Today’s rule brings to mind a line from an old hindi film song that went like this:
“Kuch toh log kahengey..
logon ka kaam hai kehna..”
People will talk, for, that is what they are born to do!
And, that’s why..
What other people think about you is none of your business!
How often do we imagine all the horrid things people might think about us? We try out new outfits, or a brand new hairstyle, or visit a pub with friends, or just express our views on social media, but, all through, the thought that niggles at the back of our mind is, “What will people say? What will they think of me if I behave in such a way/opine on a matter thus?”
People’s perceptions about us is a cause of great concern to us; our happiness rarely matters. Will we fit in with the conventional image set by the society, or will we be labelled a rebel? These thoughts often give us sleepless nights. We fear expressing frank opinions, living a life of our choice, or following our heart, all because we fear the repercussions vis-a-vis our image.
Really, why should we care what someone thinks about us? What difference will it make, anyway? We also often forget that everyone has a life to live, matters to settle, problems to solve. Who really has the time to reflect upon our choices after a certain point? And, even if they do, so what? We fail to consider the most elementary fact: how does it matter? It’s our life, isn’t it?
I have not been much of a rebel myself, ever. I have always been cautious about what I say/do, weighed my words carefully, behaved in a certain manner so as not get labelled as ‘unrefined’ or ‘wild’. But, after all these years, I have realised that it has made me so self-conscious, that I have been living a life full of inhibitions! There has always been this hesitancy in talking my mind (lest people ridicule) or, even dancing like crazy, lest I make a mockery of myself!
I know some free-spirited people who live their life like they owe no justification to a single soul. Their body language, their self-confidence says a lot about their happiness quotient. It makes me envious, and I wonder why I can’t emulate their carefree ways! They aren’t demeaning themselves in any way, or hurting anyone around them. They are just living! Be it speaking their mind, pursuing hobbies or careers, or something as trivial as dancing in the rain; they hardly care what others think about them. Frankly, these are the happiest souls, ever!
Well, now that I have poured it all out, and gained some insight, I guess, I will just get up and dance! Or, even speak, or behave, in fact, just live the way I find fit. What the world thinks about me, is really not my business!
*Click on the words above and you’ll know what I mean! 🙂
And, have a happy, carefree day!