Habits make you.

It’s the first day of a brand new month, and a good day as any, to begin something new. So, why not do something that I have been trying to work on, but failing successfully for so long now?  My mind was as wide awake last night at 1 am, as it is at 8 am, as I lay in bed, ruminating on the need for something new, something different.

My Geminian nerves get restless if something new and exciting isn’t happening every now and then. I get bored with the little things in life. No, I don’t cast away those boring little things, I just push them to some far corner of my mind and look for something to replace them with; something that challenges me, makes me work hard and changes me in its own little way.

So, as I lay thinking about this much-needed change I wished to bring, a line from an Instagram post flashed in my mind. A blogger friend, Vasantha Vivek shared it–a digital detox tip:

“Stay away from your mobile before 9 am & after 9 pm everyday.

 

These words just popped out of nowhere last night and I almost sat up! Now, that is the kind of change I needed! Since the longest time, I have been trying to break this particular habit of mine, but in vain. I would just give up after a week, or so, and then repent. But, what good was all that repentance when I wasn’t doing anything about it?

So, last night, I decided, that, this is it, enough is enough.  This is what’s been bothering me, and I am going to get it out of my system, altogether. How wonderful it felt! And, today being the 1st of a new month, I felt I needed something new to feel good about.  A good change that would, definitely, help me.

So, today, my phone stayed far away from me till 9 am and after 9 pm and also in between.

Do you wish to know how well I succeeded?

Today, I finished my chores before the usual time.

I finished writing a new article.

I worked on a blog post for the next week and prepared a Pinterest image for the same.

I began reading a new motivational book.

And, finally, my eyes felt less tired as I did not strain them by staring mindlessly at my phone.

So, thank you, Vasantha, if you are reading this!

 

Life was really so much more peaceful and less distracting before these damned smart phones invaded our world, isn’t it? And, we, the idiots, just let ourselves get all carried away, and now, look where it’s landed us!

But, as I said, any day is a good day to break an old habit and work on forming a new one.

TIPS TO FORM A NEW HABIT:

1. Think about the one habit you really wish to change.

2. Write it down in your journal.

3. On a page, write the date you decide on beginning the change. 

4. Mark the date that comes 21 days later (a habit normally takes 21 days to change).

5. Make conscious efforts to make sure you follow the change you have decided upon.

6. Make an entry in your journal everyday about how you fared.

7. Be mindful about how you behave, the activities that you do.

8. At the end of a week, see if there is any improvement. If there is, reward yourself to motivate yourself to keep going.

9. At the end of 21 days, see if you have been successful in breaking the habit for good.

10. Celebrate your victory!

 

 

It does need a lot of work, and patience, to keep working on yourself so that that old, annoying habit doesn’t return and ruin things for us.

I plan on working on it, working on myself and coming back a month later to read this post and write a new one about how I kept my word to myself, so, help me God!

it takes about 21 days to form a new habit. I plan on waiting for 31 days to see how well I succeed. I know, I will succeed!  I quit drinking coffee! Yup, it’s been more than a month now, and it feels so good!

So, do visit Metanoia on the 1st of next month to see if I do succeed!

Do you wish to join me in bringing about a little change in yourself? Maybe something similar to what I have decided–changing the relationship we have with our stupid phones?  Do let me know and we will work towards it, one day at a time, one step at a time. 

Love,

SHILPA..

 

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It is difficult changing old habits. But, it helps to form new ones for the sake of your health.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

174 thoughts on “Habits make you.”

  1. My son has been telling me these days that I am always working on the mobile. I started one day of the week as my social media detox day. Logged out of all social media networks. Worked well for 3 weeks. Now with My friend Alexa, I doubt if this will possibly in Sept.

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  2. Good luck with your new habit. I can’t not have my phone before 9 am because I’m up at 5 and use my phone at the gym for music etc. But I do agree I need to use it less after 9 pm. For me, one habit I need to change is to try and go to bed earlier especially as I wake up early. I find some habits easier than others – exercise for example was an easy habit to form. Oh, and I could never give up coffee! Was there a reason you gave it up? I love my coffee and have two a day

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    1. I gave up coffee because I realised I had become too dependent on it for my daily does of enthusiasm. And, the high I gained from my morning coffee lasted for a couple hours after which my body felt depleted of its fuel! Now, since quitting coffee, I feel less lethargic, more energetic and less craving for chocolates, too. Of course, I won’t give up on my chocolates–I don’t need to as I am pretty much within limits with it. 😀

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  3. Shilpa, glad you embarked on this journey. Good luck to you. Will be here reading your post next month to know your progress. I have started weekly digital detox, I don’t touch my phone except for calls on Sunday. And I find I have more time that day to read and watch TV. You quit coffee, and I have recently taken to drinking black coffee once a day, it gives me the push to write better I feel. Anyway, it’s not an addiction yet thankfully and I prefer keeping it that way.

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    1. Anshu, I quit coffee because I felt I was depending upon it for the energy that I could actually find in a healthier breakfast. I did make some changes in my diet and so coffee–despite being my fav–had to leave. But, now, I am glad I quit because I no longer suffer from any highs and lows that coffee used to give me.

