Life is the best teacher

A lot can happen in six months!

Six months into 2019 and I have come to believe that...a lot can happen in six months! Heck, a lot can happen in six seconds!

Since the last year, I began a new practice. As I begin each day, I take a few minutes to reminisce about the year that was 2018; to reflect upon the uncertain nature of Life and how the Universe looks after us when we are caught in the worst of the storms. I then send my prayers of gratitude for all that Father Time has taught me, through happy moments, and sad, through good times and the not-so-good ones, too.

Each day, when I look at the calendar, I wonder how time flies! It’s six months already; it feels like just yesterday that I welcomed the New Year! But, isn’t that the characteristic feature of Time–to keep moving ahead? And, it’s what we ought to do, too.

These past six months have been good to me–personally, professionally, mentally and emotionally. If I were to view these six months through the eyes of my former self, I would have noticed only the difficulties, the heartbreaks, the tough moments. But, am I glad that Time taught me to do better? So, although these six months had tough moments galore, it’s because of them that I learned so much–about the world, about people, about myself and my strengths and my weaknesses, and about focusing only on the positive.

I am not going to share all the stuff here.  But, for sure I would like to share what I learned from it all.

 

5 THINGS I LEARNED IN THE PAST SIX MONTHS:

FOLLOW YOUR GOALS WITH PASSION AND PERSEVERANCE:

We are born on this planet with a purpose. It’s only with time and experience that we realize what that purpose is. Once you discover your purpose, aim at making it a success. The road will be rough, and full of uncertainties, but keep going. Follow Father Time–the way He waits for none and keeps following His path!

Do whatever you do with passion and perseverance. Work hard, work relentlessly, coz success doesn’t come overnight. Success doesn’t come to those who keep waiting; success comes to those who keep working towards finding joy in every moment of their struggle.

So, enjoy the ride, however bumpy it might be. This joy that you experience is what you will come to consider your success!

 

F**K THE NUMBER GAME:

And, I mean the numbers we are so desperate to see increasing every day–the number of Likes, followers, steps walked, calories burnt, traffic to our blogs…uff!

It’s really a never-ending battle of the nerves, you know? There will always be someone way ahead of us; we can’t be ruing this for life, can we? We stand to achieve nothing but heartache and a bad mood despite doing better than we were doing in the past.

So, if you want to compare yourself, compare your present self with your past self, and certainly not over numbers, but over how far you have come from when you began, or how much you have improved in your craft.

Bottom line:  Success is never measured in numbers, but by how much you learned in your journey to where you are at the moment. 

 

LEARN TO BE SELF-RELIANT:

For the past few years, I have been working on becoming self-reliant, emotionally independent. It’s not easy, at all. But, it’s something that empowers you. It’s really liberating knowing that you can take care of your emotional needs, that you don’t need people to solve some of your problems for you and that you are happy in your own company.

It’s only YOU who will live with you for the rest of your life. People are just walking in and out of your life–no one stays by your side forever. Doesn’t it make sense, then, to be your own best friend?

 

INVEST YOUR EMOTIONS WISELY:

For the same reason that people leave after a while, and you are left with a broken heart and a wounded soul. Why complicate life when you can keep it simple? Love people with all your heart, but, maintain some distance, for your own sake. Love yourself a little bit more than you love others.

The way we make financial investments after a lot of deliberation, so should we invest our emotions, too. Again, it’s not as easy, especially if you are a sentimental fool like yours truly. But, keep trying.

 

EMBRACE WHATEVER COMES YOUR WAY:

Easier said than done, but something we do need to learn! I could very well have written “Expect nothing from anyone, least of all, from Life” in brackets!

But, isn’t it sensible to accept rather than expect?

Note: Less of heartache, more of enlightenment if you follow this adage!

 

So, these are the few lessons I learned in the past six months. At times, these lessons seem a bit too much to take, but when I reflect upon them, I feel my heart healing and my head realizing how it needs to smarten up. You will realize it, too, if you reflect on these words instead of wondering what Shilpa is trying to hide behind these ‘deep’ sounding words! LOL!

Psst…I am also trying to work on my sense of humor these days, which sucks, by the way, *wink wink*

 

There are also some things I am grateful for, that happened in these past six months.

Metanoia was selected in the 9th edition of the Indian Top Blogs directory. I least expected any such thing, so it was a lovely surprise. This only goes to show why we must not bother about the numbers!

I will always be grateful to a few of my blogger friends for all that they taught me and helped me within my blogging-related work. I am not naming names, for they know who they are. I just love them, tremendously!

