visit me even if I did not post anything, and they did! Not as regularly as they usually do, but Metanoia does have visitors every day, and I am fine even if they are just a handful.

All the mad rush had taken away the joy of writing, sharing information, and blogging, and had left me completely drained, blindly following the strategies of others, whose journey so differed from mine.

It was during these days that I also realized how such breaks are so necessary if you wish to stay sane in today’s mad world. For, if you keep running, there will come a day when you will hate it all–the mad race everyone is in, and also yourself, for being so obsessed with “making it”.

Frankly, no one’s keeping tabs as to who makes it and who doesn’t, so why worry?

Why not follow our methods and work as per our rules, our capabilities, and in line with our circumstances?

The competition today is crazy and each one out there wants to make a name for themselves.

Every second person is a blogger!

I discovered recently that around 2.9 million blog posts are published on WordPress every single day!

We are in competition with that many posts; and, if you keep pushing yourself in a bid to outdo those 2.9 million posts, can you imagine your condition at the end of, say, a month?

Well, do the math and think about it.

So, take that break if you feel you have had enough of it all.

Take a break if you are out of ideas to keep your blog going.

Take a break if you feel you are losing your peace of mind because, without that peace of mind, buddy, whatever you write won’t even be worth it! You need to be true to yourself, right?

(Here, at Metanoia, I write about mental health and the need to care for it, no matter what. But, I realized I wasn’t following my own suggestions! Doesn’t that make me such a big hypocrite?).

Taking a break won’t harm anything, believe me. It won’t matter if people don’t visit your blog, or if your traffic goes down. But, it will definitely matter if YOU suffer, YOUR mental health suffers.

Remember the reason you began blogging? For the joy of sharing your thoughts, for the happiness it brought you.

If your blog is not your primary source of income, take a break from it all and come back refreshed. That break could very well serve as an eye-opener for you!

 

Sometimes, when we take a break, we may find that solutions then present themselves!

 

I have realized that what works for others won’t work for me as my situation is completely different.

That, I need to focus on what gives me joy, which will benefit me in the long run. And, hence I have decided to follow my heart.

Because MY peace matters most.

 

Love,

SHILPA…

 

P.S.

Dear reader,

I wish to thank you from the bottom of my heart for visiting Metanoia. This blog wouldn’t have flourished so beautifully in just a couple of years had it not been for you! So, thank you, and love you!

I will begin writing when I am ready for it.

Lots of love,

SHILPA…

 

 

 

 

26 thoughts on “Why I am on a blogging break.”

  1. Well said Shilpa. I can relate to it and completely agree. Every blogger has a different style and point of view. So, we cannot go on mad rush in competing with others and succumb to pressure. Other than being a blogger, we play many other important roles in life like being a mother, focusing on career, family, relationships and being fit and healthy. So, I realized we can’t have it all unless all other aspects of our life support us at right time.

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    1. That’s so true, Mahathi. Of course, there’s the support we do receive in our endeavors, but then we also fail to recognize our own goals and dreams and blindly go following other’s dreams. And, this is what lands us in a soup!

      Thank you for the support, Mahathi!

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    1. Hi Lydia!

      Yes, enjoy my time off is just what I did all these days. And, now that I am in a clearer mind, I decided to reply to your comments. WIll begin blogging here shortly.

      Thank you for your support! ❤

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  2. Yes, that does make you a hypocrite! Take care of yourself, first and foremost. The slightest sign of ‘how much work I have to do’ thought crossing your mind take a break, do your art – you are superb at that too – and come back refreshed. I visit here not because your Pinterest and Instagram stats are booming or because you appear in my feed. I visit you because I love what you write. I loved it even before all the strategies came into existence. Your writing has definitely become more structured and that shows the work you put behind Metanoia. Don’t worry dear, just do what you normally do. You are not the numbers you see under the stats. The moment I start strategizing I feel clobbered and I stop doing that. I can’t keep up with this number game that well. I tell myself that’s okay.
    You just take care of yourself and get back to planning ahead and blogging weekly because you like to do so, okay? And take care of yourself, don’t forget that.

