What part of Life is, actually, in your control?
We live each day planning for the next day, the next week, the next month, the next year. Rarely do we pause to live in the present; rarely do we pause to consider if the plans we make for our future will come to fruition, living, as we always are, in a world of illusion that we are the Masters of our destinies!
And, it’s as we go along living for our tomorrows, when Life gives us a jolt, straight out of the blue. Like the one, I received three weeks ago.
Busy planning my tomorrows, I was blithely unaware of the storm looming on the horizon. A storm that threw life in disarray and brought all my master plans to a standstill.
Hubby had a manic episode of Bipolar disorder, and we all found ourselves caught in the burning lava of a raging volcano. No offense meant, but, yes, that’s how a manic episode feels like. So, I won’t go much into the details except share with you how all of my best-laid plans had to be tossed into the sea, and how I came out of it all a lot more enlightened, a lot saner.
A week in the hospital and home since two, hubby is recuperating at home and getting better.
And, for me, my life took a turn–for the better.
Yes, it’s only when our life is in the turmoil that we learn the true meaning of Life, of the trials and tribulations we face throughout and the lessons we learn from them all.
For, it’s precisely in such moments of immense stress and hopelessness that we learn to look at life from a whole new angle, with clarity we lacked earlier. Stressful though these past three weeks were (and that would be an understatement!), I am sorta glad we went through it all.
The stuff I learned from it is something I would never have learned otherwise.
Hubby is recovering. Touchwood. And, I got back to blogging, which I had put on the back-burner all these days. I didn’t even have the will to open my laptop or pick up a book or go out for a walk. Watching animal videos on Facebook and solving Sudoku puzzles was all I did when I felt bogged down by all that was happening.
But, nothing lasts forever, and so here I am, doing what I do best — sharing my thoughts with you. The loneliness during such periods can get rather stifling, though, so I had to get back to connecting with you all!
There are some lessons I learned from all that happened, as I said earlier, and I would like to share those with you.
ADVERSITIES TEACH US IMPORTANT LIFE LESSONS:
The saying, “Health is Wealth”, is rather underrated in today’s world, or so I believe. The mad rush to achieve success, earn money, reach ahead in “the race” has us completely disregarding our health. The result: Life decides to take matters into Her own hands and gives us a jolt.
So, prioritize your health over all else, for the simple reason that if your health doesn’t cooperate, what will you really gain in Life, except, maybe a super deluxe room at a private clinic!?
Look after your mental health, too, even if you aren’t suffering from a mental illness. Remember, it’s our mind that guides us in caring for our wellbeing.
Sleep. 8 hours or 9, or as long as it takes to rejuvenate you, but, sleep. Don’t skip it for work. Ever.
DO NOT consider yourself to be a superhero, because you are not. You are just a human being with a body that needs energy, rest and relaxation. Give yourself the necessary TLC. You need it. Always.
Live in the TODAY!
Live in the present that’s been gifted to you, and, tomorrow will take care of itself. I can’t reiterate this point enough. It’s a known fact that despite knowing the preciousness of the present, we continue living in the future, for the future.
Make a Plan A and a Plan B and a Plan C, and toss it all out into the sea! Life has already made a foolproof master plan for us all and it’s according to Her plans that we will proceed. Best to just let Her take over the controls, isn’t it?
Be grateful for everything.
While running around getting things under control at the hospital, I felt abandoned by God. How I failed to see that in everything that was working out, God was at work, standing beside me, making things happen.
It’s a fact we fail to notice when in times of distress when things are not going our way. But, trust me, God never abandons us.
Push aside every negative thought, focus on the moment and count your blessings. And, breathe.
Cherish your family and close friends.
These few people are the only ones who will be by your side in your time of need. Treasure them. And, those who reach out to you in the virtual world, from miles away, enquiring about your wellbeing. There are really only a handful few people in your world who truly care.
I am thankful my dear sis-in-law was by my side for two entire weeks. My parents, brother and a couple of hubby’s close friends. Can really never thank them enough! And, of course, the prayers of dear ones!
Learn to rescue yourself.
And, finally, this was a phase when the man who vowed to care for me for the rest of my life needed to be cared for, himself. I had to take over the mantle of the Knight in the shining armor to fight the battle and slay the dragon.
It did get rather lonely and scary. I really don’t know how I functioned that week in the hospital. Maybe, it was the adrenaline that pushed me from one moment to the next, or maybe, I was running on autopilot. I have no clue. God was with me, of course.
But, I guess, I was put through this test to see if I was strong enough to rescue myself. And, I did.
So, yes, there will come a time in your life when you will need to rescue not just your loved ones, but also yourself. You will be a bundle of nerves, exhausted, sleep-deprived and lonely, ready to flee the scene. But, believe me, you will stay put and play the rescuer, with a strength you never knew you possessed. Trust yourself. And, the Almighty.
Getting back to blogging has not been easy. The depression threatened to swallow me if I didn’t do anything about it. But, all I had to do, was look at hubby, who despite his slow movements–thanks to the antipsychotic drugs and mood stabilizers–has gotten back to work, albeit a few hours a day.
How could I not get inspired!
Life is a mystery (don’t even try to solve it!). It has weird ways of teaching us lessons and giving us a reality check when we least expect it. Life can be scary, too. But, during some quiet moments, when we look at it closely, we realize that Life is also beautiful. Really, really beautiful. All we need to do is count our blessings.
There’s this quote I read recently:
“Life is constantly talking to us. Are you listening?”
To learn our lessons, we do need to listen to Life, isn’t it?
A gentle request, if you happen to be hubby’s friend. He is on the road to recovery and needs his privacy. Kindly refrain from contacting him to inquire about his wellbeing.