When Life gives you a jolt.

When Life gives you a jolt.

What part of Life is, actually, in your control?

We live each day planning for the next day, the next week, the next month, the next year. Rarely do we pause to live in the present; rarely do we pause to consider if the plans we make for our future will come to fruition, living, as we always are, in a world of illusion that we are the Masters of our destinies!

And, it’s as we go along living for our tomorrows, when Life gives us a jolt, straight out of the blue. Like the one I received three weeks ago.

Busy planning my tomorrows, I was blithely unaware of the storm looming on the horizon. A storm that threw life in a disarray and brought all my master plans to a standstill.

Hubby had a manic episode of Bipolar disorder, and we all found ourselves caught in the burning lava of a raging volcano. No offence meant, but, yes, that’s how a manic episode feels like. So, I won’t go much into the details except share with you how all of my best-laid plans had to be tossed into the sea, and how I came out of it all a lot more enlightened, a lot saner.

A week in the hospital and home since two, hubby is recuperating at home and getting better.

And, for me, my Life took a turn–for the better.

Yes, it’s only when our Life is in turmoil that we learn the true meaning of Life, of the trials and tribulations we face throughout and the lessons we learn from them all.

For, it’s precisely in such moments of immense stress and hopelessness that we learn to look at Life from a whole new angle, with a clarity we lacked earlier. Stressful though these past three weeks were (and that would be an understatement!), I am sorta glad we went through it all.

The stuff I learned from it is something I would never have learned otherwise.

Hubby is recovering. Touchwood. And, I got back to blogging, which I had put on the back-burner all these days. I didn’t even have the will to open my laptop or pick up a book or go out for a walk. Watching animal videos on Facebook and solving Sudoku puzzles was all I did when I felt bogged down by all that was happening.

But, nothing lasts forever, and so here I am, doing what I do best — sharing my thoughts with you. The loneliness during such periods can get rather stifling, though, so I had to get back to connecting with you all!

There are some lessons I learned from all that happened, as I said earlier, and I would like to share those with you.

Health lessons:

The saying, “Health is Wealth”, is rather underrated in today’s world, or so I believe. The mad rush to achieve success, earn money, reach ahead in “the race” has us completely disregarding our health. The result: Life decides to take matters into Her own hands and gives us a jolt.

So, prioritize your health over all else, for the simple reason that if your health doesn’t cooperate, what will you really gain in Life, except, maybe a super deluxe room at a private clinic!?

Look after your mental health, too, even if you aren’t suffering from a mental illness. Remember, it’s our mind that guides us in caring for our wellbeing.

Sleep. 8 hours or 9, or as long as it takes to rejuvenate you, but, sleep. Don’t skip it for work. Ever.

DO NOT consider yourself to be a superhero, because you are not. You are just a human being with a body that needs energy, rest and relaxation. Give yourself the necessary TLC. You need it. Always.

Life lessons:

Live in the TODAY!

Live in the present that’s been gifted to you, and, tomorrow will take care of itself. I can’t reiterate this point enough. It’s a known fact that despite knowing the preciousness of the present, we continue living in the future, for the future.

Make a Plan A and a Plan B and a Plan C, and toss it all out into the sea! Life has already made a foolproof master plan for us all and it’s according to Her plans that we will proceed. Best to just let Her take over the controls, isn’t it?

Be grateful for everything.

While running around getting things under control at the hospital, I felt abandoned by God. How I failed to see that in everything that was working out, God was at work, standing beside me, making things happen.

It’s a fact we fail to notice when in times of distress when things are not going our way. But, trust me, God never abandons us.

Push aside every negative thought, focus on the moment and count your blessings. And, breathe.

Cherish your family and close friends.

These few people are the only ones who will be by your side in your time of need. Treasure them. And, those who reach out to you in the virtual world, from miles away, enquiring about your wellbeing. There are really only a handful few people in your world who truly care.

I am thankful my dear sis-in-law was by my side for two entire weeks. My parents, brother and couple of hubby’s close friends. Can really never thank them enough! And, of course, the prayers of dear ones!

Learn to rescue yourself.

And, finally, this was a phase when the man who vowed to care for me for the rest of my Life needed to be cared for, himself. I had to take over the mantle of the Knight in the shining armour to fight the battle and slay the dragon.

