47 lessons I learned in 47 years.

Yesterday, I completed 47 revolutions around the Sun.

Phew! No wonder those aches and pains trouble me so much nowadays. It’s been a physically taxing journey, really. Emotionally, though, I don’t feel a day above 16. In fact, I still experience a childlike glee during my birthday week and I look forward to my friends and relatives wishing me and showering me with their love and blessings!

That’s how I wish to live for the rest of my life: young at heart, sweet 16, always.

Cupcake in Zentangle
My birthday cake 😛

Now, coming to the topic of this post – there are lessons I learned during the 47 years I have spent on this blue planet and today I am sharing those lessons with you all.

I am being honest here and would like to mention that these are my personal opinions, based on my observations and experiences. You are free to not agree with me. No offence taken.

47 lessons in 47 years:

1. Time heals everything. You will get over it all–loss, failure, rejections, heartbreak, people, too. Just give it some time.

2. Nothing is permanent. So, don’t stress the small stuff, and don’t stress the big stuff. It will all be gone one day.

3. With time, your circle of people will get smaller. Only a select few will stay, the rest will leave. Let them go.

4. Career first, relationships, later. Choose the work that gives you happiness (especially now that you have such a wide range of vocations to choose from.)

5. Learn to spend time alone, enjoy your own company. It’s liberating.

6. Have dreams, make plans, but be prepared to watch them getting trashed in front of your eyes. It will hurt, badly, but you will get over it.

7. Everything happens for a reason. You will definitely find answers to the whys and the hows of life some day.

8. Take one day at a time. Don’t live in the past. Don’t live in the future. Live in the present. It saves a lot of anxiety.

9. Life keeps changing all the time. Embrace the change.

10. What’s meant for you will find its way to you. Have patience.

11. Recognise your skills. Hone them and use them to further your progress in life.

12. Strengthen yourself to take rejection in your stride.

13. Be kind to everybody. They are all fighting a battle you know nothing about.

14. Be kind to yourself. You will be living with yourself all your life!

15. Take very good care of your body – from head to toe. Especially your toes, or feet, to be precise. They carry you every where!

16. Pursue a hobby. It will be one of your biggest support systems.

17. If you can, find a job, or work for an NGO. It does a world of good to your self-esteem.

18. Accept it that you aren’t perfect. Nobody is.

19. Never compare yourself with others, or your life with others’.

20. Everyone here is unique, and so are you. Love yourself. Make yourself a priority.

21. There will always be differences of opinion. Be graceful enough to accept others’ opinion the same way you would like others to accept yours.

22. Peace of mind is much more important than winning an arguement.

23. Talk less, observe more. Be a good listener.

24. Size doesn’t matter. Age is just a number.

25. Cherish those who truly care for you.

26. Your followers on social media are just numbers. Your closest friends will always come to your rescue in a crisis, not your 10,000 followers.

27. If something has to happen, it will, irrespective of whether you ask for it. And, please don’t bother God with it. But, remember to thank Him everyday for everything that does happen–the good, and also the not-so-good.

28. You are never too late or too old to begin a new career. Change your strategies, move with the times.

29. Do what’s good for your life, what makes you happy. Do not bother about society’s norms.. People will always have a problem, whatever you do.

30. A little bit of fiction is necessary to survive the chaos of real life.

31. Appreciate the body you are blessed with. And, if you can’t appreciate it, then work on it, maintain it. It’s yours, and the only one you will ever have!

32. Enjoy the food you eat–even junk food. Never feel guilty and spoil the fun. Keep your taste buds happy. They matter, too. But, maintain a balance.

33. Strive to feel beautiful from within more than looking beautiful from the outside.

34. Your mental and emotional wellbeing matters a lot more than you care to admit. Look after your mind and soul, too.

35. Leave God alone. Let Him do His work in peace. You mind your own business.

36. Believe in God if you wish to. God won’t take offence if you don’t. God isn’t petty the way we humans are. He will love you either ways.

