47 lessons I learned in 47 years.

Yesterday, I completed 47 revolutions around the Sun.

Phew! No wonder those aches and pains trouble me so much nowadays. It’s been a physically taxing journey, really. Emotionally, though, I don’t feel a day above 16. In fact, I still experience a childlike glee during my birthday week and I look forward to my friends and relatives wishing me and showering me with their love and blessings!

That’s how I wish to live for the rest of my life: young at heart, sweet 16, always.

Cupcake in Zentangle
My birthday cake πŸ˜›

Now, coming to the topic of this post – there are lessons I learned during the 47 years I have spent on this blue planet and today I am sharing those lessons with you all.

I am being honest here and would like to mention that these are my personal opinions, based on my observations and experiences. You are free to not agree with me. No offence taken.

47 lessons in 47 years:

1. Time heals everything. You will get over it all–loss, failure, rejections, heartbreak, people, too. Just give it some time.

2. Nothing is permanent. So, don’t stress the small stuff, and don’t stress the big stuff. It will all be gone one day.

3. With time, your circle of people will get smaller. Only a select few will stay, the rest will leave. Let them go.

4. Career first, relationships, later. Choose the work that gives you happiness (especially now that you have such a wide range of vocations to choose from.)

5. Learn to spend time alone, enjoy your own company. It’s liberating.

6. Have dreams, make plans, but be prepared to watch them getting trashed in front of your eyes. It will hurt, badly, but you will get over it.

7. Everything happens for a reason. You will definitely find answers to the whys and the hows of life some day.

8. Take one day at a time. Don’t live in the past. Don’t live in the future. Live in the present. It saves a lot of anxiety.

9. Life keeps changing all the time. Embrace the change.

10. What’s meant for you will find its way to you. Have patience.

11. Recognise your skills. Hone them and use them to further your progress in life.

12. Strengthen yourself to take rejection in your stride.

13. Be kind to everybody. They are all fighting a battle you know nothing about.

14. Be kind to yourself. You will be living with yourself all your life!

15. Take very good care of your body – from head to toe. Especially your toes, or feet, to be precise. They carry you every where!

16. Pursue a hobby. It will be one of your biggest support systems.

17. If you can, find a job, or work for an NGO. It does a world of good to your self-esteem.

18. Accept it that you aren’t perfect. Nobody is.

19. Never compare yourself with others, or your life with others’.

20. Everyone here is unique, and so are you. Love yourself. Make yourself a priority.

21. There will always be differences of opinion. Be graceful enough to accept others’ opinion the same way you would like others to accept yours.

22. Peace of mind is much more important than winning an arguement.

23. Talk less, observe more. Be a good listener.

24. Size doesn’t matter. Age is just a number.

25. Cherish those who truly care for you.

26. Your followers on social media are just numbers. Your closest friends will always come to your rescue in a crisis, not your 10,000 followers.

27. If something has to happen, it will, irrespective of whether you ask for it. And, please don’t bother God with it. But, remember to thank Him everyday for everything that does happen–the good, and also the not-so-good.

28. You are never too late or too old to begin a new career. Change your strategies, move with the times.

29. Do what’s good for your life, what makes you happy. Do not bother about society’s norms.. People will always have a problem, whatever you do.

30. A little bit of fiction is necessary to survive the chaos of real life.

31. Appreciate the body you are blessed with. And, if you can’t appreciate it, then work on it, maintain it. It’s yours, and the only one you will ever have!

32. Enjoy the food you eat–even junk food. Never feel guilty and spoil the fun. Keep your taste buds happy. They matter, too. But, maintain a balance.

33. Strive to feel beautiful from within more than looking beautiful from the outside.

34. Your mental and emotional wellbeing matters a lot more than you care to admit. Look after your mind and soul, too.

35. Leave God alone. Let Him do His work in peace. You mind your own business.

36. Believe in God if you wish to. God won’t take offence if you don’t. God isn’t petty the way we humans are. He will love you either ways.

37. Accept life as it is. Accept people as they are. It’s tough, I know, but you really have no choice!

38. Be careful whom you trust.

39. Never invest your emotions in people who don’t care.

40. Speak your heart out with only a chosen few, who have been with you for the longest period of time. They know you inside out and will not judge you. Ever.

41. When feeling miserable, cry out loud. Or curse. Let out the steam. It’s truly therapeutic.

42. People’s opinion about you can never change the person you are.

43. Don’t bother explaining yourself to others, especially in the virtual world. People really won’t care; they have made up their mind about you.