It did get rather lonely and scary. I really don’t know how I functioned that week in the hospital. Maybe, it was the adrenaline that pushed me from one moment to the next, or maybe, I was running on autopilot. I have no clue. God was with me, of course.

But, I guess, I was put through this test to see if I was strong enough to rescue myself. And, I did.

So, yes, there will come a time in your Life when you will need to rescue not just your loved ones, but also yourself. You will be a bundle of nerves, exhausted, sleep-deprived and lonely, ready to flee the scene. But, believe me, you will stay put and play the rescuer, with a strength you never knew you possessed. Trust yourself. And, the Almighty.

Getting back to blogging has not been easy. The depression threatened to swallow me if I didn’t do anything about it. But, all I had to do, was look at hubby, who despite his slow movements–thanks to the anti-psychotic drugs and mood stabilizers–has gotten back to work, albeit a few hours a day.

How could I not get inspired!

Life is a mystery (don’t even try to solve it!). It has weird ways of teaching us lessons and giving us a reality check when we least expect it. Life can be scary, too. But, during some quiet moments, when we look at it closely, we realise that Life is also beautiful. Really, really beautiful. All we need to do is count our blessings.

Love,

SHILPA…

P.S.

A gentle request, if you happen to be hubby’s friend. He is on the road to recovery and needs his privacy. KIndly desist from contacting him to inquire about his wellbeing.

Thank you!

SHILPA…

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47 thoughts on “When Life gives you a jolt.

  1. Shilpa, hugs and more huge. How very courageous of you to share with all of us! I was stunned when I first heard from you. Your warm, joyful presence is so much a part of my life that I missed you immensely. Wish there was something more that I could have done, that any of us could have done. You have done the best that you could because when our loved ones are in peril, our very best comes to the fore.

    When you spoke about your husband’s hospitalization, I was transported back to the hospital when my mum was ailing. How one suffers when one’s loved ones suffer especially those who are always taking care of us. I know what you mean when you say that a few people anchored you and kept you sane. I am glad you took the time to completely live your feelings. He is on the road to recovery and will get better from here. You take good care of yourself, my dear. Like you said, health is wealth. And we are all fragile humans. Lots of love and hugs!

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    1. It was quite a harrowing time, Rachna. Something I hadn’t expected. But, that’s life, isn’t it? Always uncertain, always springing surprises and shocks! And, we really have no choice but be strong, especially when the person who takes care of us, needs to be cared for. It was really stressful and frightening. But, I am happy it has passed. And, also taught me a few things.

      Thank you so much for the love! Truly appreciate the concern!<3

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  2. I am so touched that you shared this post, Shilpa. I am also equally glad that husband is better and getting back to work.

    Your life lessons are so much on point and I was nodding along with every single one. I remember feeling shell shocked when you told me about what happened. Immediately sent up a prayer for you and the family.

    Here’s sending you lots more good vibes and prayers for continued good health always.

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    1. It was shocking for us all, too, Shailaja. But, when I thought back later, I realised that we all go through some really tough times in our Life. And, facing them is all we can do.

      Thank you so so much for all the love and, yes, also the help with the GDPR thing. I completely lacked any willpower or even the inclination to do anything about it!

      Love you lots!

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  3. Oh God! I am so sorry to hear that and I’m also glad that he’s feeling better now.

    Mental health is not something we focus only much and hence it takes a toll on us and everyone around us. Life is so fragile, if you look at it. You never know what happens when.

    Health is wealth indeed and that is only wealth we need. Everything is secondary.

    You are very brave to share the experience here, Shilpa. Lots of hugs and positive vibes to you to get past this trying time.

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    1. Oh yes, Soumya. We take our health for granted, thinking that we are invincible, till it’s too late. And, mental health is something we just push under the carpet. I wish more and more people would share their experiences so others wouldn’t feel lonely.

      Thank you so much for all the love! ❤

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  4. I am so sorry to hear about this, Shilpa. I wish I could reach out from the screen and give you a hug.

    You are incredibly brave to share about this difficult experience. It couldn’t have been easy, dealing with it or sharing it. And yet you chose to take the best lessons away from the whole traumatic incident. It takes a really strong to do that.