37. Accept life as it is. Accept people as they are. It’s tough, I know, but you really have no choice!

38. Be careful whom you trust.

39. Never invest your emotions in people who don’t care.

40. Speak your heart out with only a chosen few, who have been with you for the longest period of time. They know you inside out and will not judge you. Ever.

41. When feeling miserable, cry out loud. Or curse. Let out the steam. It’s truly therapeutic.

42. People’s opinion about you can never change the person you are.

43. Don’t bother explaining yourself to others, especially in the virtual world. People really won’t care; they have made up their mind about you.

44. It’s OKAY to make mistakes. God does it all the time; we are mere mortals!

45. You might be embarrassed about yourself or your “pathetic life”, but trust me, no one cares. Everyone has there own problems to sort out. Your life doesn’t really matter to them.

46. Impressions can be deceptive. Maintain some emotional and physical distance with people. Open your hearts to only a select few.

47. De-clutter regularly–your house and your life. Give away what you don’t use/need. Lesser the better–unused stuff in your house, or unused stuff in your life.

So, that’s all for this year. Looking forward to learning some more next year, God willing!

Do you keep a list of lessons you learn from life?

Do share with me some very important ones you learned.

Thank you for your love and blessings!

Lessons from Life

Healthy eating for busy moms – Book review

HEALTHY EATING FOR BUSY MOMS

Author: Dr. Surbhi Prapanna

Genre: Recipes, food, health & nutrition

Pages: 65

Available on: Blogchatter website: Download this book for free here

 

Healthy eating for busy moms - Book review

SYNOPSIS:

My blogger friend, Surbhi Prapanna, brings for us an e-book on healthy eating for busy moms.

Life for a mother is super busy. Balancing a career and home is a tight rope walk that she manages deftly. But meal planning can often feel overwhelming.

Taking into consideration the food preferences of her family and planning meals with high nutritive values can lead to confusion and exhaustion.

In this book, Surbhi shares more than 20 healthy and easy-to-make recipes for busy mothers.

Along with every recipe, she has shared the nutritional value and the nutritional composition of the ingredients used.

There are also helpful tips and tricks along with the recipes that promise to make life easier for the mother.

 

RECIPES:

Surbhi had participated in the Blogchatter A2Z 2020 in April where she shared 26 posts and recipes for every letter of the alphabet. She has compiled them all for this book that is specially aimed at mothers who face time constraints or lack of healthy meal ideas.

The instructions are easy to understand, shared in a simple language and reader-friendly style.

Let me share some of the recipes from the book to entice you to download it for future use.

A – Amaranth paratha with tomato chutney

B – Barnyard millet khichdi

C – Chickpea salad with carrot soup

D – Dal Dhokli

E – Energy Buddha Bowl

F – Fenugreek thepla

G – Green roti with bottle gourd curry

H – Handva

I – Idlis with a healthy twist (Variety of idli recipes)

J – Jaggery paratha

K – Khichdi with multigrain nutrition

L – Leftover laziz paratha for lazy days

Well, that’s all that I am sharing with you here! The names of some of the recipes are enough to make you drool, isn’t it?

You will find ultimate meal-prep ideas and healthy eating tips that help the busy mother to plan her meals in advance. There’s also a note on how to involve your kids in shopping for, and cooking the meals.

You will find 10 bloggers sharing their own healthy eating tips at the end of the book.

MY RATING:

Believe me, with so much information on healthy eating apart from healthy recipes, this book is a must in your collection.

Just download it here and you can start making those recipes right away!

My rating: 4 out of 5 stars.

Artwork for MAY.

My artwork for May consists of two quotes that are closest to my heart.

You matter

YOU MATTER.

And,

Be kind to yourself

BE KIND TO YOURSELF.

Some very important words we forget to repeat to ourselves. We forget about ourselves as we try looking after those who depend upon us.

For me, repeating these lines to myself, especially when feeling sombre, gives me a feeling of being hugged.

Try doing it, if you haven’t.