I am also grateful for a handful of friends (bloggers and non-bloggers) with whom I have been making an effort to stay connected (as per my New Year Goals). WIth them, I can be myself. I speak whatever comes to my mind, and I don’t feel the need to use a ‘filter’ when I talk to them. It’s such a HUGE relief! Being diplomatic all the time takes up a hell lot of energy, and such friends, who let you be you, are a blessing, you know!

 

Umm…that’s all. 🙂

Now, waiting for the next six months to teach me some more valuable lessons and bring some more happy moments my way.

What about you? How were your first six months of 2019?

 

Love,

SHILPA…

 

A LOT CAN HAPPEN IN SIX MONTHS!

 

This post is part of a blogathon where a group of us bloggers write together, read and share each other’s posts and, generally, have a good time blogging! I received this tag from Esha M. Dutta, and I am passing it on to Ishieta Chopra.

 

 

 

49 thoughts on “A lot can happen in six months!”

    1. Thank you so much, Corinne! It means so much to me!
      Apologies for replying to your comment so late! But, somehow, I do remember replying, but now can’t find my reply anywhere!

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  1. For sure you’ve learnt a lot dear. I find a distinct change in your writing and your niche as well. It won’t be long before you become a TED speaker. And believe me very often my words said in jest come true.

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  2. I wish there were separate ‘like’ buttons for separate life lessons here and I would have pressed them all. Accept is far better than (to or not to) expect – my learning for the day 🙂 Par dil to bachha hai ji, thoda kachha hai ji.
    “Mummy, Shilpa aunty ne F-word use kiya,” he would have said with a hawww if he were to be here right now. But since he is not here, I can say Shilpa aunty ne sahi context main F-word use kiya hai 😀 There is enough evidence prevalent now that chasing numbers leads to burn out.
    Keep being the awesome person you are 🙂

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    1. OMG! I didn’t reply to your comment!!
      Apologies, Anu!
      I know, expectations are such a thing, it’s difficult becoming so strong as to not get swayed by these.
      F word sahi context mein use kiya…thank you! 😛
      And, thanks for the last line! I don’t hear that as often as I would like to. ❤

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  3. Did you just use the ‘F’ word?? I’m so proud of you 😀

    My six months have been hectic and passed like six minutes, but not without leaving behind a trail of lessons.

    Wishing you an awesome rest of the year too, Shilpa. Kick some ass, girl! Hugs!

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    1. Hahha…yes, I did, Soumya! And every time i use it, it feels so liberating!! 😀😀😀

      Yes, all the shit that happens everyday teaches us such precious lessons! Aren’t we lucky we go through such shit?! 😀😀😀

      You too have a fab six months and kick some ass, Soumya!!

      Lots of love!

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    2. Trying under Soumya’s comment for ….. Did you just say the F word? I am proud of your too 😊. But frankly, leave the numbers behind and do what you want to do.

      The six months have brought you andegree of satisfaction. Enjoy the moment and look forward to a even better one ahead.

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      1. That’s just what I am doing, Ramya…enjoying every moment and looking forward for better ones..although, I try not to expect much 😛

        Thank you so much!

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  4. hello beautiful..this is again another beautiful post from you. I stopped chasing the number game and even almost quit social media as it was becoming too overwhelming for me. I agree that more than numbers we should focus on the lessons..but yeh dil hai ki maanta nahi and always scrolls up and down to check mereko kitne likes mile aur usko kitne likes mile.Am back to blogging and would visit you regularly..love and hugs

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  5. Whenever I am going to feel low, I am going to be visiting your blog and reading this 5 mantras again and again. It’s just what I needed to read even if I know all of it.

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  6. And I was wondering why I was suddenly seeing so many 6 month roundups. 🙂 Blogathon right? So those are some very sensible lessons. Difficult but sensible. For me six months have been quite a revelation. I have managed a lot in terms of transformation of my attitude, achievement of certain goals and spending time with close family and friends.

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    1. I always wonder why the hell didn’t I get this realisation earlier! Life would have been better, na? Or, I would have handled life better! 😛
      I guess, that’s how things are supposed to be–we are supposed to understand and realise things every step of the way and become better versions of ourselves..slowly and steadily.

      Thank you for sharing about your past six months and how they transformed you, dear Rachna! ❤

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  7. I am so happy to see you evolve over these past few months, Shilpa. You are truly rocking it!
    The life lessons that you have shared, resonate with me, completely, especially the last one… yes, embrace whatever comes your way! That’s a great attitude to have and that changes everything. Wishing that the remaining 6 months of 2019 are enriching and exciting in every way! Cheers!

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    1. The attitude of embracing and accepting everything does change a lot, Shilp. It’s what I realise each time things don’t go my way. Just look at the golden lining and you will know how lucky you are that some things don’t work out for you!