    I am glad that hubby is doing better. I hope you both find healing and peace as you move forward.

    Hugs. Loads and loads of hugs.<3

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      1. At such times, Shantala, we all really have no choice but to be strong, isn’t it? Helpless, scared, but facing it all bravely. We all do that and yet crumbling down from within.

        I really need that hug, sweetie!

        Thank you so much! ❤

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  5. Really candid and brave post Shilpa. I admire the way you have handled this crisis with patience and grace. As cliched as it sounds things do get better and this too shall pass!!

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  6. I am glad to see you back strong. It was a difficult period and that day when you told me about everything, I really felt like being there with you. I know it happens that no matter how many close people we have around but we are still prone to feel lonleliness in tough situations. The one thing that leaves us strong is our ability to overcome that feeling of loneliness and shambles. Hugs to you for you did not have only this to deal with but also you had to take care of your husband. I hope with your husband on the recovery path and you choosing to write this post, it will be helpful for you to put your mind in the right space. Your life lessons are pertinent to each one of us here. We tend to keep rushing with an eye on the illusionary achievements and losing touch with what really matters.
    For people (bloggers) like us, the achievement cannot be numbers and followers and likes and comments, but the necessity to keep writing to stay sane. I sincerely believe in this.

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    1. Oh yes, Anamika. Writing, and living, to maintain our sanity! I am glad I pushed myself to write, else I would have completely slipped into depression.

      Wonder when we all will realise what is truly precious and matters more and what doesn’t!

      Thank you for the love, dear! ❤

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  7. Shilpa, a tight hug to you. Stay strong. I have been in similar situation feeling so lonely surrounded by my small kids wondering whether things will ever get back to normal. It took some time to be back to routine, but it took daily moments of living care to get there. Take care.

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    1. How tough it must have been for you with your kids beside you, Lata! The little ones looking at you for support and also your loved ones needing the help, it must have been a tough situation for you.

      Hugs to you, too!

      Thank you for the love! ❤

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  8. You are a brave girl Shilpa to share your very personal issues and I admire your courage and tenacity to take life on the chin. Indeed we take so many things for granted and credit for so many more . But as you said life’s challenges bring out the best in us an make us appreciate all that we really have .
    I am happy that your husband is getting back on his feet and you are getting back to your old cheery self . Keep smiling dear Shilpa – I love that you find life so beautiful.

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    1. Sunita, I had no choice really, than to go through it. That’s what happens to us all.. We all go through such tough phases bravely and come out much smarter. And I feel such things happen just because we take Life for granted. Maybe we need to learn something and hence we have to go through such phases.

      Thank you so much, my dear! ❤

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  9. Oh my Shilpa believe me I know what you went through. A huge hug and a truckload of wishes and strength to you for getting through this. Don’t let it get you down and just go with the flow to keep your chin up. Do as much as you can and don’t berate yourself for what you can’t. I loved your learnings from this girl and yes God doesn’t abandon at all. Keeping you both in my thought darling and I hope to connect wit you soonest.

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  10. Shilps you are one wise, brave, caring soul! I have watched your journey and followed your writing and it’s an inspiration. While most of us go through turmoils, few have the courage to share openly and let others learn from it. So proud of you sis and always wishing you love and peace

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  11. My husband has two family members with bipolar, and my best friend has a good friend with this illness – I applaud you for breaking through the stigma and sharing your experience. It is heartening to see the support you are receiing so I will say only “thank you for sharing”. Wishing continued healing for you and your husband.

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      1. All better now…thankfully! And it does pass – but it needs quite a bit of patience and determination…
        Hope you and your husband are feeling better too!

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  12. Oh Shilpa, you’ve been through a torrid time. I’m so sorry, and yet out of it you can see blessings. Thank you for sharing with us. And well done on pulling yourself out of possible severe depression by getting your words down on “paper”.
    This post was written for me! I was sailing along in my over-worked, out-of-control schedule when life hit me a jolt too with three life-threatening hypertensive crises within a month. I can tell you it’s sobered me up big time! This must not happen again. A much more sedate “me” is emerging cautiously from my cocoon! Blessings my friend! Thankful Thursday Week 22 and thoughts on dateless posts.

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    1. “This must not happen again, ” is just what we have been praying, too, Shirley. Life does that to us –give us jolts out of the blue. Maybe to sober us up, wisen us up and change our tracks.