Look into the mirror first thing in the morning. Look right into your eyes and say to yourself, “You matter.” See how it feels.

And, on days when life seems to slip from your hands, and when you feel neglected, remind yourself that you need to be kind to yourself. Self-care and self-love are important. For, you can’t pour from an empty cup, can you?

 

I also made this self-portrait with my pet Cookie perched on my shoulder, as always, giving me a kiss.

Self portrait in Zentangle

 

 

And, of course, there are my favourite, Mandalas, too.

Mandala

 

Mandala

Mandala

 

 

Finally, I made some changes in my Instagram handle.

Earlier, it was linked to my blog, Metanoia, where I shared posts on health, food, books, pets and art.

Now, I will be sharing only my artwork on my Instagram handle. And, that’s why I changed the name from shilclix to shilpsart.

Here’s the link.

@shilpsart

My other Instagram handle – @healthizms – will have posts on health, food and nutrition.

Do drop by for a visit there and leave your insta handle for me to follow you back.

That’s all for this month.

See you all with my artwork the end of next month.

Until later,

Take care and stay safe.

 

 

A simple guide to improving your immune system.

What is immune system?

Our body has an inbuilt army of cells and proteins that protects us from infections. Infections like the cold and flu, bacteria, microbes, viruses, parasites are all invaders that cause illnesses.

Our white blood cells, for example, are the sentries that can recognise the invaders, or microbes, and attack them before they multiply and lead to sickness.Our immune system, thus, defends our body from invaders by identifying and attacking them and safeguards us from infections.

Recommended:  Immune system explained for a detailed study on immune system and how it works.

What is immune system

What damages your immune system?

There are people who seldom suffer from cold and cough or any other viral infection, even during the monsoon, or when the virus is going strong. And on the other hand, there are some, who are always suffering from allergies.

This is because some of us have a stronger immune system, and in some cases, the immune system is too weak to defend the body from infections which results in frequent episodes of some sickness or the other.A weak immune system could be so because of various reasons, such as:

  • Immune deficiency, where a person is born with a weak immune system,
  • A disease that weakens the immune system
  • An overactive immune system that could arise out of an allergy
  • An autoimmune disease such as diabetes, rheumatide arthritis, or lupus, which results in the immune system turning against us.
  • Smoking and alcohol which also damage the immune system apart from harming other organs
  • An unhealthy lifestyle which lacks proper diet and nutrition as well as sufficient sleep and exercise
  • Diseases like HIV/AIDS that destroy the white blood cells
  • And, chronic stress that leads to a weak immune system which in turn increases stress-related mental health issues.

It’s a situation which requires a healthy lifestyle and a nutritious diet to change into a stronger system that will be better able to care for us.

Let us look at the 5 most common foods that help strengthen the immune system. Foods that are found easily and are present in our everyday meal preparations; foods like certain spices, vegetables and fruits that are packed with nutritients that help improve our chances at fighting infections.

Foods that improve immune system:

CITRUS FRUITS:

It is common knowledge that if you want to safeguard your system from cold and flu you should load up on vitamin C-rich fruits and vegetables.Vitamin C increases the amount of white blood cells that fight infections.

Fruits that are high in this vitamin are:

  • Lemon
  • Orange
  • Papaya
  • Sweetlime

If you aren’t getting any vitamin C from its food sources, then it is important that you take vitamin C supplements. Our body cannot produce vitamin C and hence we need to outsource it! So, if not through food, then through supplements that provide the daily recommended amount of the nutrient.

GARLIC:

One of the most common kitchen ingredients, garlic has been used not only for its taste, but also for its disease-fighting properties since ages. It contains sulphur-containing compounds that increase the white blood cells in our body which fight infections.

Garlic is also considered to be a blood-thinner and is prescribed to those who suffer from hardened arteries and high blood pressure.Crush the garlic and leave it for a while before using it, either in cooking or before eating. This improves its disease-fighting properties.

GINGER:

After garlic, ginger is another herb that has been recognised for its medicinal properties. It is for this reason that we are adviced to include ginger in our everyday diet, especially when we suffer from a sore throat and nausea.

