A new word to guide me through the new year.

2018 was an eventful year for me.

Not a day went by without teaching me something–a lesson for life, a survival trick, a secret to living Life! And, for all that happened–bad, worse, worst–I am grateful for it all.

That’s not to say that good things didn’t take place. They did. Loads of good happened, too, for which I am grateful. But, it’s the difficult times that I am thankful for. It’s always the tough times, the troubles, the stressors that make us stronger, wiser, saner.

I read somewhere that a year can do a lot to a person. Couldn’t agree more!

2018 changed me completely. The person I was, changed to the person I am today–a person I am proud of and look up to. I really don’t mean to brag about myself, but today, when I look back at who I was, I feel embarrassed…I cringe when I see who I was back then. So, am glad things happened the way they did this year!

Last year, I had chosen the words, HOPE and FAITH to guide me in 2018. They did.

It was hope that kept me from losing patience, and faith that led me by my hand as I strove to face every odd that came my way. And, no, hubby’s illness was not the only thing that went horribly wrong this year. But, everything else that did go wrong is something that will always always stay with me, reminding me about the ephemeral nature of Life; that Life is not to be taken seriously, for it’s never constant.

The few lessons I learned in 2018 are:

NOTHING IS PERMANENT

EXPECTATIONS BREAK YOUR HEART, SO NEVER EXPECT ANYTHING FROM ANYONE, LEAST OF ALL FROM LIFE.

And,

LIVE IN THE MOMENT.

 

This moment that I am alive is the only moment I have, so it only makes sense to make the most of it.

Live in the here and the now.

Of course, I have made a couple of plans for the next year, but being flexible as far as seeing those plans come to fruition is what I have decided. I don’t know if I will be able to fulfil all those plans, but I would like to do my best today and let tomorrow take care of itself!

So, my word for this year is:

CARPE DIEM

Seize the day!

Do my best, today.

Be my best, today.

Be as happy and grateful as I can be, today.

( Erm, is there a word for ‘Seize the moment’? I didn’t find any!)

That’s all. I just don’t wish to think about what the future holds for me. I would just like to focus on this moment, on today...this day…and be happy that I am alive; with everything I have (as well as all that I don’t).

Isn’t that much easier to do than make big resolutions and then slip off the track when Life drops a bomb on you, as Life is wont to do!? *wink wink*

So, what is your WOTY? Have you thought of any?

Love,

SHILPA…

 

 

35 thoughts on “A new word to guide me through the new year.”

  1. A really good choice! I lost count how many times I have broken myself because of relentless expectations. Thank you for infusing us with your positive thoughts. As for me I believe “Gratitude” is the word of the year for me.

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    1. Expectations do that to us, isn’t it? I learned it the hard way and that’s why remember it everyday.
      Gratitude is a good word–that’s my goal for 2019…to be grateful for everything, everyday! That will keep me contented, for sure!

      Thank you for visiting! Wish you a wonderful new year!

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  2. I loved your choice of word, Shilpa. It makes so much sense. Why make huge plans and set humongous expectations that are prone to fail and give a heartbreak, when you can live in the moment and just be happy knowing that you gave your best today. I agree, setbacks and heartbreaks impart lessons much needed for the survival. That being said, I wish you a better 2019, where you live everyday to your fullest, feeling much loved and grateful, enjoying the very best life can offer you, without heartbreaks or setbacks. May you fulfill your every dream and aspiration in the days ahead! ❀️

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    1. Thank you so much, Vini! I, too, wish to see myself in a better space, mentally and emotionally, and for that Carpe Diem felt like the perfect choice!

      ❀ Much love to you, dear friend!

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  3. I loved your WOTY, Shilpa! It is mine too, albeit slightly differently phrased. πŸ˜‰ I am completely with you on this one, my friend. ‘Take life as it comes and live in the moment’ is my motto for the coming year and as much as I’d like to hope the very best for myself, I wish you a wonderful and very creatively fulfilling 2019, dear Shilpa. And, along with that I also wish that may the coming year bring you everything you’ve been wishing for yourself this year. May the troubles divide and disappear and may the joys double! Raising a toast to a Happy 2019! ❀

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    1. I so love you for the way you express your feelings, Eshu!
      Ditto to you, for all that you wish for me!
      We so need it all, isn’t it? Peace of mind, acceptance of life and people and taking each day as it comes. And, yes, the ability to do our best!

      ❀

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  4. Hugs, Shilpa. Sorry you had to go through so much–I wish there was a way I could have made the load lighter.

    For me, 2018 taught me that a cliche can be true: In Hindi, we have a phrase, jo bhee hota hai achche ke liye hota hai.

    Time was, this phrase drove me nuts with anger.

    But I’ve seen the wisdom of it now, and I say: jo bhi hua achche ke liye hua, jo ho raha hai achche ke liye ho raha hai, jo bhi hoga, achche ke liye hoga.

    This is because, I’ve realised that whatever happens, the only thing in my control is my reaction: and if I react with calm (and joy, wherever possible) to everything that happens, then everything that happens, is good, right?

    I’m taking this phrase with me into the new year: IT IS ALL GOOD. (If I react right, nothing is wrong–you have my permission to laugh long and loudly!)