      I hope you are feeling better now. Please take good care of yourself. Shirley. Health is the most important aspect of our life!

      Hugs!!

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  13. ((((hugs)))) It can be scary and hard to deal with episodes like these, and even more vulnerable to share them. I’m glad to hear your husband is on the mend and that you were able to take this in your stride too. xx

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  14. Oh Shilpa, big hugs! That’s a lot to go through. Glad to hear that your hubby is on the road to recovery but understandably, none of it is easy. It’s good you have family and friends around for support. Mental illness is a bitch and can hit when you least expect it. Do reach out if you need any added support. Once again, big hugs and keeping you in my thoughts.

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    1. Oh, it is just not easy, Sanch. And you so need your family and friends by your side throughout the ordeal. And you are so right. It is indeed a bitch and hits you when you least expect.

      Thank you so very much, my dear!

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  15. Shilpa! Courage and you are such a strong, powerful woman who stood with your husband during this tough times. It’s so true about mental health and the need to give it topmost priority in life overriding everything. Agree, privacy in such harrowing times matters loads and your hubby is such a rockstar for getting on his feet.

    Sending you vibes and hugs

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    1. Oh, that he is, Vishal. He has been through the worst of storms and come out stronger. It’s just that his illness pulled him down for a while. I hope he stays healthy always.

      Thank you so much!

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  16. I’ve always admired you, dear Shilpa and reading this just reinforced my feelings about you (a hundred times over). I love how you have processed this whole experience and managed to squeeze wonderful lessons out of it. I can’t even begin to imagine how scary this experience must have been for both of you. Holding you and your hubby in thought and prayer. ♥

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    1. I wasn’t as positive and as ‘open-minded’ when it happened, Corinne. it’s just that with a lot of reflection over what happened and how it could have been worse, that led me to count my blessings.
      Thank you so much! ❤

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  17. Post a long break from blogging, I am on a blog-hopping and I read this post of yours.Hugs,Shilpa.
    I can imagine how difficult it would have been but for the support of family and dear ones.Stay strong .
    Prayers to your family !

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  18. The exhaustion after ebook had set in and I missed reading out on a lot of posts. When I started reading this post, I was choked with emotions. I am sorry that you had to go through this but I feel so incredibly proud to call you my friend for the way you handled the situation and came out stronger. I strongly believe in the saying ‘Life is what happens to you when are busy making other plans.’ Love and hugs to you my dear. I am sure everything is going to be much better very soon. Keeping you and your family in my prayers.

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    1. You said it, Sonia!!
      Life is, definitely, what happens when you are busy making plans!
      It was tough, it still is, but I have decided to take it one day at a time. Makes it less stressful than thinking about the future.

      Thank you so much! 🙏❤

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  19. Hugs Shilpa!!! You are indeed brave to face it. Mental health is not spoken about in our country. Its all hushed up. I appreciate your courage to share your story with all of us. It is such a mature way to let it all down and face the issue rather than sulk about it. hope both of you are feeling better now. Take care and the blogosphere had been missing you dearie!

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    1. It needs to be spoken about, no doubt. It might give others some solace in knowing they aren’t alone.

      I just consider it to be a bad phase in our Life.. And this too shall pass.

      Thank you so much, dear Ramya! 💟💟

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  20. Hello Shilpa, I am sorry you and your family had to go through all this. Mental illness is something we least think about and when it shows its ugly face, it swallows everyone,the patient and care givers alike.

    I am also glad that you came out of it strong,and pulled out your partner too. I am sure you are seeing yourself in a new light now, as courageous, strong and a kick-ass woman who can break her own barriers and unleash new potential when the need arises.

    Its amusing and amazing what we can be when there is no choice left.

    Cheers to you Shilpa. Wish your husband a speedy recovery. You both need lots of strength and love, and may you have loads of them.

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    1. Wow, Sampada! Your words instilled in me a confidence I rarely have felt, despite anything I have done!

      Thank you so much for your encouraging words… You made my day! But, as you say, we really have no choice, do we, than to face it and fight it out? That way, all of us are the courageous, kickass people we rarely consider ourselves to be!

      Thank you so so much for the love and warmth! ❤

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