The gingerol present in ginger contains cholesterol-reducing properties as well as anti-inflammatory properties that help reduce chronic pain arising from rheumatoid arthritis.

Add some grated ginger to boiling water and have it first thing every morning to maintain a healthy immune system.

TURMERIC:

The golden yellow spice has been used in almost every kitchen since ages and is best known for its anti-bacterial and anti-inflammatory properties.Whether you suffer from a sore throat, or sleeplessness, pain in the joints or nicks and cuts, turmeric is the go-to spice for instant relief.

Today, curcumin (from turmeric) in combination with piperine (from black pepper), has been added to the list of supplements that strengthen the body as well as its infection-fighting capabilities.

YOGURT:

Yogurt contains live bacteria that encourages our immune system in its fight against infections. It also contains Vitamin D that improves our chances of beating infections.

Including yogurt, especially home-made, or one without any artificial sugars or flavours works best.

Regular consumption of yogurt will keep cold and cough at bay, improve your digestive system, and also strengthen the bones.

 

Supplements for a healthy immune system

Vitamin D and the immune system:

Vitamin D has known to be a bone vitamin. But it also strengthens the body’s chances at fighting respiratory infections.

A deficiency in this vitamin is found to cause respiratory infections like bronchitis, pneumonia, severe respiratory tract infections and tuberculosis.

We get Vitamin D from sunlight and from food sources such as:

  • Eggs yolks
  • Fatty fish
  • Mushrooms
  • Codliver oil
  • Tuna fish
  • Fortified foods (milk)

If for some reasons you aren’t able to include these foods, or aren’t consuming enough of these foods, then you need to turn to vitamin D supplements. Check with your doctor for the best vitamin D supplements, the duration and the dosage.

In these times of COVID19, it would be beneficial opting for a vitamin D supplement apart from including the foods mentioned above. It could keep you safe from catching the infection!

How to keep your immune system strong:

Our immune system can be strengthened if we make the required changes in our lifestyle. Here are 5 ways following which one can definitely benefit and lead a healthier life.

  1. Nutritious food
  2. Vitamin supplements
  3. Healthy lifestyle
  4. Better sleep
  5. Reduce stress

Just like improving our overall health, maintaining our immune system also requires us to make certain changes in our lifestyle. It’s simple, really, but needs a lot of willpower, patience and some fastidiousness on our part.

 

Effective ways to improve your immune system

5 simple ways to maintain a healthy immune system:

  1. Follow a healthy, nutritious diet every day. Include the above five foods in your daily meals, Look for simple recipes that are tasty as well as healthy so you can follow your diet religiously. Include vitamin supplements if you aren’t getting enough nutrition from the food you eat. Stay well-hydrated. Water is important for a healthy immune system, too!
  2. Begin an exercise regimen, if you haven’t already. Exercise boosts the immune system if followed every day. Moderate exercise of walking, or yoga should suffice.
  3. Give equal importance to your sleep. Our body requires sleep for our cells to repair and rejuvenate themselves every single day. Our sleep and our immune system are closely interconnected. If you aren’t getting enough sleep – 7 to 8 hours daily – you are bound to suffer from more infections and fall sick oftener. Switch off your gadgets at least an hour before bed time. Follow a fixed sleep routine–sleep and wake at the same time everyday.
  4. Learn to handle your stress. it isn’t easy, but there is help! If your stress isn’t manageable, please visit a counsellor, or a psychiatrist who can guide you on how to manage your stress. Chronic stress can weaken the immune system making the body susceptible to infections and illnesses. Include mindfulness activities even for half an hour during the day. Meditation works wonders, too, but can be difficult to master. Pursuing a hobby is a good alternative.
  5. Quit smoking and reduce alcohol consumption.

Conclusion:

Our immune system helps safeguard our body from various infections and viral attacks. But in order to maintain our immune system we need to follow certain rules. Making dietary and lifestyle changes goes a long way in achieving optimum health. Making healthy choices ensures not only a healthy body, but also a healthy defence system. The choice is yours!