      Thank you so much, dear friend! ❤

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  8. I am so very happy for you and for all the lessons, especially the one about numbers 🙂 As bloggers it can be quite a comparison game. Good to know it doesn’t mess with your head anymore. Here’s to a great rest of 2019 🙂

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    1. It did take me a lot of time to realise the futility of it all, Shy. Caring about numbers was taking away from the joy of blogging, writing and creating. These days, I don’t bother checking how many visited the blog, or how many followers I have on Pinterest or Instagram. Those numbers don’t decide how well I perform. I decide how well I perform as compared to what I did earlier, right?
      Thank you for everything you taught me, and continue teaching me, dear Shy!

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  9. First of all, congratulations on the success of your blog. I just adore your doodles. Each one tells a story.
    You’ve learnt some powerful lessons in the last few months. I need apply them to my life as well. Thank you for such an inspiring post.

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  10. You are a subtle observer and a quick learner, Shilpa. Agree you to the core when you say that a lot can happen in six months, or just in six seconds.
    Being with friends with whom there is no need of filters or facades is a blessings. Its good that you keep in touch with them regularly. This practise had helped me as well.
    Wishing you a peaceful progressive year ahead.

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  11. I absolutely loved the post. Two things that resonated with me where being self reliant and being wise about emotions. I haven’t said this out loud but exactly two things I need to work on. I am too emotional. I loved that you shared these lessons and for sure I needed to hear this. Thank you and wishing you happy rest of the year.

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  12. Shilpa, I admit, I often wonder what the purpose of my life is. I feel I haven’t realized it yet. Sometimes, when I feel low and futile about my existence I recall the wise words of the saint of Arunachala “You cannot do what is not destined to happen; neither can you be inert when you are destined to act.” You speak the same words of wisdom. Only a person of great strength of character can love with all her heart and yet be detached! Just loved your post and your honest expression.

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    1. Madhavi, we all go through this phase of wondering what’s the purpose of our life! And, most often we don’t even come to a conclusion 🙂
      The Universe helped me realise mine, as I am sure it helps everyone else. It’s just like what the quote says…you can not be inert when you are destined to act.

      And, I believe that the Universe awakens us when the time is right, making us realise what it is that we need to work on.

      Thank you so much for your kind and encouraging words, Madhavi!

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  13. What sensible lessons have you shared here, Shilpa. I told you right, your writings are really beautiful from the time you started with Metanoia. Your passion for writing shines through in each and every post you publish. Numbers, they just there to snatch our peace of mind, aren’t they? It’s hard not to be bothered by numbers when we see others gaining followers and whatnot, but if we work with passion and stay focused on our goals everything will fall in place, without forgoing our sanity that is. Accepting life as it is and being truthful to ourselves will have positive effect on us. I’m glad to share this journey with you, Shilpa. People like you make blogging a beautiful one. ❤️

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    1. It’s with time that I realised how the numbers were taking away my peace of mind, VIni. And, because my blog has now become my identity, I am able to do it with much more passion and dedication than earlier.
      Thank you so very much for your love! ❤

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  14. Your post resonated with me, Shilpa and how! Everything you said in this post reflects my thoughts and emotions and things that I need to work on. Your art and your writing are both getting finer and deeper and since I have been regularly following your journey, I can see how you have been evolving at a very steady pace, through your art and your writing. This is what keeps me inspired every time I visit your blog. I can see the similarity in our thinking about something, but you have the discipline to do many of the things that I plan to do but haven’t got around to doing for ‘n’ number of reasons! I salute your spirit and your dedication to the blog, to art and to the fitness regime that you follow in life! Kuch dedication mujhe bhi udhaar de de na, please!

    Wishing the rest of 2019 brings you moments that you’d love to cherish forever!
    Love and hugs

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    1. Esha, my blog is the only thing in my life that gives me an identity, a sense of purpose and that’s the reason why I am so dedicated to it, so disciplined about seeing my plans through.
      I am sure once you sort out certain things in your Life, you too will be able to dedicate time to your passion 🙂
      Thank you so much, Esha! ❤

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  15. Hey Shilpa, I completely agree with your learnings and follow them religiously. This year I have exited all the social media pods and turned all my concentration towards my blog. And feeling much happy!
    Wish you much luck in the coming years.

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    1. Wow! You are my hero, Geethica! Turning off social media completely takes a lot of guts, and you have it in loads! Bravo to you!
      Wish you lots of luck for the future! ❤

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      1. Actually, not completely but stopped liking and commenting on others as a duty. Also now I post only when it’s actually need and not unnecessarily using my status. Thanks

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