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    1. Oh, this has been my mother’s mantra all her life…Whatever happens, happens for the best. And, whatever doesn’t happen, does, too! There is so much meaning to it, really. It is something I have always believed, and reiterated each time things go right, or wrong.

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  5. Your WOTY aid my motto for life . This year I plan on choosing fitness – mainly as a reminder to be more organised and get everything fit in my life – right from my own health to my blog health. Funnily enoughi find that the WOTY somehow lands up being the right choice at the end of the year !
    My WOTY for 2018 was calm and this was what guided me through. So I hope 2019 will see a fitter me !
    May you seize lots of moments while you seize the day ! Keep smiling and good wishes for the new year

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    1. Oh so true, Sunita! Last year, when I chose HOPE and FAITH, I didn’t know how much I would be needing these two words this year! That’s why, I decided to just take it each moment at a time, or each day at a time, as it comes. Life can give us such surprises and shocks, I tell you! πŸ˜› And, that’s why, CARPE DIEM! I don’t wish to care what comes tomorrow, or the next moment.

      Wish you a healthy year–for you as well as your blog–just the way you desire!

      Much love! ❀

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    1. That’s just what I did, Sanch. I thought about all that happened this year, and what all I learned from it, and how I wish to live the next year, or the next moment, really! Choosing a word really helps, right? You keep reminding yourself about it all the time and it helps you stay on track, despite everything.

      ❀

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    1. The one thing I so wish to do next year, InshaAllah, is travel alone, like you do. Or, at least, go watch films alone. If I am able to do it, I will be one jubilant soul! Then, we will meet and celebrate, theek hai? πŸ˜›

      Love to you!

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  6. What a happy go luck y word – get it tattooed πŸ™‚
    I havent yet thought of my WOTY yet nor have I reflected back on how it has been for me in this year yet – guess will do so on 31st or so and maybe write about it too!!
    Wishing you tonnes of love and luck for the year to come and hugs to our friendship- one of the best thing of 2018 was meeting you finally
    xoxo

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  7. Carpe Diem is a good word of the year. It takes loads of mindfulness to live in the moment. I wish you all the best for 2019. I hope all the good things turn out exactly how you have planned them to. I have my word of the year in my mind and will write a post soon.

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    1. Oh yes, mindfulness is one of the most important things I learned to practice this year. And, that’s why , Carpe Diem–to drill some sense into my head that I am supposed to continue living in this moment, without thinking about the future.
      Thank you so much, Anu, and hope the new year brings to you lots of peace of mind!

      Waiting to read about your WOTY. πŸ™‚
      ❀

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  8. Loved the new WOTY. Yes… seize the moment. Such a meaningful word for the new year. One can never predict what the future holds, but as long as we keep the zeal alive inside us, we can sail through tough times. Hope the new year brings in happiness and lots of love.

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  9. Words of wisdom Shilpa. We make plans and think if A, B and C is fulfilled we will be contended but then you don’t realise that God has other plans. Live in the moment is apt for you never know whats in store. Wishing you a happy and healthy 2019

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    1. So true, Akshata! And, it is only because we make such big plans that we suffer from heartbreak and frustration when those plans don’t come to fruition. As well make the best of what we have and the moments we have and leave the rest to the Universe!

      Wish you too a very happy and a peaceful new year!
      ❀

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    1. I did it for the first time last year, Lydia, and for me, those two words I chose helped me all through the year. So, from whatever I learned last year, I decided to go with Carpe Diem and make it my motto.:)

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  10. We haven’t met yet, Shilpa, but your writing is a reflection of the gradual change in you. Carpe Diem is one of my favorite words, and it is truly powerful! Here’s wishing you seize every moment and move it in the direction you want it to!
    Have a great 2019!

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    1. It’s an honour for me, Mayuri! Thank you so much!
      Carpe Diem is, I feel, the way we all must live life. It does reduce a lot of stress, isn’t it? And, it is just what I wish to work on every day.

      Wish you, too, a very beautiful and a peaceful new year! May it fulfil your dreams and help you reach the goals you set out for yourself!
      ❀

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  11. Carpe Diem reminds me of Robin Williams and Dead Poets Society. That movie was so beautiful. I hope your 2019 is wonderful, and you’re able to live up to your WOTY motto every day! Happy New Year, Shilpa.

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  12. Thinking about my word of the year, it struck me that it is our experiences that lead us on to what we want out of the next year. And when we chose our woty, it helps us lead a purposeful life, rather than drift through life or being unhealthily focused on just one aspect or goal. Being in the moment, or mindfulness is sure to help you grow from within and give you the joy that is unique to each experience. Have a lovely year!

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    1. Oh, I so agree with you, Sunita! Whatever I experienced last year, made me want to make some changes in myself and that’s why I chose this word, which, I am sure, will help me feel more at peace with myself and the world!

      You have a lovely year, too! πŸ™‚

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  13. Hugs, Shilpa. I admire how you soldiered on with creating this blog and those wonderful illustrations despite all you went through. You truly demonstrated living with hope and faith.
    I wish you a magical year ahead – may you truly seize the day – and enjoy it to the full. β™₯

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    1. Through all that I went through, Corinne, it was my blog and my art that kept me sane…afloat. It has been one thing I so look forward to, which gives me a sense of purpose in my life! Thank you so much for your warmth and love, Corinne!
      May you too have a peaceful new year!

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