44. It’s OKAY to make mistakes. God does it all the time; we are mere mortals!

45. You might be embarrassed about yourself or your “pathetic life”, but trust me, no one cares. Everyone has there own problems to sort out. Your life doesn’t really matter to them.

46. Impressions can be deceptive. Maintain some emotional and physical distance with people. Open your hearts to only a select few.

47. De-clutter regularly–your house and your life. Give away what you don’t use/need. Lesser the better–unused stuff in your house, or unused stuff in your life.

So, that’s all for this year. Looking forward to learning some more next year, God willing!

Do you keep a list of lessons you learn from life?

Do share with me some very important ones you learned.

Thank you for your love and blessings!

Lessons from Life

Published by shilpagupte

Do you know the secret to living a happy life? Eat. Pray. Love. Or, watch what you eat, wish well for all and fill your heart with love! That's precisely what I try to do through my blogs: 'Metanoia', the wellness blogazine, and 'Fictionista', my blog for fiction and non-fiction. Welcome to my virtual homes!

42 thoughts on “47 lessons I learned in 47 years.

  1. Hope you had a wonderful birthday, S! Btw, you’re one revolution around the earth ahead of me, so a tad bit more learned than me! πŸ˜‰ My learnings have pretty much been the same as yours. The best part about them is that I’ve learned to stop letting people’s opinion of me affect me. And yes, I do feel like a 16 year old too! Cheers to that! Have a beautiful year ahead. ❀

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  2. Happy birthday again Shilpa. That’s so much gyan there in your 47 lessons. You seem to have attained a Zen state – that’s the best way to be. I hope you always remain 16 at heart.

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  3. “Open your hearts to only a select few,” this is the most important lesson of all and more so since you have written various versions of it in quite a few points 😊 The one about the belief in God speaks to me. Whether some one believes in God or not should be a personal matter and this shouldn’t be too much for an asking. Coming up with 47 lessons is an appreciable effort, I have to say. I cannot think of 39 lessons. The chemical locha in my mind isn’t too happy to turn this number. It straight away wants to hit 40. Agle saal shaanti milegi meri aatma ko πŸ˜‚

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  4. Belated birthday wishes, Shilpa! Great lessons you learnt so far. And I kept myself in your words while reading this as it resonated more personal like me. And I am also a 47 feeling sweet 16 at my heart!

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  5. Happy belated birthday, Shilpa. Hope you had a wonderful one!

    Oh and I love your list! I have learned some of these lessons myself. Especially #6. Some I am still working on. Especially #10.

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  6. Love love love these. You and I think very much alike. πŸ˜€ These learnings dawn on us only when we get older. And what 47! I hope I look as young as you when I am 47.

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    1. Yes Raj, it’s only with age that we realise so much about life and how to live it. How I wish I had at least 20 % of this gyaan so years ago. Life would have been different, for sure! And, better, too, I guess ;P

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  7. Wishing you a very happy belated birthday, Shilpa! There is no way you can be 47, you look at least 20 years younger!

    These lessons are gems. Irrespective of age, one should live by them. Especially the kindness, mistake and eating food bit πŸ˜€

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  8. 36. Believe in God if you wish to. God won’t take offence if you don’t. God isn’t petty the way we humans are. He will love you either ways.

    The bible says in Exodus 34:14
    You must worship no other gods, for the Lord, whose very name is Jealous, is a God who is jealous about his relationship with you.
    Luke 11:9
    Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and it will be opened to you.
    David prayed to God saying:
    Keep me as the apple of your eye; hide me in the shadow of your wings.

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  9. Belated happy birthday. Hope you had a good one. Great lessons. I especially loved #26. I always had a small group of friends and that is going to stay forever. Loads of love.

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  10. Belated wishes my friend- I am so sorry I forgot and shall make it up on the call tomorrow. I hope you had a great bday even though its in the lockdown.

    I was smiling as I was reading- that is one helluva great advice you have listed out here and I love every one of them.

    And age is just a number – I still cant believe you are older than me as you look ages younger to me πŸ™‚ Love and hugs XOXO

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    1. Thank you, Shalz!
      It was a quiet birthday, literally, except that I watched my fav shows on Amazon. πŸ™‚ ❀

      Ooh, I am older than you? Now you ought to take my advice seriously, girl! ;P

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  11. Happy birthday again, Shilpa. I enjoyed reading your life lessons. I did something similar at 50!
    I liked #1 and #46 the most. It’s amazing how we humans can bounce back from pain and loss, if we really want to.
    #46 I learnt rather late, but it’s so important to keep your circle close.

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