As I go through my ‘A to Z of Self-Care’ posts, I wonder what message I am trying to send out. Self care is an important topic today and everyone seems to be talking about how we need to shift the focus to ourselves, fulfil our needs, give ourselves the importance we so deserve. But, is it making us selfish, self-centred, narcissistic?
I remember, when I was to get married, mum took me aside and gently advised me to put my family and their needs before myself; my feelings, my moods were to be put aside, in a corner, and my family given unconditional love and importance.
I did it. I followed my mum’s advice and did just what she told me to. And, as much as I feel good about it, I feel I lost myself, somewhere along the way. Well, my mum, too, lost herself somewhere along the way.
Today, as much as I tell mum to shine the spotlight on her, I know how impossible it is for her to do so; how impossible it is for scores of women to do so.
Looking after ourselves, fulfilling our wishes, looking after our health, caring for our feelings is all a huge part of self-care–something we haven’t been conditioned to do. Precisely why we need to begin doing so, now!
So, no, self-care does not mean being selfish or self-centred, but just loving ourselves, unconditionally, and giving ourselves the importance and the respect we deserve.
No, we aren’t being narcissistic; we are only trying to shift the focus to ourselves–the way we need to.
And, no, it does not mean we are ignoring the needs of others. It means, we care for ourselves as much as we care for the world around us, because we matter, too.
SELF-CARE IN A NUTSHELL:
In the span of 24 hours, if you can set aside even half an hour for yourself, consider it ‘self-care’–something you did just for yourself, your happiness.
Whatever it is–pursuing a hobby, pampering yourself, looking after your health, giving yourself a pep-talk, de-cluttering your mind of negative thoughts, getting rid of anything that’s toxic, showering yourself with compliments–if it’s something that makes you feel good about yourself, just do it, and feel the difference.
And, when you notice the difference, make a mental note about how happy it made you feel–happy and content–and I am sure you will get into the habit!
Go, look after yourself, girls!
Lots of love,
I am participating in the April A to Z Blogging Challenge, and my theme is, ‘SELF-CARE’. You will find all the A to Z posts here.