O – Why you must observe your thoughts. #AtoZChallenge

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One of the most important things my doctor told me during a counseling session, was to “observe my thoughts”.  

As someone suffering from anxiety for so many years now, I realized how I would be filled with self-doubt, with words that wrecked my self-esteem and drove away any peace I enjoyed.

Words like, “You are an utter failure,” or, “You are so worthless, what have you done with your life?” haunted me so often. I began to doubt my capabilities. There was also the comparison with others that was going on in my mind, and when I would watch others “getting ahead”, it would only make me more conscious about what a loser I was. “What had I achieved in my life?” 

Don’t we all do that? Telling ourselves that we are no good, that we might never make it in “the race” where others are way ahead and we haven’t even begun? Telling ourselves how we can’t even manage the simplest of tasks by ourselves?

It’s these words full of negativity and slander, that we so need to keep out of our mind. Our mind can, and will, help us, provided we learn to control it. And, observing our thoughts is the first step to controlling our mind and lifting our morale.

Our thoughts become our beliefs and our beliefs show in our actions. 

The way we think about ourselves and our life takes no time to manifest in our actions.

In short, our thoughts become our reality.

Failure is a word we fear. And, the biggest mistake we commit is when we compare ourselves with others. Rarely do we understand that no two people live a similar life; that none of us here is in any race, and that not a single soul is so blessed as to have a “perfect” life.

So, if you find yourself on the receiving end of these barbs through your ‘self-talk’, just order yourself to shut up.



Look yourself in the mirror, look yourself in the eye, and tell yourself, that,

  1. You are NOT a failure
  2. You are perfect in spite of your imperfections.
  3. You are enough.
  4. You are in no race, whatsoever, and you compete only with yourself.
  5. You can, and will, succeed in whatever you set your mind on.
  6. And,  you are worthy of love and respect.

Observe yourself when any negative thoughts crowd your mind. Observe your breath and you will find your breathing shallow; a sense of unease swallowing you up and a discomfort in your heart.

Our thoughts have that power over us.  They can completely destroy our inner peace, our sense of self-worth and any amount of happiness we experience in Life.

Learn to control your mind by being mindful, every moment.

Practice gratitude, every moment of every day, for every little thing–good or bad–that happens in your Life. You may not know, but there’s so much to your life that makes it beautiful!

Feed your mind good thoughts about yourself and your Life, and then see the difference it makes to your world!






Published by shilpagupte

Do you know the secret to living a happy life? Eat. Pray. Love. Or, watch what you eat, wish well for all and fill your heart with love! That's precisely what I try to do through my blogs: 'Metanoia', the wellness blogazine, and 'Fictionista', my blog for fiction and non-fiction. Welcome to my virtual homes!

10 thoughts on “O – Why you must observe your thoughts. #AtoZChallenge

  1. I have 3 daughters whom I love dearly. One thing that I have done to help keep away my negative self-talk is to ask myself how I would feel if one of my daughters told herself the kinds of things I think about myself. I would be heartbroken and I would do whatever it took to help her know that those negative thoughts are lies. I am a daughter, as well. I have a creator, and He certainly wouldn’t want me to think these things. It’s a battle every day. This has helped. N is for: Let Go of What’s Not Needed

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    1. I loved the words you used for inspiring yourself to think good thoughts, Heather! How true! Our Creator would feel so hurt if we thought unkindly of ourselves..we are after all His creations, how can we be inadequate?


  2. Mindful thinking that has such strong impact on how we behave. You know this is so true in my case. When you condition your mind to keep thinking about something good, it will happen sometime or the other. Brilliant post.


    1. True, Rachna.
      Keeping a tab on our thoughts will definitely help us lead happier and more productive lives.

      So sorry for this very late reply, dear! I completely missed it. ❤


  3. Well said, Shilpa! It’s always a race for most people. It’s important to realize that each one of us has a different path. And of course, as the popular quote goes: You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection’ Self love. 🙂

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    1. Yes, Vidya…’self-love’ is what we lack. We so need to put ourselves right on top of our priority lists…at least when we need it the most..and keep encouraging ourselves to just live life happily and peacefully. Do away the negative thinking completely. 🙂

      Apologies for the late late reply, dear Vidya! ❤

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