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    1. Thank you so very much, Vini! And, I love you for those words: “I am not here because your Pinterest and Insta stats are booming. I am here because I love what you write!” Those are the words that I want to write for!

      Thank you for visiting, dear girl, and for all the love and support! ❤

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  3. Hugs, Shilpa. I admire the focused way you’ve blogged these last two years. But I get you. I’m posting pretty randomly too at present.

    I don’t think you are a hypocrite. You are doing what you need to do for yourself right now and being so open and honest about it.

    Big secret, most of the people who keep talking about the money they’re making aren’t making much really. I decided a few years ago to do pretty much what I please and enjoy it. Also all the time and effort on social media can go up in smoke if the platforms change their minds! Remember how Google Plus just disappeared? So while I’m on Social Media, I don’t really invest too much in terms of content on it.
    Presently, I’m enjoying cooking, coloring and doing a lot of reading!
    I wish you all you need to stay You! 🥰

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    1. Thank you so much, Corinne! I too need precisely what I need to stay ME. 🙂

      Yes, you are so right about how transitory the nature of social media is, and how we would be all lost if someday the platforms decide to change their minds. All the effort we put in, all those precious hours would go down the drain. What would we be left with? I don’t mean we shouldn’t do anything for fear of losing it all someday. But, I realized it would be better if I did what I NEEDED to do, follow my dreams and make my own goals.

      Thank you for the support and the love, Corinne! ❤

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  4. Dear friend
    Thanks for speaking for me too ! I’m also taking a break because I have a rotator cuff repair surgery for tomorrow.
    And o completely agree with you – every second person is a blogger and you can’t compete
    I love the way your blog has shaped up and look forward to visiting it.
    Come back when you are ready.
    Don’t let the smile leave your face
    A big warm tight hug
    Sunita

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    1. I hope you are feeling better now, dear Sunita.
      Today, I decided that I need to reply to the comments on this post. After all these days of not visiting Metanoia as regularly as earlier, I felt like I should begin again. It feels so good reading such warm, loving comments from you all. It’s this love and support that I will need with me always. And, that’s precisely the kind of blogging I wish to do. Something that invokes these feelings from my readers.

      I am glad I took this break and thought of looking at it from a different perspective.

      Love and hugs! ❤

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    1. That’s what I realised, Debbie. That my friends and followers will be here, and today, after all this time when I returned, I found them all here, and some more!

      Thank you for the support! ❤

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  5. Hugs, Shilpa. You take care of yourself first. Enjoy your art (I’m loving your Inkotober posts!) and come back here when you feel refreshed and recharged. It’s so important to know what *YOU* want from your blog, not what the blogging experts try to convince you you want!

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    1. I did get my head muddled up by all the advice I had been reading on blogging, and that’s what led to this burnout.
      I am in much better shape, mentally, and looking forward to blogging regularly. Only, now I will be blogging once a week, as opposed to twice a week like I did earlier. I want to make more time to read and visit.

      Thank you for all the love and support, Shinjini! ❤

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  6. We have spoken about this so many times–and we agree on all of this. I’ve been blogging for almost 12 years now, and have always done my own thing–disappearing when I liked, appearing when I could.

    What has kept me going is the fact that I enjoy blogging and I visit more than I write. 🙂

    Take good care, and see you (on the blog or over a call) soon!

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    1. Visit more than I blog is what I intend to do, Damyanti. I am glad I took this break. It helped me get a better perspective on blogging and writing, and what I wanted out of it all.

      Thank you for your love, D! ❤

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  7. I so get this post as this malady has struck me often and I have then just stopped blogging. This year has been an off of sorts for blogging and I am nowhere as meticulous as you to have a blogging planner and all. I had been just writing as I felt like it. The breaks have done me good and even now am not pushing myself as much as someone would tell me to if I wanted my blog UP THERE!!

    Enjoy your break and come back rejuvenated. Your blog is one happy place coz its YOU – so it needs you in top notch form. Hugs XOXO

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    1. Thank you so much for your love, Shalz! It’s this love and warmth that I have gained from blogging that’s brought me back to the scene. 🙂 Yes, I will be resuming blogging at Metanoia soon and with a clearer picture of what I want from my time here, as well as what my readers will receive from their time here.

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