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How to deal with mood swings during perimenopause.

If you are anywhere in your early 40s, I am sure you have begun to experience mood swings, much to your discomfort. Moods that get the better of you and leave you befuddled, and in agony.

There are times when your anger hits the roof at the slightest pretext. And there are also times when you get emotional and your eyes tear up for no reason, at all.

Believe me, it’s not your fault, and no, you are not going crazy!

More often than not, this is what we think about ourselves when we fly off the handle or cry at the drop of a hat: that we are losing our mind.

Mood swings are signs of perimenopause. A phase when our body goes through various changes.

READ 5 ways your body changes after 40.

 

Perimenopause is characterized by hormonal changes that trigger mood swings.

 

HORMONES AND THE ROLE THEY PLAY:

ESTROGEN AND PROGESTERONE:

Our ovaries are the storehouse of all our eggs, each of which they release every month during ovulation. Our ovaries are also the source of the two types of hormones: estrogen and progesterone.

Estrogen is responsible for:

  • breast development
  • fat distribution in our hips and breasts,
  • and the development of our reproductive system.

Progesterone is responsible for:

  • thickening of the lining of the uterus,
  • preparing our body for pregnancy,
  • menstruation,
  • and our sexual desires.

During perimenopause, the level of these two female hormones begins to fluctuate. It is not a gradual process, but an erratic one. And, the mood swings, the anger, the anxiety, and the depression is a result of this fluctuation.

Fluctuation in hormone levels results in:

  • Mood swings
  • Hot flashes
  • Vaginal dryness
  • Low sex drive
  • irregular periods
  • Heavy bleeding
  • Tiredness
  • Disturbed sleep

Perimenopause lasts for around 4 to 5 years in some women, and for a decade in others.

 

MOOD SWINGS:

One can’t put a finger on when exactly the mood swings begin; the onset can be subtle if I can say that because there is nothing subtle about mood swings!

Range of emotions you experience during PMS:

  1. You lose your temper over trivial matters, and you also find yourself getting emotional over minor issues.
  2. The angry outbursts are often draining, causing distress to not just you but also those around you. They don’t know why it is that you are so agitated.
  3. You experience bouts of crying that leave you exhausted.
  4. There are times when you are happy for no reason at all. You feel chirpy, bubbly, and enthusiastic about life. No problem, big or small, overwhelms you.
  5. There is a sudden surge in your sexual desires and you wish for some intimacy with your partner. And, on some days, you just wish to be left alone!
  6. You find yourself in a chatty mood, eager to meet up with friends and talk nineteen to the dozen.
  7. You wish to be by yourself; you do not want any company, be it close friends or family. All you want is some peace and quiet.
  8. You feel irritated by the tiniest of things.

it’s only after these feelings have passed, that you feel your “normal self”.

These mood swings are more pronounced during the PMS – 1 or 2 weeks before your period. It’s really a time of great concern to you because you have begun to notice how everything changes during these 10 – 12 days.

But, there is really no need to worry. Once you understand why you have the mood swings, you will be better able to handle them and work your way around them. A little help is all you will need to feel good about yourself, despite the mood swings.

MOOD SWINGS IN A NUTSHELL:

To put it concisely, your mood swings are a natural occurrence. The depleting levels of estrogen and progesterone cause mood swings as well as other changes in your body as you enter your 40s. These are all symptoms of perimenopause and stay till you reach menopause. During the last phase of perimenopause, the depletion of estrogen is faster and you will start experiencing symptoms of menopause.

 

LIFESTYLE CHANGES THAT HELP YOU SURVIVE MOOD SWINGS:

Once you understand what causes mood swings, it becomes easier to take control.

Making lifestyle changes earlier on helps you have a coping mechanism in place that deals with perimenopause and later menopause. A healthy diet and an exercise regimen are some of the most important lifestyle changes that you will make for yourself, the effects of which you will notice as your body undergoes a change in your 40s. Beginning early–in your 20s or 30s–will ensure a healthy 40s, 50s, and the rest.

