How I keep working on my New Year goals.

Last year was tough, like every other year, but a bit tougher in every possible way. However, after going through all the lows and the rough terrain, I ended up learning a lot.

I learned about life, about how helpful those difficult moments had actually been and how I need to be grateful for all that happened. It changed me, my outlook towards life and my reaction to circumstances good or bad.

Last year taught me to forget about the past and the future and focus ONLY ON THE PRESENT MOMENT–the moment that’s LIFE!

Ergo, my WOTY (Word/Words of the Year):

LIVE IN THE MOMENT

 

Just being physically present in the here and the now makes no sense if you aren’t mentally and emotionally invested in it. To be able to live fully and experience every moment in all its entirety, you need to be living and breathing the moment, focusing on it 100%.  And, that is what I have been attempting since 2019 began.

I won’t say it’s easy, because it is not. We condition ourselves to forever look back at what happened and dream about what we would like to happen. Rarely do we forget the past tense and the future tense and concentrate on the present continuous. So, yes, it’s tough unlearning all that I was used to and learn something new, after all these years.

But, change, as we know, takes time to develop into a habit. It also takes a lot of hard work, patience, and consistency. And, that’s what I have been working at.

There are times when I lose myself in the past, in comparing today with yesterday and how ephemeral Life is. But, after a while, I bring myself back to the present so that I experience well what the moment has brought for me.

HOW LIVING IN THE MOMENT HELPS ME:

Living in the here and the now helps me reduce my anxiety; makes me realize that, what I fear about tomorrow, is just my imagination and how I need to put my imagination to better use than conjuring all sorts of horrid things and ruining the peace I experience at this moment.

Living in the moment helps me focus better on my work–be it writing or art, or helping my nephew with his studies, or even managing my home.

Living in the moment helps me come up with ideas for my blog, topics I can write about or designs/illustrations I can work on.

And, finally, living in the moment helps me enjoy the present that I have, without worrying about the future that’s uncertain and ruing the past that can’t be changed.

It gives me peace of mind and a whole lot of sense about how I need to use my mental capacities for my well-being and my happiness.

 

WORKING ON YOUR NEW YEAR GOALS:

it isn’t easy making your new year resolutions stick. We make goals and sometimes we forget all about them. However, working on at least one of those goals (especially if it’s to do with your health) helps.

It’s just a few days left for September and so many of us must have forgotten about the new year goals. But, doing just one tiny thing will help you get back on track!

  1. In your journal, write down only ONE goal you had decided to work on when the year began.
  2. Next, write down whatever you have been doing as far as following that goal is concerned. For example, if it’s about losing weight or developing a new hobby, then, write down what steps you have taken.
  3. Then, write down when (approximately) you stopped working towards it and the reasons behind doing so.
  4. And, finally, write how you would feel if you could go back to following that goal and how it would affect your life. Decide on a reward for yourself when you complete it.
  5. Now, start working on it, all over again. Make time–even half an hour would do–to work on it. Keep track of your progress on an everyday basis. Note it down in your journal on the same page where you wrote about it.
  6. After a week or 10 days, get an appraisal from yourself, but do it objectively. If you have been following it diligently, reward yourself and watch yourself brimming with joy. If you could not work on it, draw up a schedule and promise to be a little bit strict with yourself till the time you reach your goal!

Try it. it’s all worth it!

Love,

SHILPA…

 

How to work on your NEW YEAR GOALS

 

20 thoughts on “How I keep working on my New Year goals.”

  1. You have managed to synchronise your life with your work and I’m glad you’ve found the key to calmness – living in the moment . Many of us know about this , want do do it but can’t .
    My WOTY is refresh and it is strange how life is unfolding – making me refresh my ideas on life .
    My blog is automatically getting refreshed because of technical constraints .
    So is the choice of WOTY a subliminal message?