      SO, keeping my fingers crossed for this phone habit, too!

      Thank you so much! ❤

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      1. Wow, that’s good, Shilpa! I also don’t want to make this coffee drinking into a habit. So I consciously don’t drink it on certain days and fare reasonably well without it! Good luck to you on your quitting phone habit too!

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  4. I owe a thank you to Vasantha as well, Shilpa. Saw her post lately and started following it. Digital detox is needed, big time. Technology has taken over us so much that it becomes overwhelming at times. However, with Alexa going on plus many more things on my plate, it’s challenging for me to stay away from my phone but the next two months, I’m on vacation to India and phone is the last thing on my mind.

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    1. Yes, with Alexa going on it might be tough, but at least these posts we read on the computer and that is still better than using the phone. Giving ourselves enough breaks through the day will help us stay undisturbed by these bigger machines, too! 🙂

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  5. Thats one fruitful decision Shilpa! Good luck on containing your time online.

    I removed my FB app so I dont get distracted by the notifications and messenger .. but I still end up looking at FB from browser every now and then 😂.

    I took one look at Instagram and realized how addictive it was! I found myself being drawn to lives of random people, known people, unknown people, and stopped myself from going there again. Thankfully thats one less thing that eats my time.

    So thats a great decision! Keep going.

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    1. Thanks Sampada!
      I haven’t installed the Messenger app on my phone. Moreover, I have realised that Whatsapp brings for me only jokes that need not be read in the mornings. I have retained the FB app because sharing my drawings through this app is easier for me than sharing it via my lappie. But, I so need to reduce my time on my phone, with my phone, rather. I have been doing it, but not diligently. That’s why I decided to do this..from today onwards. 🙂 ❤

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  6. I’d never be on it, then, as I work from about 7:30 to…whenever I feel “done” (might be 5:00pm, might be midnight). I’m hardly ever on the mobile during work, unless it’s work related. So… won’t be joining you in THAT, what fun would that be? 🙂 Other habits, though… yes. Working on a few, mostly related to healthy eating, exercise, and organization, as we speak.

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  7. Sounds like a wonderful idea. Though I won’t say I am addicted but yes atleast for my blogging stuff I do get a little carried away from time to time… I do make these plans on and off though. Good luck with this challenge along with the blogger challenge. You can do it…😊 👍

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    1. Kalpana, I am not as addicted, but yes, I realise that if I use it less, I will have more time at my disposal and that is the reason I want to work on it.

      Thank you so much for visiting! 🙂

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  8. Habits are such an intriguing facets in our life. Good habits makeup our life. Bad habits breakup our life.

    There is no good time to start a good habit, any time is good time and there is no time stop a bad time and any time, the earlier the better. Unfortunately the bad habits come quickly to us as they are easy and good habits take their sweet time and they need hard work and determination and commitment to get the bad habits going away from us and good habits going with us.

    In today’s digital immersion and distraction, nothing be better than the digital detox, and it is such task and once done we get heaven of a relief. There is so much do and there is so much peace of mind when we are away from this digital clutter.
    Shilpa, your experiences says it all. The 9-9 formula works out well and it just needs to be given the 21 days to make it a habit…

    As a Geminian, we are indeed restless breed and look for constant excitement, routine things makes us feel quickly bored unless we work our way and there is that zest for creativity and exploration always has to on the go.
    😀

    #MyFriendAlexa, #MakeupReads

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    1. You are so right, Nihar! Good habits take time to form unlike bad habits, and that is because of the hard work that is needed to form a good habit. But, still, we need to put in that hard work if we want to achieve something in our life. And, for now, I want peace…and time, so I am going to do my best and get rid of this phone habit, once and for all!

      Thank you so much for your comment, Nihar, it was a pleasure reading your thoughts!

      Thanks for visiting!

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    1. Yes, Arvind. I tried and I succeeded in quitting my fav brew–coffee. Now I need to quit using the phone. If I do that, I will consider myself stronger than I give myself credit for! 🙂

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  9. Digital Detox is so very necessary for our mind and body. Vasantha..She is a gem. Her words are always so motivating. Good luck to you Shilpa. And Kudos to you for following the words. We often fails when it comes to strictly following something. Best of luck!!
    #MothersGurukulreads #MyFriendAlexa

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  10. That’s wonderful to hear Shilpa and I think I too need that detox. Honestly, I have been trying myself to stay away from phone when I’m with my kid and atleast I have 80% succeeded in it but I need more strong resolution and work. Thanks for inspiring me. #Myfriendalexa #mommyinmereads

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  11. Phones have become important not just to ‘stay in touch’ but also because many of us do a lot of work on them too. That said, its true that it takes away our productive time while other things like reading, tidying up or simple family time suffer. Would like to take this up too sometime. All the best for it, Shilpa.