If your mood swings become unbearable, it would help if you visit a gynecologist for hormonal imbalance treatment. Or, you could also visit a psychiatrist. There is no harm in it, really. It will only help you overcome your problem faster.

DIET:

It’s one of the most talked-about lifestyle changes you will come across when you decide to make a transformation in the way you live.

It is crucial that you include green leafy veggies, fruits, nuts and milk, and milk products (unless you are a vegan) in your everyday diet.

Ways to deal with mood swings

Make your own meal plan depending upon your likes, dislikes, working schedule, weight, allergies, tolerance/intolerance of certain foods, and also any lifestyle disease you might be suffering from.

Plan your meals before the week begins, and try and stick to the plan. But also be open to changes. It’s okay to miss your diet plan once in a while.

INDULGE:

During PMS I crave chocolates and junk food–the spicy kind. And I make sure I indulge my cravings. It’s just a once-in-a-while thing and it gives me a wonderful feeling when I let go of guilt. A bar of chocolate won’t do much harm and will do me a world of good, especially to my mental health. DItto junk food.

SUPPLEMENTS:

After consulting with your doctor, get on a dose of regular vitamin and mineral supplements, especially calcium and vitamin D. With age, our bones begin losing their strength, and to maintain strong bones we need calcium.

Ways to deal with mood swings

We could depend upon food for the same, but in case you suffer from lactose intolerance, or are a vegan, then you will need calcium supplements. And, if you aren’t getting enough vitamin D from your diet, or from sunlight, then you will need Vit D supplements, too.

Do consult with your doctor about which calcium + Vit D supplements to take, when, and for how long.

Do not self-medicate.

EXERCISE:

It is yet another important part of lifestyle change. If you haven’t done it before, now is the time to make a new beginning.

Ways to deal with mood swings

Either begin with yoga and a morning/evening walk or join a gym, but exercise is a must.

A habit tracker will help you to keep count of your exercise regimen. it’s easy to make and keeps you on track.

EMOTIONAL WELLBEING:

Our mental and emotional wellbeing is as important as physical wellbeing. Everything we do is controlled by our mind; and if our mind is healthy, we will be able to live a healthy and happy life.

Pursue your favorite hobby, or develop a new one.

Ways to deal with mood swings

Spending even 30 minutes doing something that takes your mind off your troubles goes a long way in improving your chances of surviving your mood swings.

There are a whole lot of activities to choose from:

  • Drawing
  • Reading
  • Doodling
  • Sewing
  • Knitting/crocheting
  • Dancing/singing
  • Gardening
  • Sports

The list is endless. Take your pick and get started. Indulging in an activity that occupies your mind, creatively, is a great way to practicing mindfulness. Your soul will bless you!

CONNECT:

Connect with your close friends and family. Talking aloud about your mood swings, or your problems with your friends is therapeutic, isn’t it?

Ways to deal with mood swings

Make time for yourself so you can spend some time in the company of those who care for you, your wellbeing, and are a huge support system.

SLEEP:

Another important thing that decides how we feel from within.

Make sure to sleep and wake up at the same time every day. Set an alarm to help you wake up. And, before you go to sleep, switch off your gadgets. Give your mind time to calm down; send your brain the signal that it’s time for bed.

Ways to deal with mood swings

When you lie down to sleep and find sleep evading you, close your eyes, and begin deep breathing.

Breathe in and breathe out deeply, slowly and in no time you will fall asleep.

Drink your last glass of water an hour before you go to sleep so you won’t have to wake up in the middle of the night to visit the bathroom.

 

CONCLUSION:

Mood swings are natural occurrences and can be dealt with effectively if you make changes in the way you live. Making simple lifestyle changes will help you deal with the mood swings as well as improve your overall health. It will prepare your body for the times to come and strengthen you not just physically, but also mentally and emotionally.

 

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