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    1. Sunita, I too observed how life makes sure you follow what you aimed for. Last year, I decided on HOPE & FAITH as my WOTY and Life made sure I held on to hope and faith through the storm that I experienced. This year, Life is making sure I actually live in the moment!
      I hope your word REFRESH helps you refresh your life and everything about you. I am sure the Universe made you decide on this particular word! 🙂

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  2. Shilpa, I chose Calm as my woty. From the moment I chose it,(since December last week)) I am going through thunderstorms in my life. I really thought I had chosen something wrong and thought I must have chosen survive, but truly, Calming down has helped me let go of many things that would have otherwise ruined my sanity.

    What you have written here is how most of us feel. Though, I have untied some past knots and freed myself, I overthink about the uncertain future and worry. It scares me more and I have irrelevant mood swings because of it. I am glad I read this and this makes sense. Just this moment, that is all that matters. All the very best. I love your word and how you’ve been working on it. Hugs.

    Jayanthy
    http://Www.jayanthyg.in

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    1. Jayanthy, as I told Sunita in reply to her comment, yes, Life makes sure you follow what you decide upon. You chose CALM, so Life is making sure you learn to stay calm during the thunderstorms that you face. Life IS the best teacher we have, and a real task master, too!

      Hugs, my dear! Show Life how strong you are!

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  3. I am happy to read you are in sync with your goals and WOTY. You are doing great in terms of living in the moment. Going back and forth visiting the past and foreseeing the future is inevitable but the crucial part is pulling ourselves back into the present and focus on what was once the future and will become past in no time. Wish you loads and loads of writing, blogging, sponsored posts, freelance work and artwork but without burning yourself 🙂
    Ab meri kahani –
    My WOTY is Breathe to get a grip on my anxiety. Barring a 2 week episode, I have been doing fine on the breathe aspect so far. Yesterday, to my surprise in a long long time, I woke up in the morning without any anxiety of having to rush with the housework and blogs reading so as to leave for school in the afternoon. Infact, I looked forward to going to school yesterday and was happy about it. Kuch to accha kar rahi hongi.
    As for the goals – I am going good with my book reviews and the moment I exhaust reviewing books received from publishers and authors, I get a new one. Dukaan sahi chal rahi hai abhi tak. There is one more goal which I will talk about in the later part of the year.
    Now for the laughs – One day, while we were in India, D came back from school and his question was “Does present always has to be tensed?” “No, but why are you asking?” I asked. He told me his English teacher taught the class Present Tense that day. Bachpan main padti thi magazines ‘Sarita’ aur ‘Manorama’. Unke jokes yaad aa jate hain uski baatein sunkar 😀 😀

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    1. Kids do talk some real serious stuff sometimes, don’t they? ;P

      I am so happy for you, Anu, that you are working towards your goals. Keep going, and soon you will become too busy working to be worrying!That’s something my mum tells me always. To keep yourself so busy that your mind has no idle time to allow the Devil any place for his workshop there!

      Waiting to hear about the other goal. ❤

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  4. Ohhh the valuable lessons life teaches us in some of the hardest moments.. ❤️ Such a beautifully written post! Also very inspiring! Thank you so much for sharing!!

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  5. It’s good to hear you’re still going great with your WOTY. I do think it’s a good reminder and yes, while not always easy, it’s definitely a nice way to steer our path. My intentions were to live courageously, make a difference and pay attention. I’m definitely doing the first two but the third is definitely struggling – maybe if I’d been a bit more mindful to my stress levels, I wouldn’t be struggling with physical health symptoms resulting from stress currently. Oh well, two out of three isn’t too bad! 😀

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    1. No, Sanch, 2 out of 3 isn’t bad at all! You are doing fine.
      I, too, slip off the track sometimes. There are somethings I fail to achieve, but then I am human, so I need to forgive myself for those minor failures.

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    1. Awww, Shalzz! SO sorry to hear that, dear! Hugs!
      But, this is just the 3rd month of 2019, so let’s hope that the coming months bring happiness and peace with them in your life! ❤

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  6. I think we learn some of our biggest lessons during times of adversity. I really admire your patience and perseverance in working towards your goals. Living in the present continuous isn’t the easiest thing, yet it’s the way to true happiness.

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