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  12. That is a great article on breaking bad habits. And I guess it is in the nature of the human mind to crave for something new to feel good about after the old excitement dies down. I will definitely come back to your blog and see how successful you have been in keeping the smartphone away at the said times. Wish you success!!! I would also like to mention that I was a chain smoker for 17 years, a terrible habit that I picked in my first year of college. I quit and now it is 17 years since I quit. It took a lot of effort and a life threatening night for me to break that habit.

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  13. My husband often tells me that I should throw away my phone in a pond, because whenever the kids are around, I refuse to look at it. That’s my rule for digital detox. All the best to you, for your new resolute

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  14. I am already with you on this. My detox month has already started, and I plan to make the best out of it.
    Fingers crossed!

    P.S: I am a Gemini too. So hoping we don’t get bored of this anytime soon 😀

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    1. HAha! No no, we won’t get bored of it, because by the time this month comes to an end, we will be well habituated about staying away from our phones! And, I am sure we will find something new to keep ourselves positively occupied! 😛

      Thanks for the visit! 🙂

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  15. This is a very informative post. Yes, we must break bad habit and form good habit. As Swami Vivekananda said, we remove bad habit with good habit and eventually go beyond habit and be free. I think everyone should read this blog.

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  16. Very nice decision. I am already not addicted to WhatsApp etc. so use my phone mainly for audio calls and not being much talkative, I am mostly on receiving side.
    Yes there are some habits with everybody which should be changed for better.
    All the best.

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  17. Totally relate with it. New challenge is what I crave for to stay energized and motivated. Best of luck for staying away from your phone. As far as I am concerned, I think phone has already been replaced as My Friend Alexa requires us to use laptop more.:)
    #mannreads

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    1. Yes, these days the phone gets less attention thanks to My Friend Alexa, but I feel it is a good thing as now we will lose the habit of having our phones with us all the time! 🙂

      Thank you for visiting!

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  18. I know you can do it and I know you will complete this challenge, Shilpa. I am joining you on this challenge today onwards. Let’s compare notes at the end of the month. Thanks for sharing this!

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  19. I am a Geminian too and can understand your boredom! 🙂 On another note, digital detox is something I preach and write but actually doing it is another thing!

    Good luck with your phone hiatus for 12 hrs.day! 🙂

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  20. That’s a wonderful idea, Shilpa. I started my own little thing by uninstalling FB from my phone and deleting my old personal profile. The new one is only for my blog and I access it only from my laptop. After Alexa, Twitter is going to join the list as well.

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  21. O well… I often tell my son, the laptop is a monster. I make sure my son stays away far from these monsters.. but what about us. every now and then we need to detox ourselves as well. Thanks for the reminder, Shilpa.

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  22. Digital detox is something which I’m working on lately. It’s very important to stay off any electronic device at least one hour before you hit the sack, otherwise insomnia shoots up (read it somewhere).
    On another point: your art-works are fantastic. Loved them. 🙂

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  23. I was thinking of digital detox this week and in fact had an animated conversation with a friend about it.

    I try to not look at the phone the first thing in the morning. Instead try and work on my gratitude list …

    The phone is a trap once in never out…

    I need all the luck.
    Crossed fingers we can do this 😎

    #myfriendalexa #indiabeautyreads

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  24. This is a great idea – to break a habit you felt was taking over your life. I for one am not addicted to my phone so won’t join in this habit. My phone is automatically away from me during the working day at school – mostly from 8 am to 5 pm and I really value the interactions I can have with my friends and family once I am home. I may think of some other habit I want to inculcate in myself. Great post Shilpa!

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  25. Hi Shilpa, Lovely blog. I am an advocate of digital detox too. Initially, it was difficult, but I managed to adopt a healthy habit or two. I try to avoid internet usage on weekends generally, but not this September #MyFriendAlexa 🙂 All the best.

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  26. Indeed digital detox is the best habit to form. Alas, I really get time to WA or see my phone only after 9 pm. But as you say, I can concentrate on healthy habits like regular exercise, healthy eating etc rather than worry about digital addiction and chucking it.

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  27. I came across Vasantha’s work recently. She is amazing. With a toddler around me most of the time am in digital detox and get hands on mobile around 11pm. I will try to adopt a habit and try for next 21 days, yet to choose from exercise or diet or both.

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  28. Its really not an easy task to get over such attachments which is actually a type of addiction, good to go through your experience and how did you deal with it.
    Once i became to some extent attached with youtube but soon i left the habit of watching now and then.

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  29. Okay, first things first! Hello Gemini Sister. I was happy to read this post and even more excited to know that you feel the same about changes. I get bored easily too unless something exciting and new happens in my life! Happy Happy September! Looking forward to your October post with accomplished goals. I love Vasantha’s tips. Since I find time only after 9pm and before 9am, I am a bad follower of this! But one lovely tip, that I will definitely implement soon.

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    1. Hello, Gemini sister, to you too, Jayanthy! It is what I have read so many times that we Geminis are restless. Well, that’s how we all are..it’s what makes us unique!

      Yes, change is what I like often, but there are certain things that even if i don’t wish to change, I will have to.

      Let’s hope I come up with my success post next month.

      Thank you so much for dropping by!

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